Kudalira maganizo. Pamene "mulungu" wanu ali chete

Kwa munthu wodalira maganizo, wokondedwa wake - kholo, mchimwene kapena mlongo, wokonda kapena bwenzi - ndi wofunika kwambiri. Iye amaika wina uyu kukhala «mulungu» wake - akupereka moyo wake kwa iye, amamupatsa iye ufulu woyang'anira.

Mawu ake, zochita zake kapena, mosiyana, kusachitapo kanthu kumatsimikizira mkhalidwe wamaganizo wa munthu woledzera. Iye amakhala wokondwa ngati “Mulungu” alankhulana naye, akondwera, amchitira kanthu kena, ndipo akumva kuwawa kowopsa m’maganizo ngati sakukhutiritsidwa naye kapena kungokhala chete, osakumana naye.

Chizoloŵezi choterechi chingapangidwe mwa munthu aliyense, koma nthawi zambiri chimapezeka mwa anthu okhudzidwa. Kugwirizana kwawo kumakhala kolimba, amakhala mozama kwambiri ndipo amavutika ndi chizolowezi choledzera kuposa ena.

Izi ndi zotsatira za kupwetekedwa mtima kwa kukula kwa ubwana. Kuledzera kungayambitse zochitika zosiyanasiyana kuchokera ku ubale woyambirira wa kholo ndi mwana. Koma zomwe ali nazo ndizoti panthawi ya chiyanjano champhamvu kwambiri, kugwirizanitsa kwenikweni kwa mwanayo ndi amayi (mpaka chaka ndi theka), mayiyo adaswa kukhudzana kapena sanali kutentha mokwanira, moona mtima.

Ndipo chifukwa cha ukalamba, sangathe kukhala ndi malingaliro onse omwe amabwera nthawi imodzi: ali amphamvu kwambiri kwa mwana wamng'ono, choncho amawachotsa.

Koma maganizo amenewa amamupeza atakula atasiya kucheza ndi munthu amene amamukonda. Munthu wamkulu panthawiyi amadzimva ngati mwana wopanda thandizo. Amakumana ndi zoopsa, zowawa, kukhumudwa, mantha, mantha, mkwiyo, mkwiyo, chisoni, kusowa mphamvu.

“N’chifukwa chiyani ukundichitira zimenezi? N’chifukwa chiyani ndiwe wankhanza chonchi? Bwanji mwangokhala chete, chabwino, kunena chinachake! Simusamala za ine! Kodi mumandikonda? Ndiwe chilombo! Osandisiya, ndifa popanda iwe! " - Awa ndi mawu odziwika bwino a anthu odalira malingaliro.

Izi ndizovuta kwambiri zomwe zingayambitse matenda a mtima, matenda okhudza maganizo, psychosis, mantha, kudzivulaza komanso kudzipha. Ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi wake wasiya munthu wodalira maganizo ake, akhoza kudwala kwambiri kapena kudzipha. Okwatirana oterowo amapita kudziko lina mwezi umodzi pambuyo pa imfa ya mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo, chifukwa chakuti amataya tanthauzo la moyo, chifukwa chakuti mkhalidwe wawo wamalingaliro ndi wosapiririka.

Amafuna kuti azilankhulana nthawi zonse, achinyengo, amaumirira miyambo yomwe ingatsimikizire kuti mnzakeyo ali pano, pafupi, amawakonda. Anthu odalira amayambitsa chifundo, komanso mkwiyo ndi mkwiyo: sapiririka komanso osakhutitsidwa pakufuna kwawo chikondi ...

Okondedwa awo nthawi zambiri amathetsa maubwenzi pamene atopa kutumikira chizoloŵezi cha mnzawo, mantha ake. Safuna kuchita zinthu zosafunika, kuyimba foni kakhumi patsiku ndikusintha khalidwe lawo malinga ndi zomwe mnzanuyo akuchita. Safuna kukhala odalira.

Ngati ndinu wodalira m'malingaliro, ntchito yanu ndikuphunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi zovuta zanu nokha. Tiyeni titenge izi. Wokondedwa wanu "amapachika" chiyanjano: inde kapena ayi, palibe njira zenizeni.

Pali kupuma kodetsa nkhawa. Mwatenga kale masitepe ambiri mu ubalewu chifukwa «mulungu» wanu akuzengereza, ndipo tsopano mukudikirira, kudziletsa kuchitapo kanthu. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, mumakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro.

Ndigawana zomwe makasitomala anga ndi anzanga amakumana nazo, zomwe zimawathandiza kuthana ndi malingaliro awo.

1. Udindo

Chotsani udindo wa chikhalidwe chanu kwa wokondedwa wanu. Musamayembekezere kuti angachite chilichonse kuti achepetse kuvutika kwanu. Sinthani maganizo anu kwa inu nokha ndi zochita zanu.

2. Palibe zongopeka komanso zongopeka

Musaganize zomwe "mulungu" wanu akuchita pakadali pano, musapente zomwe zikuchitika, musatanthauzire zomwe zikuchitika. Musalole mantha ndi ziyembekezo zoipa kupanga kulosera za mkhalidwewo.

Mukangodzipeza pamalingaliro otero, bwezerani chidwi chanu ku mkhalidwe wanu wapano. Izi zikhoza kuchitika, mwachitsanzo, mwa kuika maganizo pa kupuma.

3. Kukhalapo "pano ndi pano"

Yang'anani pozungulira. Jambulani thupi lanu ndi diso lamalingaliro. Yankhani mafunso: Kodi ndili kuti? Monga ine?" Zindikirani zing'onozing'ono za malo omwe mukukhala, kumva kusintha pang'ono m'thupi lanu, kugwedezeka kwa kuzindikira ndi zina zosasangalatsa. Dzifunseni momwe mukumvera komanso komwe amakhala m'thupi.

4. Woyang'anira mkati

Pezani malo abwino, athanzi m'thupi lanu ndikuyika "Inner Observer" momwemo - gawo la inu lomwe limakhalabe lodekha komanso lokhazikika muzochitika zilizonse, siligonja kumalingaliro.

Muli ndi zomverera zovuta komanso kusapeza bwino za chete «mulungu», koma si nonse inu.

Ikani malingaliro anu oyipa penapake m'thupi lanu ndipo zindikirani kuti ziwalo zina zonse za thupi zili zathanzi komanso sizili bwino.

5. Kuyika pansi, kupuma, kuika pakati, kudzigwirizanitsa

Chizoloŵezi chokhazikitsa pansi chidzakulolani kuti muyang'ane mbali zonse za thupi zomwe zimagwirizana ndi zopingasa. Kuyang'ana pa mpweya, ingoyang'anani, tsatirani kayendedwe ka mpweya ndi diso lanu lamkati.

Yang'anani pakatikati panu (zala ziwiri pansi pa mchombo, 2 cm mkati mwa mimba), zindikirani zomverera zomwe zakhazikika pamenepo: kutentha, mphamvu, kuyenda. Longosolani mpweya wanu pakati, kudzaza ndi kukulitsa.

Ndi bwino ngati mutha kudzaza thupi lonse ndi zomverera zomwe mumamva pakati. Yesetsani kuti musasiyane naye.

6. Kukhala ndi malingaliro anu

Zindikirani malingaliro onse omwe mukukumana nawo ndikuyankha aliyense motsatana. Mwachitsanzo, munaona mkwiyo ndipo unauika m’dzanja lako lamanja. Yambani kuchita zinthu zokwiya kwambiri: kutsuka mbale, kumenya makapeti, kuyeretsa chitofu. Onetsani zakukhosi. Tangoganizani kuti mkwiyo ukutuluka kudzera m’dzanja lamanja.

Ngati mungathe, lembani kalata yokwiya kwa «mulungu», fotokozani zonse zomwe mukuganiza za iye. Palibe chifukwa chotumizira kalata - mumamvetsetsa kuti malingaliro anu ndi okhudzana ndi momwe zinthu zilili pano. Amachokera ku zoopsa zaubwana, ndipo simuyenera kuwononga maubwenzi omwe mumawakonda chifukwa cha izo.

7. Kudzikonda

Chifukwa chodalira m'maganizo ndi kudzikonda kosakwanira ndipo, chifukwa chake, kuyembekezera chikondi kuchokera kunja. Kupereŵeraku kudayamba chifukwa chakuti mwanayo analibe chikondi chokwanira cha umayi ndipo panalibe pamene angaphunzire kudzikonda yekha.

Yakwana nthawi yoti mudzaze kusiyana kumeneku. Mwasanthula kale thupilo ndipo mwapeza matumba akusamva bwino. Dzisamalireni kuti zomverera m'zigawo izi za thupi zikhale zomasuka. Kusisita, kupaka mafuta onunkhira, khalani omasuka.

Ikhoza kukhala kapu ya khofi, kanema, buku, masewera olimbitsa thupi, kusamba mchere, kukambirana ndi mnzanu. Chachikulu ndichakuti mumapeza kukhudzika kwa malingaliro abwino.

8. Kufufuza

Tsopano popeza mwadekha ndi kudzisamalira nokha, mukhoza kusintha maganizo anu ndi kusanthula mkhalidwewo. Zomwe zimachitika mu ubale wanu ndi «Mulungu», choti muchite - dikirani kapena kuchitapo kanthu.

9. Zochita: Ganizirani zotsatira zake

Ngati mukufuna kuchitapo kanthu: kuyitana, kunena chinachake, kufotokoza zinthu, mwinanso kukangana, choyamba ganizirani zotsatira za izi. Kumbukirani kuti zochita zanu zimapanga chitsanzo cha ubale wanu ndi "mulungu".

Kodi mukufuna kuti ubale wanu ukule molingana ndi izi? Uwu ndi udindo waukulu, ndipo uyenera kunyamulidwa pa maubwenzi onse. Ngati mwakonzeka kudzitengera nokha, chitanipo kanthu molimba mtima.

10. Psychotherapy

Njira ya psychotherapy yaumwini idzakuthandizani kuthana ndi zovuta zaubwana ndikuchotsa kudalira maganizo.