Yulia wazaka 39, mayi wa Nikita wazaka 17, wochenjera, wokongola komanso wophunzira ku Moscow State University, adamuuza nkhani ya Tsiku la Akazi. Zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zapitazo, heroine wathu adasudzula mwamuna wake ndikulera mwana wake wamwamuna yekha.
Nditatsala ndekha ndi mwana zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri zapitazo, poyamba zonse zinali zabwino. Izi zimachitika mtendere ukamabwera mnyumbamo. Mwana wanga wamwamuna anali ndi zaka khumi zokha, ndipo anali akuyembekezera chisudzulo chimodzimodzi ndi changa, chifukwa mwamuna wanga anali wankhanza wankhanza - zonse zili m'manja mwake, zonse zili momwe angafunire, palibe malingaliro ena olondola . Ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala wolondola, ngakhale atalakwitsa, akunena zowona. Ndizovuta kuti aliyense azikhala ndi izi, ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kwa wachinyamata munyengo ya "kupanduka kwakanthawi". Koma ndikadapirira mopitilira - chimodzimodzi, moyo wabwino komanso wadongosolo. Koma udzu womaliza kwa ine unali kukonda kwake mlembi, zomwe ndidazindikira mwangozi.
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, nthawi yomweyo ndidazindikira kuti ndidachita zonse bwino. Mwana wanga wamwamuna Nikita sanathenso kuchita chidwi ndi mayitanidwewo, tinayamba kucheza nthawi yayitali limodzi: tinkaphika pizza, tinapita ku kanema, tinkatsitsa makanema ndikuwayang'ana, kukumbatirana mchipindacho. Adandisisita tsaya ndipo adati mkalasi mwawo theka la ana amakula opanda abambo, kuti ndidzakumana ndi munthu wabwino…
Ndipo mavuto anga oyamba adayamba kuchokera pagulu lotchedwa "Divorce", lomwe lidakhudza kwambiri mwana wanga wamwamuna.
Chitani chimodzi. Nthawi zonse ndakhala ndikusunga banja ngati banja lathunthu. Chifukwa chake, ndinayesa kupita kukacheza komwe kuli abambo abwino. Ichi ndi chitsanzo cha mwana wamwamuna: ayenera kuwona zofunikira zamabanja, kuphunzira miyambo, kutenga nawo gawo pantchito ya amuna. Ndipo tsiku lina, nditafika ku dacha kwa anzanga, ndidazindikira kuti mnzake wakusukulu samandiyankha. Mwana wanga wamwamuna ndi mnzake Serezha adathandizira abambo ake kudula nkhuni, ndidayima pafupi, ndikudandaula za moto womwe udayakira. Tsikuli linali labwino kwambiri. Kenako ndinafunsidwa funso: "Yul, bwanji ukupukuta ndi amuna nthawi zonse? Amuna anga safuna thandizo. Chifukwa cha ichi ndine! ”Ndinanjenjemera ngakhale pang'ono. Nsanje. Tinadziwana kwazaka makumi awiri, ndipo panali wina yemwe anali mwaulemu wanga, koma sanakayikire. Umu ndi m'mene ubwenzi wathu unathera.
Ntchito yachiwiri. Ndiye zinali zosangalatsa kwambiri. Kwa zaka zambiri tili m'banja, ine ndi mwamuna wanga takhala tikugwirizana. Pambuyo pa chisudzulo chathu, kuyeretsa kunayamba. Koma sindinayeretse - adandichotsera m'mabuku olembedwera ndi omwe amakonda kumwetulira ndikuyitanitsa tsiku langa lobadwa. Ena amandithandizira wakale wanga ndi mkazi wake watsopano, ndipo amkandilola kulowa m'nyumba mwawo pokhapokha ngati sanachezere. Izi zikuwonekeratu. Koma sindinkafunika kuyitanidwa koteroko. Ndinakumana ndi kuti okwatirana ambiri amandikonda ndikulira. Koma m'modzi… Inde, ndimawoneka bwino, wachinyamata, wodzikongoletsa bwino, wodekha. Koma sindimayembekezera nsanje. Sindinapereke zifukwa ndipo sindinathamangire kukayankha chibwenzi cha amuna ena. Zinali zamanyazi. Ndidalira. Ndidasowa maulendo aphokoso akumisasa, maulendo olumikizana kunja.
Kotero kusungulumwa kunabwera. Ndasunthira chikondi changa chonse, kutentha kwanga komanso chidwi changa kwa Nikita.
Chaka chotsatira, ndidapeza mwana wamwamuna wakhanda wamwamuna wakhanda, yemwe samatha kuchita homuweki yekha, adagona pakama panga, ndikuyamba kudandaula kuti sitingagule kena kalikonse… Kodi ndachita chiyani? Zinkawoneka kuti ndimamupangira zinthu zabwino mnyamatayo. M'malo mwake, miyezi yonse iyi ya 11 ndidadzipulumutsa ku nkhawa. Ananyamula mapewa ake zonse zomwe mwana wanga amakhoza kuchita yekha. Ndidabowola mabowo mu moyo wanga, kotero ndidagunda pamtima panga. Koma zabwino, ubongo ndi kumvetsetsa kwa moyo zidagwera mwachangu.
Ndinakwanitsa kupanga ndekha malamulo asanu olerera mwana wanga ndekha.
choyambazomwe ndidayankhula ndekha: bambo akukula mnyumba mwanga!
Chachiwiri: nanga bwanji ngati banja lathu ndi laling'ono ndipo kulibe bambo. Nkhondo itatha, mwana aliyense wachiwiri analibe bambo. Ndipo amayi adalera amuna oyenerera.
Chachitatu: sitimakhala pachilumba chachipululu. Tiyeni tipeze chitsanzo chachimuna!
chachinayi: tokha tidzapanga gulu la anzathu abwino!
Chachisanu: Nthawi zina zimakhala zoyipa zachimuna m'banja zomwe zimakulepheretsani kukhala mwamuna weniweni. Kusudzulana si tsoka.
Koma kupangira ndi chinthu chimodzi. Zinali zofunikira, mwa chozizwitsa china, kutsatira malamulowa. Ndiyeno mavuto anayamba. Mwana wanga wamwamuna wamakhalidwe omasuka, wokondedwa adadabwa kwambiri ndikusinthaku. M'malo mwake, anakana. Ndinapondereza chifundo, ndikulira ndikufuula kuti sindimukondanso.
Ndinayamba kumenya nkhondo.
Choyamba, ndinapanga ndandanda ya ntchito zapakhomo. Ichi ndi chinthu chofunikira pakulera mwana wamwamuna. Si mayi amene amalumpha mozungulira mwanayo, koma mwanayo ayenera kufunsa zomwe ziyenera kuchitidwa. Apa ndikofunikira kusewera pang'ono. Ngati ndimatha chaka chonse ndikugula m'misika yayikulu ndikunyamula matumba akulu awiri kunyumba, tsopano maulendo opita ku sitolo anali olumikizana. Nikita adafuula ngati mphepo yakumpoto ikuwomba ngalawa za asodzi. Ndinali wodekha. Ndipo nthawi zonse amabwereza kuti: "Mwana wanga, ndikadatani popanda iwe! Ndiwe wamphamvu bwanji! Tsopano tili ndi mbatata zambiri. ”Iye anali wolimba. Sanakonde kugula. Koma mwachiwonekere amadzimva ngati munthu wamba.
Afunsidwa kuti tikumane pakhomo ndikachedwa kuchokera ku ntchito. Inde, ndikanakwanitsa ndekha! Koma ndinati ndinali ndi mantha. Chilichonse chokhudzana ndi galimotoyo, tinkachitira limodzi: tinasintha mawilo pa chosinthira matayala, ndikudzaza mafuta, tinapita ku MOT. Ndipo nthawi zonse amakhala ndi mawu akuti: "Ambuye, ndi zabwino bwanji kuti m'nyumba mwanga muli munthu!"
Anandiphunzitsa momwe ndimasungira ndalama. Pa lachisanu la mwezi uliwonse, tinkakhala pagome lakhitchini tili ndi maenvulopu. Amapereka malipiro ndikupempha ndalama. Nthawi iliyonse ndikafunika kuyimbira foni bambo anga ndikuwakumbutsa. Anayesa kuyimbira mwana wake ndikumufunsa ngati amayi ake amawononga ndalama zake paokha. Kenako ndinamva yankho la bambo weniweni: "Ababa, ndikuganiza kuti ndizomvetsa manyazi kunena izi. Ndiwe mamuna! Ngati amayi adya maswiti awiri pakulipirira kwanu, ndikuuzeni? ”Panalibenso mayitanidwe. Monga abambo amlungu. Koma panali kunyada mwa mwana wanga.
Ma envulopu athu adasaina:
1. Nyumba, intaneti, galimoto.
2. Chakudya.
3. Chipinda cha nyimbo, dziwe losambira, namkungwi.
4. Kunyumba (zotsekemera, shamposi, chakudya cha paka ndi hamster).
5. Ndalama kusukulu.
6. Envelopu yachikaso yazosangalatsa.
Tsopano Nikita adatenga nawo gawo pakupanga bajeti yabanja mofanana. Ndipo amamvetsetsa bwino chifukwa chake envelopu yachikaso inali thinnest. Chifukwa chake mwana wanga adaphunzira kuyamikira ntchito yanga, ndalama, ntchito.
Anandiphunzitsa chifundo. Zinachitika mwachibadwa. Nthawi yomweyo tinapatula ndalama zokomera: makanema, masiku akubadwa a anzathu, sushi, masewera. Koma nthawi zambiri anali mwana wamwamuna yemwe amalimbikitsa kugwiritsa ntchito ndalamazi pazofunikira mwachangu. Mwachitsanzo, gulani nsapato zatsopano: zakale zidang'ambika. Kangapo Nikita adapereka kupereka ndalama kwa iwo omwe akusowa thandizo. Ndipo ndidatsala pang'ono kulira ndichimwemwe. Munthu! Kupatula apo, moto wam'chilimwe udasiya anthu ambiri mdera lathu opanda zinthu komanso nyumba. Nthawi yachiwiri, ndalama kuchokera mu emvulopu yachikaso idapita kukathandiza anthu omwe adasowa pokhala: payipi yamafuta idaphulika m'nyumba yawo. Nikita anatenga mabuku ake, zinthu zake, ndipo tonse tinapita ku sukulu, kumene likulu lothandizira linali. Mnyamata ayenera kuwona chinthu chotere kamodzi!
Izi sizitanthauza kuti tasiya kupita kokaonera mafilimu kapena kudya pizza madzulo. Mwanayo anangodziwa kuti kunali kofunika kuchedwetsa nthawiyo. Ndiyenera kunena kuti sitinkafunikira ndalama ndili pabanja. Ndipo amawerengedwa kuti ali bwino. Koma moyo watsopanowo unatibweretsera zovuta zina. Ndipo tsopano ndikuthokoza kumwamba chifukwa cha izi. Ndipo mwamuna wanga - ngakhale zitha kumveka zachilendo. Tidachita! Inde, zinali zovuta kudziwa kuti iye, kuyiwala kulipira ndalama, adadzigula yekha galimoto yatsopano, adayendetsa azimayi ake kupita ku Bali, Prague kapena Chile. Nikita anawona zithunzi zonsezi pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, ndipo zinandipweteka mwana wanga akulira. Koma ndinayenera kukhala wanzeru. Mwanayo amayenerabe kukhala ndi lingaliro kuti makolo onse amamukonda. Ndikofunika. Ndipo ndidati: “Nikit, abambo amatha ndalama pachilichonse. Amawapeza, ali ndi ufulu. Tidasudzulana, ngakhale mphaka ndi hamster adakhala nafe. Tili awiri - ndife banja. Ndipo ali yekha. Amasungulumwa. "
Ndinapereka gawo la masewera. Ndapeza mphunzitsi. Malinga ndi ndemanga pamisonkhano. Kotero mnyamatayo anayamba kupita ku judo. Chilango, kulumikizana ndi bambo ndi mnzake, mpikisano woyamba. Zabwino zonse komanso zoyipa zonse. Lamba. Mendulo. Makampu amasewera a Chilimwe. Adakula pamaso pathu. Mukudziwa, anyamata amakhala ndi zaka zotere… Zikuwoneka ngati mwana ndipo mwadzidzidzi ndi mnyamata.
Anzathu adadabwa ndikusintha kwamoyo wathu. Mwana wanga wamwamuna anakula, ndipo ine ndinakulira naye. Timapitabe ku chilengedwe, usodzi, dacha, komwe Nikita amalumikizana ndi abambo, amalume ndi agogo aamuna a abwenzi. Anzanu enieni sachita nsanje. Atha kukhala ochepa, koma ndi malo anga achitetezo. Mwana wamwamuna adaphunzira kugwira nsomba ndi nsomba ku Astrakhan. Tinayenda pakampani yayikulu m'mbali mwa phiri, timakhala m'mahema. Adasewera nyimbo za Tsoi ndi Vysotsky pa gitala, ndipo amuna akulu adayimbanso. Anali wofanana. Ndipo iyi inali misozi yanga yachiwiri yachimwemwe. Ndidamupangira malo ochezera, sindinakondane naye ndi chikondi changa chodwala, ndidalimbana nacho munthawi yake. Ndipo chilimwe adapeza ntchito ndi anzanga pakampani. Lingalirolo linali langa, koma sakudziwa za izo. Adabwera ndikufunsa kuti: "Amalume a Lesha ayimbira foni, nditha kumugwirira ntchito?" Miyezi iwiri ilipo. Ngwazi! Ndasunga ndalama zanga.
Mwachilengedwe, panali mavuto ambiri. Achinyamata, anyamata amamenyedwa ndi manja awo. Ndinafunika kuwerenga matani a mabuku, kuyang'ana zochitika pamabwalo, kufunsa. Ndipo chofunikira kwambiri ndikumvetsetsa kuti ana ndi osiyana tsopano. Kubowoleza tebulo sikuyenera iwo. Ndikofunika kupambana ulemu wa mwanayo kuti mwana amve kuti ali ndi udindo kwa amayi ake. Muyenera kutha kukambirana naye - moona mtima, chimodzimodzi.
Amadziwa kuti ndimamukonda. Akudziwa kuti sindikuphwanya malire amdera lake. Amadziwa kuti sindidzamunamiza ndipo ndidzakwaniritsa malonjezo anga. Ndimakupangira, mwana wanga, koma ukutani? Ngati simunandiuze kuti mudzachedwa, ndiye kuti mumandipangitsa mantha. Amakonza - amatsuka nyumba yonse. Inemwini. Kotero akuvomereza kuti akulakwitsa. Ndikuvomera.
Ngati mukufuna kupita ndi mtsikana m'makanema, ndikupatsani theka la ndalamazo. Koma mudzapeza yachiwiri nokha. Nikita pamalopo amagwira ntchito yomasulira nyimbo mu Chirasha. Mwamwayi, pali intaneti.
Malingaliro? Pali. Kodi tikukangana? Zachidziwikire! Koma pamakhala malamulo mukamakangana. Pali ma nos atatu okumbukira:
1. Pokangana, munthu sangayimbe mlandu kuti mwana wamwamuna uja ananena mobisa, vumbulutso.
2. Simungapite mwano, kuyitanira mayina.
3. Simungathe kunena kuti: "Ndayika moyo wanga pa inu. Sindinakwatire chifukwa cha iwe. Mulibe ngongole ndi ine, ndi zina. "
Sindikudziwa ngati zitha kunenedwa kuti ndidakweza bambo ngati ali ndi zaka 17. Ndikuganiza inde. Pa tchuthi, kuyambira m'mawa, maluwa amakhala patebulo langa. Okondedwa anga, powdery. Ngati adalamula sushi, gawo langa lidzadikirira mufiriji. Amatha kuyika jinzi yanga pamakina ochapira, podziwa kuti ndimachokera mumsewu wanyansi. Amandilonjerabe kuchokera kuntchito. Ndipo ndikadwala, ngati mwamuna, amandikuza kuti tiyi watha, ndipo adandisisita ginger ndi mandimu. Nthawi zonse amalola kuti mayiyo apite patsogolo ndikumutsegulira chitseko. Ndipo patsiku lililonse lobadwa amasunga ndalama kuti andigulire mphatso. Mwana wanga. Ndimamukonda. Ngakhale sakonda konse. Amatha kung'ung'udza ndipo nthawi zina amalankhula mosamalitsa ndi mtsikana wake. Koma adandiuza kamodzi kuti ndidalera mwamuna weniweni ndipo adakhala wodekha naye. Ndipo awa anali misozi yachitatu yachisangalalo changa.
PS Mwana wanga ali ndi zaka 14, ndidakumana ndi bambo wina. Ku Moscow, mwangozi pamsonkhano. Tinangoyamba kucheza. Tinkamwa khofi nthawi yopuma. Tinkasinthanirana mafoni. Tinayamikirana pa Chaka Chatsopano, ndipo miyezi isanu ndi umodzi pambuyo pake tidakwera ndege limodzi ku Emirates. Sindinauze mwana wanga wamwamuna za Sasha kwa nthawi yayitali, koma chibwenzi changa sichopusa, nthawi ina adati: "Tandiwonetsani chithunzi!" Nikita adalowa muofesi ya geological ku Moscow State University, momwe amafunira. Ndipo ndidasamukira kumidzi. Ndine wokondwa kuphunziranso za moyo, pomwe pali chikondi, kumvetsetsa komanso kukoma mtima.