Kuchokera kuzoona mpaka kupusa - sitepe imodzi
Psychology yamakono ya chikhalidwe chaumunthu chazoloŵera kukumba I woona, weniweni, ndikukulitsa, ndikumasula ku kusanjika kwa maudindo akunja ndi masks achilendo kwa umunthu. Pokhapokha pamene munthu ayanjananso ndi iyemwini, amavomereza zozama zamkati ndi zenizeni, mgwirizano, zowona ndi chisangalalo china chamaganizo chimabwera kwa iye.
Izi zimafotokozedwa momveka bwino mu njira ya Gestalt therapy, pomwe mawu ofunikira pogwira ntchito ndi kasitomala nthawi zambiri amakhala:
— Kodi mumamvadi?
- Osalankhula kuchokera m'malingaliro, mverani zomwe zikuchitika mwa inu!
- Imani, dzilowetseni m'malingaliro anu ...
Ndipo zofanana.
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, palibe amene amafunsa kuti umunthu wamkatiwu unachokera kuti komanso mtengo wake ndi wotani. Pamenepa, ndibwino kuiwala zomwe anthu omwe ali nawo pamsonkhano wamaganizo amanena za mapangidwe, kulera ndi kuyanjana kwina ...
Ndimasulira: za chiyani, kuti kamodzi anthu osadziwa amaika zopusa zawo mu moyo wanu za dziko lapansi, inu, anthu, ndi momwe simungathe kukonda zonsezi, adaziyika zonse ndikuziteteza ndi mantha. Poyamba, zinali zachilendo kwa inu monga pissing mu mphika pazifukwa zina, koma zonsezi zinali kalekale, zinali mu ubwana, ndipo inu simukumbukira izo. Pambuyo pake, mudazolowera ndikuyamba kuyitcha "Ine", "malingaliro anga" ndi "zokonda zanga".
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, munauzidwa kuti zonsezi ndi zamtengo wapatali kwambiri, kuti ichi ndi chiyambi chanu komanso kuti muyenera kukhala ndi moyo, choyamba kuvomereza mavuto awa. Chabwino, inu munakhulupirira.
Kodi pali njira zina ziti?
Kudziwonetsera nokha ndi zowona
Maslow adagwiritsa ntchito mawu oti "chisonkhezero chamkati", "mawu amkati" m'nkhani yake, nthawi zina amatchedwanso "chilakolako chenicheni" - koma tanthauzo lake ndilofanana: mverani zomwe mukufunadi. Munthu sangakayikire - nthawi zonse amadziwa yankho lokonzeka, ndipo ngati sakudziwa, ndiye kuti sakudziwa kumvera mawu ake amkati - yekhayo adzakulangizani zomwe mukufunikira!
Mwinanso lingaliro ili ndilomveka, koma kuti izi zikhale zoona, mikhalidwe yambiri iyenera kukwaniritsidwa. Choyamba, mwachisawawa, munthu uyu ayenera kuyesetsa chitukuko ndi kusintha, kachiwiri, ayenera kukhala ndi zilakolako zololera, osati zilakolako zoperekedwa kuchokera kunja, chachitatu, sayenera ulesi ndi kukonda kugwira ntchito, kudziwa udindo wa zochita zake. , ali ndi chidziwitso chochuluka ...
Pogwira ntchito ndi akavalo, nthawi zambiri amanena zomwezo: zichita zokha, chifukwa zikuwoneka bwino. Koma amanena izi kale kwa ambuye ndi kuchita kwakukulu. Ndipo ngati, pafupi ndi kavalo, munthu aliyense akuyamba kuchita zomwe iyeyo akuganiza kuti ndi zolondola, chiwerengero cha kuvulala chidzawonjezeka kwambiri.
Inde, ndizotheka, ngati ndinu munthu - wapamwamba kwambiri ndipo moyo wanu ndi wokongola - ngati muzichita mwanjira yanu, osati monga momwe chilengedwe chimanenera - mwinamwake aliyense adzakhala bwino kuchokera ku izi.
chilengedwe chimati: moyo ndalama. Lipirani pang'ono - chokani! Ndipo mumagwira ntchito - koma osati chifukwa cha ndalama, koma chifukwa, ndipo mumachita Ntchito Yaikulu ndi Yokongola.
Ndipo ngati umunthu wangoyamba kumene kukula kwake, pali malingaliro ochepa anzeru m'mutu, ngakhale pang'ono mu moyo, thupi limakhala laulesi kuposa kumvera ndipo likufuna kuchoka kuntchito nthawi zonse - kodi munthu wotero angafune chiyani? Kusuta, kumwa, kuluma… Kodi ndi zomveka bwanji kuti munthu woteroyo amve mawu ake amkati? Inde, choyamba ayenera kudziika yekha m'dongosolo: phunzirani kugwira ntchito ndikukula, kukhala okonzeka, kuzolowera kukhala ndi khalidwe lapamwamba, ndipo pamene chizoloŵezi choterocho chakhala chozoloŵereka - ndi pamene - ndiye kuti mukhoza kuyang'ana zenizenizo. ndi zabwino zomwe zili mwa munthu.