M’moyo wa munthu aliyense pamakhala nthaŵi zina pamene zolinga zimaoneka ngati sizingatheke, ndipo zoyesayesa zimakhala zopanda phindu. Nthawi yachuma imatha kupitilira tsiku limodzi ndipo imachitika kangapo, nthawi zina kumathetsa zokhumba zonse. Momwe mungathanirane ndi inu nokha? Kodi kutenga sitepe ina? Njira zingapo zosavuta koma zothandiza zidzakuthandizani kuti musataye chikhulupiriro mwa inu nokha.
"Chilichonse chili choyipa ndi ine, ndili kale ndi zaka 25, ndipo palibe chomwe chachitika kwamuyaya", "chaka china chadutsa, ndipo sindinebe mamiliyoni / osati nyenyezi yaku Hollywood / osakwatiwa ndi oligarch / osati a Purezidenti / osati Mphoto ya Nobel." Malingaliro otere amayendera munthu yemwe akukumana ndi vuto, lomwe mu psychology limatchedwa kukhalapo.
Kutalikirana pakati pa zokhumba ndi zenizeni kumawoneka ngati kosatheka. Pamabwera kumverera kuti moyo umakhalira pachabe, osati momwe mumafunira. Chaka ndi chaka, maloto amakhalabe maloto chabe ndipo palibe kusintha kwakukulu komwe kumachitika. Kumva bwino?
Ngakhale kuti zinthu zingaoneke ngati zopanda chiyembekezo, pali njira yothanirana ndi vutoli. Imayesedwa m'munda ndipo imaphatikizapo masitepe anayi okha.
1. Kumbukirani kuti nthawi zoterezi zinachitika kale. Panali kugwa, ndipo pambuyo pawo - kukwera, ndipo inu kupirira. Kotero ili ndi dziko losakhalitsa lomwe lidzadutsa. Ganizirani mmene munachitira kuti mutuluke m’mavuto apitawo, zimene munachita, zimene simunachite. Kutaya mtima sikupha, koma perekani maziko osinkhasinkha - mungatani kuti mupitirire ku cholinga chanu?
2. Fananizani: mudalota chiyani chaka chapitacho, muli ndi chiyani tsopano? Kupambana kwa ena kumawonekera nthawi zonse. Kuchokera kunja zikuwoneka kuti anthu ena amakwaniritsa zonse mofulumira. Chinyengo ndi chophweka: chirichonse chomwe chakuzungulirani chiri pamaso panu, kotero kusintha sikukuwoneka ndipo zikuwoneka kuti palibe kupita patsogolo.
Kuti muwunike bwino zoyesayesa zanu, pezani chithunzi chakale ndikuchiyerekeza ndi zomwe mukuwona pano. Kodi mukukumbukira mmene moyo unalili chaka chapitacho? Ndi mavuto ati omwe mudathetsa, zolinga zomwe mudaziika, munali pamlingo wanji? Mwina kale simunathe kugula batala mkate, koma lero mukudandaula kuti ngale ndi zazing'ono?
Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kukumbukira gawo lanu lakale ndikuyerekeza ndi lomwe lili pano. Kupita patsogolo kulikonse? Ndiye mumalakalaka mutapeza zomwe muli nazo tsopano? Phunzirani kuti musapeputse zomwe mwakwaniritsa.
3. Tangoganizani kuti kupambana kwanu kumawonjezeka kwambiri. Tsiku lililonse, kuchuluka kwa masitepe omwe atengedwa kumachulukitsidwa ndi nambala yokhazikika. Mwachitsanzo, lero muli pa selo 1, mawa 1 × 2, mawa 2 × 2. Ndiyeno - ku selo 8, ndiye - 16, ndipo nthawi yomweyo 32. Chotsatira chilichonse sichifanana ndi chakale. Chotsatira chilichonse chimachulukitsa cham'mbuyo pokhapokha mutasuntha mwadala mbali imodzi. Izi ndizomwe zimakulolani kuti mukwaniritse zotsatira zazikulu, ngakhale pachiyambi panali chimodzi chokha. Chifukwa chake, kukhumudwa kukayambanso kuyambiranso, kumbukirani kuti kupita patsogolo kwa geometric mosakayikira kumabweretsa zotsatira. Chinthu chachikulu sikusiya.
4. Gwiritsani ntchito «masitepe ang'onoang'ono» njira. Kuti tiwone momwe zimagwirira ntchito, choyamba tiyeni tikambirane za mahomoni - dopamine ndi serotonin. Tangoganizani kuti muli pamalo A ndikuyang'ana cholinga chanu chomwe mumachikonda, chomwe chikudikirira pa Z, ndipo pakati pawo pali phompho. Mfundo yomwe ndili kutali kwambiri ndi chiyambi, yosatheka komanso yosatheka, ndipo izi zimayambitsa mphwayi ndi kuvutika maganizo.
Chifukwa chiyani? Chifukwa thupi limakana kupereka mphamvu "zopanda phindu" zochita. "Sizingatheke," ubongo umatero ndikuzimitsa ntchito mbali iyi. Dopamine ndiyomwe imayambitsa kulimbikitsa komanso kuchitapo kanthu m'thupi lathu. Izi ndi zomwe zimatchedwa "hormone yomwe imalonjeza chisangalalo", imabweretsa chisangalalo kuchokera kuyembekezera mphotho, kuchokera ku njira yopita ku cholinga.
Ndi dopamine yomwe imakupangitsani kupita patsogolo, koma ngati kwa nthawi ndithu zochitazo sizibweretsa zotsatira zoonekeratu, cholinga chikadali kutali, serotonin imagwirizanitsidwa. Hormone iyi imatulutsidwa mukalandira mphotho yolonjezedwa. Ngati msewu wopita ku cholingacho umakhala wautali kwambiri, mlingo wa serotonin umatsika, ndipo dopamine imatsika pambuyo pake. Zikuoneka kuti popeza palibe mphotho, palibe chilimbikitso, ndipo mosiyana: palibe chilimbikitso, palibe mphotho.
Mwakhumudwitsidwa: palibe chomwe chidzachitike, ndi nthawi yoti muyime. Zoyenera kuchita?
Phunzirani luso la "masitepe ang'onoang'ono". N'zosavuta kuona kuti pakati poyambira A ndi kopita I pali zilembo zina zambiri zofunika mofanana, mwachitsanzo, B, C ndi G. Aliyense wa iwo ali ndi udindo wa selo yeniyeni. Gawo loyamba latengedwa, ndipo tsopano muli pa B, lachiwiri latengedwa, ndipo muli kale pa G. Ngati simusunga mfundo yosafikirika yomwe ine pamaso panu nthawi zonse, koma ganizirani kwambiri mfundo yapafupi, ndiye mutha kupewa msampha wa dopamine-serotonin.
Ndiye, mutatenga sitepe, mudzakhala pamene mudafuna, ndipo mudzakhutitsidwa. Serotonin imabweretsa mphotho, mumamva chisangalalo cha kupambana, ndipo ubongo umapereka tsogolo la mlingo wotsatira wa dopamine. Zitha kuwoneka zophweka komanso zomveka bwino: pitani pang'onopang'ono, osayenda mtunda wautali. Nanga n’cifukwa ciani ena amapambana pamene ena sangakwanitse? Chowonadi ndi chakuti anthu ambiri amayesa nthawi yomweyo kufika pa mfundo ine, kulumpha zolinga zina zonse zazing'ono panjira yopita ku izo.
Khalani oleza mtima ndipo mudzapambana. Dzitamande chifukwa cha chigonjetso chaching'ono chilichonse, kondwerera kupita patsogolo pang'ono, ndipo kumbukirani kuti zonse ndizotheka, koma osati nthawi yomweyo.