Mikangano ndi abwenzi - momwe mungasungire ubwenzi

Tsoka, mosiyana ndi otchulidwa pa sitcom omwe nthawi iliyonse amatha kuthetsa mikangano yonse ndi abwenzi kumapeto kwa gawo la mphindi 30 mothandizidwa ndi luntha ndi nzeru, sitingathe nthawi zonse kuthana ndi mavuto onse muubwenzi ndi chisomo chotere.

M'malo mwake, malingaliro athu, kupenya ndi zochita ndizosiyana. Izi zikutanthauza kuti tikakhala paubwenzi ndi munthu kwa nthawi yayitali, mikangano imakhala yosapeŵeka.

Panthawi yomwe mikangano ikukulirakulira, nthawi zambiri timachita mantha, osadziwa momwe tingachitire: kunyalanyaza vutoli, ndikuyembekeza kuti pamapeto pake lidzatha palokha? kuyesa kukambirana zonse? dikirani muone zomwe zidzachitike?

Amene amakonda kupeŵa mikangano mwachibadwa yesetsani kukhala kutali ndi anzanu pambuyo pa mikangano. Poyamba, izi zingawoneke ngati chisankho choyenera, chifukwa mtunda udzatipulumutsa ku nkhawa kapena kufotokozera kosafunikira kwa ubalewo. Komabe, pokankhira mnzathu kutali, nthawi zambiri timataya ubwenzi wapamtima ndipo, m’kupita kwa nthaŵi, tingathe kutaya ubwenziwo. Osanenapo, kudzikundikira kupsinjika ndi nkhawa ndizoyipa ku thanzi lathu.

Mwamwayi, pali njira zothetsera mikangano popanda kutaya mabwenzi. Nawa ochepa mwa iwo.

1. Kambiranani nkhaniyo mwamsanga pamene nthawi yakwana

Kumayambiriro kwenikweni kwa mkangano, pamene maganizo akuchulukirachulukira, n’kwanzeru kupuma pang’ono polankhulana. Zikuoneka kuti pakali pano inu kapena mnzanu simuli okonzeka kumvetsera ndi kuvomerezana maganizo. Koma kupuma kumeneku sikuyenera kukhala motalika kwambiri.

Pakangotha ​​​​tsiku la mkangano kapena kusamvana muubwenzi, imbani foni kapena tumizani meseji ndikufotokozera m'mawu osavuta zomwe mukupepesa komanso zomwe mungafune: "Pepani pazomwe zidachitika ndipo ndikufuna kukonza zonse", " Ubwenzi wathu ndi wofunikira kwa ine", "Tiyeni tikambirane zonse posachedwa."

2. Sikoyenera kukambirana ndi kuthetsa mavuto onse nthawi imodzi

Nthawi zina zikuwoneka kwa ife kuti tsogolo lonse la maubwenzi athu ochezeka limadalira pa zokambirana zazikulu komanso zovuta. Koma, monga mmene ubwenziwo umakulirakulira pang’onopang’ono, momwemonso kuthetseratu mavuto kumatenga nthaŵi. Nthaŵi zina ndi bwino kukambitsirana vutolo mwachidule, n’kupatula nthaŵi yolilingalira ndi kubwerera kukambitsiranako pambuyo pake. Kuthetsa mavuto pang’onopang’ono n’kwachibadwa.

3. Muzichitira chifundo mnzanuyo

Ngakhale titasemphana maganizo ndi zimene anzathu aona kapena zimene akuganiza, tingayesetse kumvetsa mmene akumvera komanso zimene zawachitikira. Titha kutsata matupi awo pokambirana, kulabadira kamvekedwe ka mawu awo komanso mawonekedwe a nkhope. Yesetsani kuyankha pazizindikiro zilizonse za ululu, kusapeza bwino, kapena mkwiyo (“Ndikumvetsetsa kuti mwakhumudwa, ndipo ndikupepesa kuti mwakhumudwa nazo”).

4. Dziwani kumvetsera

Mvetserani zonse zimene mnzanuyo akunena kwa inu popanda kumuimitsa kapena kumudula mawu. Ngati chinachake m’mawu ake chikukukhumudwitsani, yesetsani kuchiletsa kufikira mutamvetsetsa zonse zimene mnzanu akufuna kukuuzani. Ngati china chake sichikumveka bwino, funsaninso. Yesetsani kupeza zomwe mnzanuyo akuyembekeza kuchokera muzokambiranazi kapena zomwe akufunikira kuti adzimve bwino.

5. Lankhulani momveka bwino komanso mwachidule

Pambuyo panu, osasokoneza, mverani zonse zomwe mukufuna kunena, idzakhala nthawi yanu yogawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi malingaliro anu. Yesetsani kufotokoza maganizo anu momveka bwino komanso momasuka monga momwe mungathere, koma osakhumudwitsa mnzanu.

Choyamba, lankhulani za mmene mukumvera ndi zimene zinakuchitikirani, ndipo musamanene. Pewani mawu ngati "Mumachita izi nthawi zonse" kapena "Simumachita izi", zimangowonjezera vuto ndikusokoneza kuthetsa mikangano.

6. Yesetsani kukhala ndi maganizo osiyana

Sikuti nthawi zonse timavomereza maganizo a anzathu, koma tiyenera kuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu wokhala ndi maganizo osiyana ndi athu. Tiyenera kulemekeza maganizo a anzathu komanso ufulu wawo wotitsutsa. Ngakhale ngati sitigwirizana ndi zonse zimene mnzathuyo akunena, pangakhale chinachake m’mawu ake chimene ndife okonzeka kugwirizana nacho.

Potsirizira pake, pamene mkangano waposachedwa watha monga momwe mungathere panthawiyi, lolani nthawi kuti ubalewo ubwererenso. Pitirizani kuchita zomwe mumakonda kuchita limodzi. Kukhala ndi malingaliro abwino kuchokera kukulankhulana kwaubwenzi pakapita nthawi kumathandizira kuthetsa kusamvana kotsalako.