“Maloto ndi zokhumba zanga zazikulu zikukwaniritsidwa. Mwina chifukwa cha nyenyezi, khalidwe ndi kutsimikiza mtima, "anavomereza Elizaveta Boyarskaya, wojambula komanso kazembe wa mtundu wa TOUS zodzikongoletsera. Mtsikana wochokera m'banja labwino, mkazi wa mwamuna wamkulu wokongola wa cinema ya Russia Maxim Matveev, mayi wa ana awiri. Moyo, womwe kwa ambiri udzawoneka ngati wabwino - uli bwanji kwenikweni?
Takhala tikudziwana kwa zaka zambiri. Timakumana kuntchito. Koma ndikufuna kukhala naye paubwenzi. Panalibe chinyengo kapena chinyengo mwa Lisa. Ndikudziwa kuti sangakukhumudwitseni, sanganyenge. Mwanjira ina tinavomera kupanga zinthu zotulutsa mndandanda wa ofufuza. Chiwonetserocho chinapitilira. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi, mosayembekezereka, ntchitoyi inalowa mu "gridi", ndipo Lisa anali pafupi kubereka mwana wake wachiwiri. Analibe nthaŵi yochitira misonkhano, koma anasunga mawu ake. Poyankha kudabwa kwanga ndi kuyamikira kwanga, iye anamwetulira kuti: “Chabwino, ndiwe chiyani, tinavomera!”
Psychology: Liza, ukuganiza kuti munthu amasintha ndi zaka?
Elizaveta Boyarska: Mwachitsanzo, ndasintha kwambiri. Unyamata wanga unali wopanda mantha, wofuna kutchuka. Nditalowa m’bwalo la zisudzo ndili ndi zaka 16, ndinali wotsimikiza kuti ndidutsa. Osati chifukwa ndine mwana wamkazi wa Boyarsky, koma ndinangodziwa: Ndine wozizira, ngati ndikufuna, ndiye kuti zidzakhala choncho. Tsopano ndikhoza kugwedezeka ndi kukayikira, chifukwa cha ukalamba, mphemvu zimatuluka. Muunyamata, ndizosavuta kudumpha ndi parachute, scuba dive ... Ndinaona kuti pambuyo pa maonekedwe a ana, mabwenzi ambiri anayamba kuchita mantha kuwuluka ... Hyper-udindo, mantha ... Pamene mwana wanga wamkulu Andryusha anabadwa, ndinayamba kulota zoopsa: chidzachitika ndi chiyani? Ndinkangoganizira zinthu zoopsa zimene zinkachitika pasukulupo, mmene angasankhire zigawenga. Ndinali ndi nkhawa ndi mndandanda waukulu wa zovuta zomwe zingatheke. Nditapita kuntchito, ndinayamba kuchita mantha.
M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, ndinatha kuchotsa mantha ameneŵa pandekha. Koma panali zochitika zina m’moyo wanga pamene ndinapita kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo. Ndipo anandithandiza kumasula mfundo zosiyanasiyana. Mwachitsanzo, ndinali ndi mavuto - sindikanatha kunena «ayi» ndipo anavutika ndi izi. Ndinkaopa kukhumudwitsa munthuyo. Sanadziwenso momwe angapangire zosankha zake. Ndinakhala m'banja la makolo anga kwa nthawi yaitali ndipo ndinazolowera udindo wa mwana wamkazi, osati mutu wa banja - mkazi, mayi. Nthawi yosintha inali yovuta. Pamene tinasamukira ku Moscow, dziko linasintha. Ndinazindikira kuti ndili ndi udindo pazinthu zonse: sukulu ya mkaka, nyumba, mapangano athu amkati ndi Maxim okhudza mabwalo, kugawa nthawi, zosangalatsa pamodzi. Osati nthawi yomweyo, koma ndinakopeka. Dongosolo lomveka bwino ndilo gawo langa. Ndimakonda pamene moyo uli pachimake.
Ndimagona kwa nthawi yayitali mopweteka, ndikudutsa malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Sanaphunzirepo kumasuka
Tsopano ndimakonda kukonza - kwa ine ndekha komanso kwa ana. Koma panthawi yomwe ndinakumana ndi izi kwa nthawi yoyamba, ndinazindikira kuti palibe amene angandichitire chilichonse, ndimayenera kupita ku sitolo ndekha, tsiku lililonse ndikusankha zomwe tinali nazo pa chakudya chamadzulo. Amayi amene amakonzekeretsa atsikana kukwatiwa ali olondola, osati omwe ana awo aakazi amagona pabedi la nthenga, monga ine ndinagona. Sindinapemphedwe kuti ndithandize kuyeretsa, kusita, kuchapa, amayi adachita zonse okha. Ndipo pamene mwadzidzidzi ndinaloŵa m’moyo wabanja, kunakhala kupsinjika maganizo kowopsa kwa ine. Ndinayenera kuphunzira zonse kuyambira pachiyambi. Ndipo Maxim anandithandiza kwambiri ndipo anandilimbikitsa kuti: “Ukuchita zonse bwino. Mukuyenda bwino!»
Kodi ubale wanu ndi iye uli bwanji? Kodi muli ndi tsankho la ntchito? Kutsuka mbale, mwachitsanzo, pa inu?
Apa mwalakwitsa. Ali mwana, Maxim anali ndi ntchito yotsuka mbale, ndipo kwa iye sikovuta. Ndipo ngati tilankhula za ubale wamba, timakhala nawo ngati mabwenzi. Maxim akhoza kuphika, kuwagoneka ana, kuchapa zovala, kusita, ndi kupita kukagula zinthu. Ndipo ine ndikhoza kuchita chimodzimodzi. Ndani ali mfulu, ali wotanganidwa kunyumba. Maxim tsopano akujambula filimu ku Moscow, ndipo ndili ndi ana ku St. Petersburg, pa ntchito. Ndimamuuza kuti: "Samalirani zazanu, ndimasamalira chilichonse."
Mwina nchifukwa chake munali ndi vuto la tulo lomwe mudakambirana?
Ndimagona mopweteka kwambiri, ndikudutsa malingaliro osiyanasiyana. Sindinaphunzirebe kumasuka. Chizolowezi chokhala ndi mawonekedwe abwino nthawi zonse chimakhala champhamvu. Izi zimatenga nthawi. Ngakhale kuti zinachitika pa mliri, ndipo ndinamva ngati munthu wosangalala kwambiri. Panali nthawi yambiri yopuma, ndinkaigwiritsa ntchito pazomwe ndinkafuna, osati pa zomwe ndimayenera kuchita. Ndipo zinapezeka kuti ndikufuna kukumba m'mabedi, kukula strawberries, kulankhulana ndi ana, ndi anzanga, kuwerenga mabuku, kulankhula ndi mwamuna wanga, kuonera kanema wabwino. Ndikakhala kuti ndilibe tchuthi lalitali, koma tsiku limodzi loti ndipume lomwe ndaliyembekezera kwa nthawi yaitali, ndimakhala panyumba ndipo nthawi zina sindimamva bwino. Ngati ndilibe pulani, ndimakhala ngati mtovu wonyezimira. Koma ngati tsiku lopuma litakonzedwa, zonse zikhala bwino.
Kodi mumapeza nthawi yanu? Kodi zisangalalo za amayi monga malo odzikongoletsa zimalukidwa m'moyo wanu?
Ndikuyesera kuwaluka, mukudziwa, ndinadzigwira ndikuganiza kuti ngakhale nditapeza nthawi ndikubwera kwa ola limodzi ndi theka, ndimasiya kuganiza kwa mphindi khumi ndi zisanu zisanathe. Ndipo izi zisanachitike, malingaliro amachulukana: muyenera kuchita izi, izo. Ndinaganiza za chirichonse, ndipo kamodzi - zosangalatsa zachabechabe m'mutu mwanga. Nthawi yosowa! Chinthu chokha chomwe chimanditsitsimutsa nthawi yomweyo ndi chilengedwe. Nyanja, nkhalango, munda nthawi yomweyo zimathetsa vutolo. Komanso kulankhulana ndi mwamuna wake. Nthaŵi zina ndimatenga ng’ombe yamphongo ndi nyanga ndikunena kwa Maxim kuti: “Ndife makolo abwino, koma tiyenera kuthera nthaŵi pamodzi,” ndipo ndimakokera naye ku kanema, kumalo ochitira masewero, kumalo odyera kapena kokayenda. Zimadzaza ndi kutilimbikitsa kwambiri.
Ana anu amafanana kwambiri m'maonekedwe, koma osiyana ndi khalidwe - wamng'ono kwambiri, Grisha, munthu wodekha wakhalidwe labwino, Andryusha ndi mafoni, onyezimira, okhudzidwa. Kodi amafunikira njira zosiyanasiyana?
Ine ndi Maxim timachita zonse mwachilengedwe. Ndinawerenga mabuku osiyanasiyana okhudza maphunziro, koma sizinathandize kuti ndimakonda kwambiri dongosolo limodzi, paliponse pali ubwino ndi zovuta. Nthawi zambiri, ndikufuna mwachilengedwe, kukomera mtima komanso kuphweka momwe ndingathere. Palibe mabuku kapena malamulo. Apa Grisha adadya theka la mbale patebulo, ndiye adanyamulidwa ndi mtundu wina wa taipi pansi, sikuli kovuta kuti ndimalize kumudyetsa pamene akusewera.
Ndikuganiza kuti tiyenera kukhala ndi mitima yathu ndikukhala mabwenzi ndi ana. Timayesetsa kuonetsetsa kuti anyamatawo asaganize kuti pali malire osatha pakati pathu ndipo sitingamvetse zomwe akuganiza, ndipo sadzatimvetsa. Chifukwa chake ndimawauza za ntchito, ndikugawana zomwe zimandivutitsa. Ndikuyesera kulowa mumasewera awo. Sindimaseka zinthu zomwe zimavutitsa Andrei. Iwo angakhale opanda nzeru, koma amaoneka ngati ofunika kwa iye. Posachedwapa iye anakonda mtsikana wina, ndipo ndinamufunsa mmene amawonekera, ndipo iye anayankha kuti: “Wokongola! Ndipo ndinamulangiza kuti amupatse chinachake kapena kuchita zabwino. Iye, zikomo Mulungu, akunena zonse. Kugawana, mwachitsanzo, ngati pali nkhani yovuta ndi mphunzitsi.
Mwana wamkulu anali ndi mafunso okhudza maphunziro a kugonana, ndipo tinagula buku labwino kwambiri
Ngati Andrei abweretsa mawu oyipa kunyumba, sindidzamuuza kuti: "Kodi wapenga?" Sindikufuna kuti aziopa kukambirana nafe zinazake. Panthawi ina, anali ndi mafunso okhudza maphunziro a kugonana, ndipo tinagula buku labwino kwambiri. Andryusha analibe ndemanga ngati "o" ndi "wow". Anawerenga, adazindikira ndikupita kukasewera mpira ndi anzake. Ndipo ndikumvetsa: izi ndi zotsatira za mfundo yakuti timalankhulana modekha. Ali ndi ife, amamva kuti ndi wotetezedwa, ndipo ichi ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri.
Zaka zambiri zapitazo, mudati: zingakhale bwino tikanakhala ndi miyambo ya m'banja - chakudya chamadzulo kapena Lamlungu. Kodi izi zikuyenda bwanji?
Zaka zinapita, ndipo miyambo sinawonekere. (Akuseka) Sindikudziwa ngati ndi mwambo wolekanitsa zinyalala, koma ichi ndi chenicheni chathu chatsopano komanso mphindi yofunikira pakulera ana. Chifukwa mungaphunzitse kokha mwa chitsanzo chaumwini. Tinakhala m’nyumba ina ku St. Petersburg kwa chaka chimodzi ndipo tinazindikira kuti banja lathu laling’ono limaunjikira zinyalala zochititsa chidwi m’tsiku limodzi, ndipo zingati pamlungu, m’mwezi umodzi! Tsopano timasankha zobwezeretsanso, kuyimbira ecotaxi kawiri pamwezi. Pali zotengera mumsewu, ndidawafunsa anzanga ngati mphatso yakubadwa. Andryusha adalowa nawo nkhaniyi mosangalala ndi gulu lina.
Ndine wotsimikiza kuti izi ziyenera kuphunzitsidwa kuyambira ali mwana kuti njirayo ikhale yachibadwa. Kuphatikiza pa kusanja zinyalala, muyenera kukhala ndi chizolowezi chotengera ogula ku sitolo kuti musagwiritse ntchito matumba apulasitiki. Nthawi zonse ndimakhala ndi shopper mchikwama changa. Ndipo mutha kutenga kapu yanu ya thermos kupita kumalo ogulitsira khofi, koma ichi ndi chizoloŵezi chovuta kwambiri. Sindinamenyebe. Ndimatenga khofi mu kapu yotayika, komabe, ndikuyika chivindikiro m'chikwama changa ndipo kumapeto kwa tsiku ndimabweretsa kunyumba, ku chidebe choyenera ndi pulasitiki.
Maxim anandiuza nthawi ina mu kuyankhulana kwa chimodzi mwa kukumbukira kwake koyamba ali mwana: adathamangira basi yomwe bambo ake adachoka kosatha. Maxim anakulira m'banja losakwanira ndipo adaganiza kuti adzakhala ndi ana ake nthawi zonse. Kodi anakhala bambo otani?
Maxim ndi bambo wodabwitsa. Ndinganene bwino. Amasamalira banja lake, amaphika bwino, amagwira ntchito zapakhomo mosavuta komanso mosamala ngati kuli kofunikira, amasewera ndi ana, kusamba, kuwerenga, kusewera nawo masewera, amakuphunzitsani kukhala tcheru ndi kumvetsera akazi, Maxim ndi wothandiza, amachita zambiri. ntchito zapakhomo, mwinamwake izo - zikonze izo. Amagwirizanitsa Andryusha ku izi: "Bweretsani screwdriver, tidzakonza!" Ngati chidole cha Grisha chimasweka, amachitengera kwa abambo ake ndikuti: "Mabatire." Grisha amadziwa kuti abambo amatha kuchita chilichonse.
Kwa mwana wamkulu, Maxim ndi wolamulira wosatsutsika. Andryusha amamumvera nthawi zonse komanso m'zonse, ndipo ine - nthawi ina iliyonse, chifukwa nthawi zina ndimasiya. Koma abambo - ayi, ali ndi zokambirana zazifupi. Maxim ndi wokhulupirika, wachifundo, koma wokhwima. Monga mnyamata, monga mwamuna, amalankhula ndi ana. Ndipo ndi zodabwitsa! Tsopano pali achichepere ambiri akhanda amene anazoloŵera makolo awo kuwachitira chirichonse. Satenga udindo. Ndipo Maxim choyamba amaika udindo mwa ana. Ndipo nthawi zonse amatsindika kuti zopambana zaumwini ndizofunikira - mu masewera, mu maphunziro, podzigwira ntchito.
Maxim ali wotanganidwa kwambiri ndi thanzi lake, amawona zakudya zisanu. Kodi mwapita patsogolo panjira yodzisamalira komanso kudzikonda?
Ine sindine wolondola monga mwamuna wanga. Koma ndimayesetsa kuti ndisadye chakudya chofulumira komanso sindinasute kwa zaka khumi. Kugona kuli bwino kuposa kale, ndimagona maola asanu ndi limodzi, osati anayi. Kawirikawiri, kwa nthawi yaitali ndinakhala motere: pali ntchito yomwe ndimadzipatsa ndekha, pali banja, ana, koma ndinayiwala zomwe ndili nazo. Ndipo ngati simusiya malo nokha, zimakhudza mbali zonse za moyo. Ndipotu, munthu sayenera kupereka, komanso kulandira - kupyolera mu masewera, kugona, misonkhano ndi abwenzi, mafilimu, mabuku. Mphamvu ziyenera kuwonjezeredwa. Patapita nthawi Andryusha atabadwa, ndinazindikira kuti ndinali wokwiya kwambiri, zinali zovuta kwa ine. Ndikukumbukira kuti tinakumana ndi mnzanga wina, ndipo ananena kuti ndinali wotopa kwambiri. Iye anamvetsera nkhani yonena za moyo wanga, ndipo anati: “Amayi, amangilileni.” Kuchokera kwa iye, ndinamva koyamba kuti muyenera kudzipangira nthawi, wokondedwa wanu. Sindinaganizirepo kale. Kenako ndinazindikira kuti ngakhale kupita kokapanga manicure kumandipatsa mphamvu. Ndimabwerera kunyumba ndikusewera ndi ana mosangalala, ndikumwetulira. Chifukwa chake tinthu tating'onoting'ono ta azimayiwa sizinthu zazing'ono konse, koma chinthu chofunikira.