Mwa aliyense wa ife pali mbali zomwe sitiziwona, osavomereza. Ali ndi mphamvu zomwe zingathe kumasulidwa. Koma bwanji ngati tikuchita manyazi ndi mantha kuyang'ana mwakuya mwa ife eni, mu Mthunzi wathu? Tinakambirana za izi ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo Gleb Lozinsky.
Dzina la mchitidwe wa "Shadow Work" limayambitsa mayanjano ndi Jungian archetype, komanso masewera omenyera nkhondo omwe amaphatikizapo masewera olimbitsa thupi a "shadow boxing". Kodi akuimira chiyani? Tiyeni tiyambe ndi zofunika kwambiri ...
Psychology: Kodi Shadow ndi chiyani?
Gleb Lozinsky: Jung adatcha mthunzi kukhala archetype, womwe mu psyche umatenga chilichonse chomwe sitikudziwa mwa ife tokha, omwe sitikufuna kukhala. Sitiwona, sitimva, sitimva, sitizindikira mokwanira kapena pang'ono. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, Mthunzi ndi zomwe zili mwa ife, koma zomwe timaziona kuti si ife eni, umunthu wokanidwa. Mwachitsanzo: Sindingalole chiwawa kapena, m'malo mwake, kufooka, chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti izi ndi zoipa. Kapena sindingateteze zomwe zili zanga chifukwa ndikuganiza kuti kukhala ndi katundu ndikosayenera. Mwinanso sitingazindikire kuti ndife okoma mtima, owolowa manja, ndi zina zotero. Ndipo uwunso ndi Mthunzi wokanidwa.
Ndipo inu simungakhoze kuziwona izo…
Ndizovuta kuti aliyense wa ife agwire mthunzi, momwe angalumire chigongono, momwe angawone mbali ziwiri za Mwezi nthawi imodzi ndi diso. Koma zikhoza kudziwika ndi zizindikiro zosalunjika. Apa timapanga chisankho: chirichonse, sindidzakwiyanso! Ndipo komabe, “Oops! Equanimity ili kuti!?", "Koma zakhala bwanji, sindinafune!". Kapena wina akunena chinachake monga "Ndimakukondani", ndipo pali kunyoza kapena kudzikuza m'mawu, mawuwo sagwirizana ndi mawuwo. Kapena wina adzauzidwa kuti: Ndiwe wouma khosi, wokangana, ndipo akukwera mokwiya kuti ayi, sindine wotero, palibe umboni!
Yang'anani pozungulira: pali zitsanzo zambiri. Timaona mosavuta Mthunzi wa wina (kachitsotso m’diso), koma sitingathe kuwona wathu ( chipika). Ndipo chinthu chinanso: china chake mwa ena chikachulukirachulukira, chimakwiyitsa kapena kusilira mopitilira muyeso, ichi ndi chikoka cha Mthunzi wathu womwe timawupanga, womwe umaponyera ena. Ndipo zilibe kanthu kuti ndi zabwino kapena zoipa, nthawi zonse zimatengera zomwe ife, anthu, sitikuzizindikira mwa ife tokha. Chifukwa cha kusazindikirika, Shadow imadyetsa mphamvu za moyo wathu.
Koma bwanji osangozindikira mikhalidwe imeneyi, ngati tili nayo kale?
Choyamba, ndi zochititsa manyazi. Chachiwiri, ndizowopsa. Ndipo chachitatu, ndi zachilendo. Ngati mphamvu yamtundu wina ikukhala mwa ine, yabwino kapena yoyipa, zikutanthauza kuti ndiyenera kugwiritsira ntchito mphamvuyi mwanjira ina, ndikuchita nayo kanthu. Koma ndizovuta, nthawi zina sitidziwa momwe tingachitire. Chifukwa chake ndizosavuta kunena kuti, "O, izi ndizovuta, sindikanachita nazo." Zili ngati, mukudziwa, sikophweka kwa ife ndi anthu akuda kwambiri, komanso sikophweka ndi anthu opepuka kwambiri. Kungoti ndi wamphamvu. Ndipo ife, kunena kwake titero, ndife ofooka mumzimu, ndipo timafunikira kutsimikiza mtima kuti tigwirizane ndi mphamvu, mphamvu, ngakhale ndi zosadziwika.
Ndipo amene ali okonzeka kuzolowerana ndi mphamvu imeneyi amabwera kwa inu?
Inde, ena ali okonzeka kulowa mkati mwa osadziwika. Koma aliyense amasankha yekha za mlingo wa kukonzekera. Ichi ndi chisankho chaulere cha omwe atenga nawo mbali. Kupatula apo, kugwira ntchito ndi Shadow kumakhala ndi zotsatirapo: mukapeza china chake chomwe simunachidziwe, kapena mwina simunafune kudziwa, moyo umasintha mwanjira ina.
Kodi aphunzitsi anu ndi ndani?
Ine ndi mnzanga Elena Goryagina tinaphunzitsidwa payekha ndi John ndi Nicola Kirk ochokera ku UK komanso pa intaneti ndi American Cliff Barry, mlengi wa maphunziro a Shadow Working. John ndi wamphamvu komanso wolunjika, Nicola ndi wochenjera komanso wozama, Cliff ndi katswiri wosakaniza njira zosiyanasiyana. Anabweretsa mchitidwe wa psychotherapeutic malingaliro opatulika, mwambo. Koma aliyense amene amagwira ntchito ngati imeneyi amachita mosiyana pang’ono.
Kodi tanthauzo la njirayo ndi chiyani?
Timapanga mikhalidwe yabwino kuti tizindikire Mthunzi womwe umasokoneza kwambiri moyo wa membala wina wagululo. Ndipo amapeza njira yake payekha kuti awulule mphamvu zomwe Mthunzi umabisala. Ndiko kuti, amapita ku bwalo ndikupanga pempho, mwachitsanzo: "Zimandivuta kunena zomwe ndikufuna," ndipo mothandizidwa ndi gulu amagwira ntchito ndi pempholi. Iyi ndi njira yopangira, cholinga chachikulu (m'malingaliro onse awiri) ndikuwona machitidwe omwe amasokoneza moyo, koma osakwaniritsidwa. Kenako sinthani mothandizidwa ndi chinthu china: chiwonetsero ndi / kapena kulandila mphamvu, mphamvu.
Chinachake ngati shadow boxing?
Ine sindine katswiri pa nkhondoyi. Ngati koyamba kuyerekeza, mu «mthunzi nkhonya» wankhondo amabwera kwambiri kukhudzana ndi iyemwini. Palibe mdani weniweni, ndipo kudziona kumayamba kugwira ntchito mwanjira ina, kudzidziwitsa kwathunthu. Choncho, «mthunzi nkhonya» ntchito pokonzekera nkhondo yeniyeni.
Timagwira ntchito ndi Mthunzi kuti Mthunzi usasewere nafe. Timasewera ndi Mthunzi kuti uzitigwirira ntchito.
Ndipo inde, ntchito yathu yodziwa bwino Mthunzi imayamba kulumikizana mozama ndi ife tokha. Ndipo popeza moyo ndi dziko lamkati ndizosiyana, ife, kuwonjezera pa Shadow, timagwiritsa ntchito ma archetypes ena anayi: Mfumu, Wankhondo, Wamatsenga, Wokonda - ndipo timapereka kuti tiganizire nkhani iliyonse, vuto, zosowa kuchokera pamenepa. mawonekedwe.
Kodi izi zimachitika bwanji?
Izi ndi zaumwini, koma kuti zikhale zosavuta: mwachitsanzo, mwamuna wina amatha kuona kuti ndi akazi amagwiritsa ntchito njira za Wankhondo. Ndiko kuti, amafuna kugonjetsa, kugonjetsa, kugwira. Mwina amawoneka wozizira kwambiri mu mphamvu ya Wamatsenga, kapena amatengeka ndi kulumikizana kwanthawi yayitali, amadutsa muubwenzi mu mphamvu ya Wokonda. Kapena amachita ngati mfumu mu udindo wa wopindula. Ndipo kudandaula kwake: “Sindimadzimva kukhala pachibwenzi! .."
Kodi ndi ntchito yayitali?
Nthawi zambiri timachita masewera olimbitsa thupi kwa masiku 2-3. Ntchito yamagulu ndi yamphamvu kwambiri, kotero ikhoza kukhala yaifupi. Koma palinso mtundu umodzi wa kasitomala, ndi njira zomwe zingagwiritsidwe ntchito paokha.
Kodi pali zoletsa kutenga nawo mbali?
Timasamala kutenga omwe akufunika chithandizo chothandizira, omwe ntchito yawo sikuyenera kuipiraipira. Maphunziro athu ndi ochulukirapo kwa omwe akufuna kukulitsa: kugwira ntchito ndi Shadow ndikoyenera kukula kwanu.
Chotsatira chokumana ndi Mthunzi ndi chiyani?
Cholinga chathu ndikuphatikiza Shadow kukhala munthu. Chisamaliro cha wophunzirayo, motero, chimalunjikitsidwa kumalo omwe ali ndi malo akufa, kuti atsitsimutse chigawochi, kuti agwirizane ndi thupi lonse. Tangoganizani, timakhala ndi moyo ndipo sitimva mbali ina ya thupi, ilipo, koma sitiimva, sitigwiritsa ntchito. Mbali imodzi ndi yosavuta kumvetsera, ndipo ina ndi yovuta. Pano chala chachikulu ndi chosavuta. Ndipo chala chapakati chimakhala chovuta kwambiri. Ndipo kotero ine ndinabwera kumeneko ndi chidwi changa, ndinachimva icho, koma kusuntha? Ndipo pang'onopang'ono gawo ili limakhala langa.
Ndipo ngati si chala chapakati, koma dzanja kapena mtima? Anthu ena amaganiza kuti izi sizofunikira, chifukwa asanakhalepo mwanjira ina popanda izo, chabwino, mukhoza kupitiriza kukhala ndi moyo. Anthu ena amafunsa kuti: Ndinazimva, ndipo tsopano nditani nazo? Ndipo ntchito yathu monga owonetsera ndikupangitsa ophunzira kumvetsetsa kuti ali ndi ntchito ina yoti agwiritse ntchito mwayi watsopano ndi chidziwitso m'moyo.
Ngati tiphatikiza Mthunzi, chidzatipatsa chiyani?
Kumva kukwanira. Kukhala wamphumphu nthawi zonse kumatanthauza kukhala munthu weniweni wa ine. Ine mu dongosolo la maubale, ine ndi thupi langa, ndi makhalidwe anga, ine ndi bizinesi yanga. Ine pano. «Ine» kudzuka ndi kugona. Kudziwa bwino Mthunzi kumatipatsa mwayi wokhalapo m'miyoyo yathu. Zimakupatsani kulimba mtima kuti muyambe chinthu, ndiko kuti, kusankha kuchita nokha. Zimandilola kupeza zomwe ndikufuna. Kapena kusiya zomwe simukuzifuna. Dziwani zosowa zanu.
Ndipo kwa wina kudzakhala kulengedwa kwa ufumu wawo, dziko lapansi. Chilengedwe. Chikondi. Chifukwa ngati sitiona Mthunzi, zimakhala ngati sitikuzindikira dzanja lamanja kapena lamanzere. Koma ichi ndichinthu chofunikira: dzanja, limayenda bwanji? O, penyani, iye anafikira pamenepo, anasisita winawake, analenga chinachake, analoza penapake.
Tikazindikira izi, moyo wina umayamba ndi latsopano «Ine». Koma kugwira ntchito ndi Mthunzi, ndi kusazindikira mwa ife, ndi njira yosatha, chifukwa Mulungu yekha ndi mmodzi ndipo ali ponseponse, ndipo munthu nthawi zonse amakhala ndi malire pakudziona yekha, kuzindikira kwa dziko. Malingana ngati sitiri dzuwa, tidzakhala ndi Mthunzi, sitidzachoka kwa ichi. Ndipo nthawi zonse timakhala ndi chinachake choti tipeze ndikusintha mwa ife tokha. Timagwira ntchito ndi Mthunzi kuti Mthunzi usasewere nafe. Timasewera ndi Mthunzi kuti Mthunzi utigwire ntchito.