Libertinism ndimachitidwe ogonana omwe amatengera lingaliro la ufulu ndi kudalirana. Amalola, mwa awiriwo, kugonana ndi anzawo, osafunsana. Kodi kukhala libertine ndi chiyani kuti muyike pachibwenzi chanu?

Mawu oti "libertine" amatanthauzira munthu yemwe amakhala mwaufulu, osalemekeza zomwe zikugwira ntchito mdera. Lero, tanthauzo limatanthawuza za moyo wamkati mwa banjali womwe umakhala pakupanga zosangalatsa zakuthupi ndi ufulu womwe umaganiziridwa, zomwe zimakayikitsa lingaliro lokhala ndi mkazi mmodzi.

Zowonadi, libertine amalola kuti azigonana ndi anthu ena kupatula omwe amakhala pachibwenzi nawo. Mchitidwewu umakhudza amuna ndi akazi, a mibadwo yonse ndi mbiri.

Libertinism ndiyosiyana ndi kusakhulupirika, popeza pano zogonana kunja kwa awiriwa zimadziwika ndi mnzake. Mabanja aku Libertine amawona maulendowa monga agwirizana komanso ofanana ndi chisangalalo chakugonana ndikukwaniritsidwa, osawononga banja lawo. 

Mwa banja la libertine, lingaliro lakukhulupirika limaganiziridwa mwanjira ina kusiyana ndi okwatirana okhaokha. Tikamapereka izi kwa wokondedwa wathu, si nkhani yowauza kuti sitikufunanso, koma m'malo mwake tili ndi chidaliro chokwanira pachibwenzi chathu komanso momwe akumvera kuti athe kuwapatsanso zatsopano. zokumana nazo.

Chifukwa chake, libertinism imalimbikitsa kukhulupirika kwakukulu: munthu yemwe tili naye pachibwenzi sasintha, ndipo timakhalabe okhulupirika kwa banjali. Mabanja a libertine amalekanitsa kugonana, ndipo amaganiza kuti zogonana kunja kwa banja ndizosangalatsa, zosangalatsa zakomwe anzawo amapatsana. Komabe, ubale wawo umakhalabe wofunikira ndipo mkati mwake mumakhala chikondi ndi chidwi.

Libertinism ndichizolowezi chomwe chiyenera kufunidwa ndi onse awiri. Ndi njira ina yogwirira ntchito m'banjamo, yomwe imayenera kuganiziridwa bwino isanakhazikitsidwe. Ngati mukufuna kukumana ndi mnzanu, yambani kuwauza chifukwa chake mukufuna kudziwa izi ndi anthu ena. Khazikitsani zokambirana kuti muwone ngati mnzanu ali ndi chidwi kapena ayi.

Libertinism itha kuchitidwa m'malo osiyanasiyana. Pali mwachitsanzo makalabu kapena mipiringidzo yomwe makamaka imachitika, pomwe munthu amatha kukumana ndi ma libertine mabanja. Kukhazikitsa kwamtunduwu nthawi zambiri kumasankhidwa, ndipo muyenera kukhala mamembala kuti mupeze izi. Mutha kupita kumeneko osatenga nawo gawo kuti mungowonera, ndikuwona ngati izi zikuyenera.

Palinso mapulogalamu ndi mawebusayiti omwe amalumikizana ndi ma libertine. Pomaliza, musaiwale kudziteteza mukamagonana ndi anthu omwe simukudziwa zowunika. 

Libertinism, popeza imalola poyera abwenzi kuti azicheza ndi anthu ena, ikhoza kukhala njira yothetsera nsanje. Zowonadi, banja la libertine limamvera malamulo, ndipo kudalira ndikofunikira. Abwenzi amauzana chilichonse chokhudza zomwe agonana, palibe chobisalira kapena chinsinsi. Chifukwa chake, zimathetsa kusamvana komanso kupsa mtima kwa nsanje komwe kungapangitse kulingalira za ubale wina wowonjezera: apa, chilichonse chimanenedwa masana.

Komabe, libertinism sichotheka aliyense. Anthu ena sangayime akudziwa kuti wokondedwa wawo akhoza kugonana ndi munthu wina. Poterepa, nsanje ikadakulirakulira chifukwa chantchito yatsopanoyi. 

Swinging ndichizolowezi chogonana chomwe chimafanana ndi libertinism komanso chomwe chimachitika pakati pa maanja awiri, ngakhale atakhala kuti amagonana. Cholinga ndikuti "kusinthana" okwatirana ndi awiriwo, nthawi yogonana. Izi zitha kuchitika mchipinda chimodzi, momwe okondana amatha kuwonana: izi zimatchedwa voyeurism. Kuthamanga kumakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi zatsopano komanso kuti muphatikize zachilendo zogonana za banja lanu.

Mchitidwewu, monga kuchita zachiwerewere, umafunikira chidaliro chonse kwa banja lanu komanso mnzanu. Zimafunikanso kukhala omasuka ndi banja linalo, kuti pasakhale zovuta zina panthawi yogonana. Okondedwawo ayenera kuvomereza kwathunthu, ndipo mawu olondera ndi ufulu: lingaliro ndikusangalala ndikudziwa kuti mnzakeyo akusangalalanso.