Big bang: momwe mungaphunzire kuti musaphike pazifukwa zilizonse

Nkhawa, kupsa mtima, kupsa mtima, kupsa mtima, mantha - pamene maganizowa aphulika, tikhoza kuyamba kukuwa ndi kukalipira omwe ali pafupi nafe. Timavutika maganizo kwambiri, ndipo achibale athu amakhumudwa kwambiri.

Zimachitika mosiyana: timalepheretsa kutengeka mtima ndikuwoneka ngati "kuwira" kuchokera mkati. Zoonadi, ena amakonda kwambiri khalidwe lathu, koma kwa ife, mtengo wakukhala ndi maganizo ndi wokwera kwambiri. Kuwira nthawi zambiri limodzi ndi psychosomatic zimachitikira: maso mdima ndi mkwiyo, miyendo dzanzi, osalankhula mkwiyo asandulika zilonda zapakhosi, kupsa mtima mu mutu mutu, ndi repressed nkhawa ndi mantha timayambitsa jamming kapena matenda ena kudya.

Kodi "kutentha" kwamalingaliro kumachitika bwanji?

1. Lumikizananitu

Kodi mumakonda kukwiya, kuwira ndi kuphulika nthawi zambiri? Choyamba, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa matendawa, kuphunzira zochitika ndi zomwe zimayambitsa kuwira. Mwachitsanzo, kukhoza kukhala kumverera kopanda chilungamo pamene wina wakulakwiridwa pamaso panu. Kapena - kudabwa ndi kukwiya chifukwa mudanamizidwa mopanda chilungamo: mwachitsanzo, adadula bonasi ya Chaka Chatsopano, yomwe mwapanga kale. Kapena - kuphwanya malire, pamene achibale anu onse akufuna kubwera kwa inu ku maholide, omwe mudzayenera kuyeretsa maholide onse.

Ndikoyenera kuphunzira mosamalitsa zochitika zonse zomwe zisanachitike kuphulika kwa malingaliro oyipa, ndipo ngati nkotheka pewani. Lankhulani ndi achibale za mikhalidwe ya msonkhano yomwe ili yabwino kwa inu, ndipo ngati sizingatheke, onjezerani mtunda. Dziwani pasadakhale ku dipatimenti yowerengera ndalama zamalipirowo kuti mupewe zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa.

Mutha kusintha nthawi zonse, ngati sizili choncho, ndiye kuti malingaliro anu pa izo, ikani malire, nenani momveka bwino zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi inu, ndikupereka yankho lina.

2. Wowiritsa

Pakadali pano, tili kale ndi vuto ndipo timachitapo kanthu. Nthawi zina timaputa mwadala kuti tithe kutinyenga. Ndikofunikira kuphunzira kuzindikira zinyengo zonyansa zotere. Dzifunseni chifukwa chomwe mnzanuyo akufunikira kuti muwiritse. Kodi phindu lake ndi lotani? Choncho, pa zokambirana za bizinesi, nthawi zina mkangano umakwiyitsidwa mwadala kotero kuti interlocutor amapereka chidziwitso chofunikira pamalingaliro, ndiyeno amavomereza kuti apulumutse nkhope.

Mu maubwenzi apamtima, zimachitika kuti wokondedwayo amatikakamiza kuti tizichita masewera ake. Mwachitsanzo, mwamuna amaputa mtsikana. Anayamba kulira, ndipo iye anati: “Nonse ndinu ofanana, ndinu ofanana ndi enawo, ndinadziwa.” Mtsikanayo amalowa nawo masewerawa, amayamba kulumbira mwachikondi, kutsimikizira kuti "si choncho", pamene chifukwa cha misozi chimakhala "kumbuyo".

Pozindikira phindu la interlocutor, yesetsani kuchepetsa. Dzifunseni kuti ndi chiyani chomwe chili chabwino kuchita kuti musagwirizane ndi zomwe mumakonda.

3. Kuphulika

Panopa, palibe chimene tingachite koma kungochoka m’mavutowo. Pakukhudzidwa ndi kuphulika, ndikofunikira kuzindikira yemwe ali pafupi ndi ife.

Tsoka ilo, ambiri aife timakonda kulolera komanso osalankhula zakukhosi kwa omwe amawawuza, monga abwana kapena ochita nawo bizinesi. Timabweretsa zomverera izi kunyumba ndikuzitsanulira pa okondedwa athu, kwa omwe amatikonda, ndipo nthawi zina ngakhale ofooka ndipo sangathe kuyankha. Choncho, amayi amakalipira ana awo ngati linali tsiku loipa kuntchito, pamene iwo eniwo amalimbana ndi nkhanza zochokera kwa amuna amene abwana awo sakuwazindikira.

Ngati mukuwona kuti mwatsala pang'ono kuphulika, yang'anani mdani woyenera, munthu amene angapirire zomwe mukuchita.

Mwachitsanzo, wamkulu wachiwiri. Komanso, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe mukufuna. Kutuluka kuti muchepetse nkhawa? Kenaka pezani njira ina yotulutsira - mwachitsanzo, pitani ku masewera olimbitsa thupi. Momwe mungatulukire muzochitikazo zimatengera luso lanu lodzimvetsetsa nokha ndikuwongolera momwe mukumvera.

4. Kutsika kwa malingaliro

Mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo zimaloŵedwa m’malo ndi manyazi ndi kudziimba mlandu. Samalani nawo. Zowonadi, owongolera amakhalidwewa amatithandiza kumvetsetsa momwe tingalankhulire bwino ndi anthu. Koma ndikofunikira kuti musataye chifukwa chowira, chifukwa ndiye chinsinsi chakusintha. Soni ndi liwongo limabisa chifukwa chake, timachita manyazi kunena zomwe zidapangitsa kuphulikako, ndipo timayang'ana kwambiri pakuchotsa zotsatira zake. Izi zimathandiza kuti mukhalebe pachibwenzi, koma muyenera kupenda zomwe zidayambitsa mkanganowo ndi zomwe mungachite kuti mupewe kukangana.

Ngati palibe njira zodzitetezera, gawo lowiralo lidzatsatiridwa ndi kuphulika. Chifukwa chake, samalani nokha ndikuphunzira kuthana ndi vutolo, poganizira zomwe zimakusangalatsani.