Yesetsani kukhala pafupi

Kulowa muubwenzi wapamtima kumatanthauza kuchita zoopsa. Ndipotu, chifukwa cha zimenezi tiyenera kumasuka kwa munthu wina, kukhala opanda chitetezo pamaso pake. Ngati atiyankha mosamvetsetsa kapena kutikana, mosakayika tidzavutika. Aliyense anakumanapo ndi zowawa zimenezi m’njira zosiyanasiyana.

Koma ife, ngakhale izi - ena mosasamala, ena mosamala - amakhalanso pachiwopsezo, kuyesetsa kukhala pachibwenzi. Zachiyani?

"Kugwirizana kwamalingaliro ndiko maziko a moyo wathu," akutero katswiri wabanja Varvara Sidorova. “Iye angatipatse lingaliro lamtengo wapatali lachisungiko (ndipo chisungiko, chimalimbitsa unansi). Kwa ife, izi zikutanthauza: Ndili ndi chithandizo, chitetezo, pogona. Sindidzatayika, nditha kuchita molimba mtima komanso momasuka kudziko lakunja.

dziululeni nokha

Wokondedwa wathu amakhala kalirole wathu momwe tingadziwonere tokha mu kuwala kwatsopano kotheratu: bwino, wokongola kwambiri, wanzeru, woyenera kwambiri kuposa momwe timaganizira tokha. Pamene wokondedwa akatikhulupirira, zimatilimbikitsa, zimatilimbikitsa, zimatipatsa mphamvu kuti tikule.

“Kusukuluko, ndidadziona ngati mbewa yotuwa, ndimaopa kutsegula pakamwa pagulu. Ndipo iye anali nyenyezi yathu. Ndipo kukongola konse kunandikonda mwadzidzidzi! Ndinkatha kulankhula ngakhale kukangana naye kwa maola ambiri. Zinapezeka kuti zonse zomwe ndimaganiza ndekha zinali zosangalatsa kwa wina. Anandithandiza kukhulupirira kuti ndine munthu wofunika. Chikondi cha ana asukulu chimenechi chinasintha moyo wanga,” akukumbukira motero Valentina wazaka 39.

"Tikazindikira kuti sitiri tokha, kuti ndife ofunika komanso osangalatsa kwa ena ofunikira, izi zimatipatsa chithandizo," adatero Varvara Sidorova. - Zotsatira zake, titha kupitilira, kuganiza, kukulitsa. Timayamba kuyesa molimba mtima kwambiri, ndikulidziwa bwino dziko. ” Umu ndi momwe chithandizo chomwe kuyandikira kumatipatsa chimagwirira ntchito.

kuvomereza kutsutsidwa

Koma “galasi” lingasonyezenso zolakwa zathu, zophophonya zimene sitinkafuna kuziona mwa ife tokha kapena zimene sitinkadziwa n’komwe za izo.

Zimakhala zovuta kuti tigwirizane ndi mfundo yakuti wina wapamtima savomereza zonse mwa ife, choncho zomwe zatulukira zimakhala zowawa kwambiri, komanso zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kuzichotsa.

“Tsiku lina anandiuza kuti: “Kodi ukudziwa vuto lako? Ulibe malingaliro!» Pazifukwa zina, mawu amenewa anandikhudza kwambiri. Ngakhale sindinamvetse nthawi yomweyo zomwe ankatanthauza. Ndinkangomuganizira nthawi zonse. Pang’ono ndi pang’ono, ndinazindikira kuti anali wolondola: Ndinachita mantha kwambiri kusonyeza kuti ndine weniweni. Ndinayamba kuphunzira kunena «ayi» ndi kuteteza udindo wanga. Zinapezeka kuti sizowopsa kwambiri,” akutero Elizabeth wazaka 34.

“Sindikudziwa anthu amene alibe maganizo awoawo,” akutero Varvara Sidorova. — Koma wina amausunga, amakhulupirira kuti maganizo a munthu wina ndi ofunika kwambiri ndiponso ofunika kwambiri. Izi zimachitika pamene ubwenzi uli wofunika kwambiri kwa mmodzi mwa awiriwa kuti chifukwa cha iye ali wokonzeka kudzimana, kuti agwirizane ndi bwenzi lake. Ndipo ndi bwino pamene mnzanu akupereka lingaliro: pangani malire anu. Koma, ndithudi, muyenera kukhala olimba mtima ndi kulimba mtima kuti mumve, kuzindikira ndi kuyamba kusintha.”

Yamikirani kusiyana

Wokondedwa angatithandize kuchiritsa mabala a m’maganizo mwa kusonyeza kuti anthu ndi odalirika, ndipo panthaŵi imodzimodziyo kuzindikira kuti ife enife tili ndi kuthekera kopanda dyera ndi kutenthedwa maganizo.

Mtsikana wina wazaka 60, dzina lake Anatoly, anati: “Ngakhale ndili wachinyamata, ndinaona kuti si bwino kukhala pachibwenzi. - Akazi ankawoneka ngati zolengedwa zosapiririka kwa ine, sindinkafuna kuthana ndi maganizo awo osamvetsetseka. Ndipo ndili ndi zaka 57, ndinayamba kukondana mosayembekezereka ndipo ndinakwatira. Ndimadabwa kuti ndimadzipeza ndekha kuti ndili ndi chidwi ndi momwe mkazi wanga akumvera, ndimayesetsa kusamala komanso kumvetsera naye.

Chisankho chosiya maubwenzi apamtima nthawi zambiri chimakhala chifukwa cha zowawa, adatero Varvara Sidorova. Koma ndi ukalamba, pamene iwo amene kale anatisonkhezera ndi mantha a ubwenzi sakhalanso pafupi, tingathe kukhazika mtima pansi pang’ono ndi kusankha kuti maubale sangakhale owopsa kwambiri.

“Tikakonzeka kutsegula, mwadzidzidzi timakumana ndi munthu amene tingamukhulupirire,” akufotokoza motero dokotalayo.

Koma maubwenzi apamtima amakhala osasangalatsa mu nthano chabe. Pali zovuta tikamamvetsetsanso momwe timasiyana.

"Zitatha ku our country, ndinapeza kuti ine ndi mkazi wanga tinali pa maudindo osiyanasiyana. Iwo anatsutsana, anakangana, izo zinali pafupi kufika pa chisudzulo. Ndizovuta kuvomereza kuti wokondedwa wanu amawona dziko mosiyana. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, tinakhala ololera kwambiri: zilizonse zimene munthu anganene, zimene zimatigwirizanitsa n’zamphamvu kuposa zimene zimatilekanitsa,” akutero Sergey wazaka 40 zakubadwa. Mgwirizano ndi wina umakupatsani mwayi wopeza mbali zosayembekezereka mwa inu, kukulitsa mikhalidwe yatsopano. Ubwenzi, mosiyana ndi kusakanikirana, umaphatikizapo kuvomereza wina wa wokondedwa wathu, yemwenso, amalola kuti tikhale tokha. Apa ndi pamene ife tiri ofanana, koma apa ndi pamene ife tiri osiyana. Ndipo zimatipangitsa kukhala amphamvu.