Manyazi ali ndi nkhope zambiri. Amabisala kumbuyo nkhawa ndi mantha, kudzikayikira ndi manyazi, chiwawa ndi mkwiyo. Kuchita manyazi panthaŵi yamavuto ndizochitika mwachibadwa. Koma ngati manyazi apakati ndi othandiza, ndiye kuti kumbuyo kwa manyazi akulu kuli phompho la zochitika zosasangalatsa. Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti manyazi akukulepheretsani kukhala ndi moyo? Kodi machiritso atheka?
Kodi simukuchita manyazi?
“Chinthu chachibadwa sichichita manyazi,” analemba motero wanthanthi wakale Seneca m’zolemba zake. Ndithudi, akatswiri a zamaganizo amagwirizanitsa kuchita manyazi ndi malingaliro ongopeka akuti tikhoza kunyozedwa ndi ena. Mwachitsanzo, anthu akachotsedwa ntchito, ena amada nkhawa kuti apeza bwanji zofunika pamoyo wawo, pamene ena amada nkhawa ndi zimene anthu aziwaganizira. Iwo mosakayika adzasekedwa ndi kuchita manyazi.
Manyazi nthawi zonse amawonekera pamene chinachake chikuchitika chomwe chimapangitsa munthu kuzindikira kusiyana pakati pa malo omwe ali nawo panopa ndi chithunzi choyenera chomwe chinapangidwa pamutu pake. Tangoganizani kuti loya wochita bwino adzayenera kugwira ntchito ngati wogulitsa. Ndi wotsimikiza kuti aliyense amadziwa za kulephera kwake: odutsa, oyandikana nawo, banja.
Makolo nthawi zambiri amati: "Manyazi pa inu": pamene mwanayo akulira pagulu kapena kuswa chidole chatsopano, pamene adataya madzi patebulo pa tebulo la chikondwerero, kapena kunena mawu achipongwe. Kuchita manyazi ndi njira yosavuta yopezera mwana kukhala womvera.
Mosaganizira zotulukapo zake, akuluakulu amapatsa khanda uthenga woterowo: “Mudzatikhumudwitsa ngati simutsatira malamulo”
Mwana amene nthaŵi zambiri amachititsidwa manyazi amanena kuti: “Ndine woipa, ndalakwa, pali chinachake cholakwika ndi ine.” Kumbuyo kwa "chinachake" ichi kuli phompho la zovuta ndi zochitika zomwe zidzasonyezedwa ndi psyche pamene mwanayo akukula.
Ndi kulera bwino, makolo amakhomereza mwa mwanayo lingaliro la kukhala ndi thayo la zolankhula ndi zochita zawo mwa kulemba momvekera bwino malamulo, osati mwa kuchita manyazi nthaŵi zonse. Mwachitsanzo: “Ukathyola zidole, sangakugulire zatsopano” ndi zina zotero. Pa nthawi yomweyo, ngati mwana akadali anathyola zidole, n`kofunika kuti akuluakulu kuganizira mfundo yakuti ndi mchitidwe zoipa, osati mwanayo.
Chiyambi cha Manyazi
Kudziimba mlandu kumazikidwa pa chikhulupiriro chakuti munthu walakwa. Manyazi amayambitsa kumverera kolakwika ndi kuipa kwa umunthu.
Manyazi, mofanana ndi liwongo, kugwirizana ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu. Koma ngati liwongo likhoza kuthetsedwa, n’kosatheka kuchotsa manyazi. Munthu wamanyazi nthawi zonse amadzifunsa funso limene Fyodor Dostoevsky anapanga m'buku lakuti Crime and Punishment: "Kodi ndine cholengedwa chonjenjemera kapena ndili ndi ufulu?"
Munthu wamanyazi amafunsa mafunso okhudza momwe iye alili wamtengo wapatali, ndi zochita zomwe ali ndi ufulu kuchita. Popanda kudzidalira, munthu woteroyo sangathe kuchoka mumsampha wamanyazi.
M’nkhani za masiku ano, anthu masauzande ambiri akukumana ndi zochititsa manyazi
Zochita za anthu omwe timalumikizana nawo pamtundu uliwonse kapena pazifukwa zina, zimayambitsa malingaliro ambiri - nkhawa, kudziimba mlandu, manyazi. Wina amatenga udindo pa zochita za anthu ena a m’gululo, kaya achibale kapena nzika zina, n’kudzilanga yekha chifukwa cha zimenezi. Angamve bwino pamene mawu akuti “ndilibe chochita nawo, ndinangoima pafupi” akanenedwa, kukana kuti iye ndi ndani, kapena kusonyeza mwaukali ponse paŵiri kunja ndi mkati.
Manyazi, omwe amalimbitsa kale kusiyana pakati pa anthu, amakupangitsani kukhala otalikirana, osungulumwa. Fanizo likhoza kukhala chithunzi chomwe munthu waima maliseche kwathunthu pakati pa msewu wodzaza anthu. Achita manyazi, ali yekhayekha, akuloza zala zake.
Kulephera kwa gulu limene munthuyo akudzizindikiritsa nalo kumalingaliridwa ndi iye kukhala kulephera kwaumwini. Ndipo mphamvu yamanyazi ikakhala yamphamvu, m'pamenenso adakumana ndi zophophonya zawo. Zikukhala zovuta kwambiri kulimbana ndi malingaliro amphamvu ngati amenewa panokha.
Kufunika kokhala nawo ndi mwala wapangodya kumene zochitika zamanyazi zimawululira. Monga momwe mwana ali wamng’ono amawopa kuti makolo ake angamusiye chifukwa choipa, choteronso munthu wamkulu amayembekezera kusiyidwa. Amakhulupirira kuti posapita nthaŵi aliyense adzamusiya.
Vomerezani kuti muli ndi manyazi
Charles Darwin anati: “Kutha kuchita manyazi ndi chinthu choposa zonse za munthu. Kumverera kumeneku kumadziwika kwa ambiri kuyambira ali ana: masaya amadzazidwa ndi utoto, miyendo imakhala ya thonje, dontho la thukuta limawonekera pamphumi, maso amatsika, amanjenjemera m'mimba.
Pakukangana ndi mnzako kapena kufotokozera ndi abwana, ubongo umayambitsa machitidwe a neural, ndipo manyazi amapuwala thupi lonse. Munthu sangathe kuchitapo kanthu, ngakhale kuti akufuna kuthawa. Munthu wamanyazi angaone kuti alibe mphamvu pa thupi lake, zomwe zimachititsa manyazi kwambiri. Munthu angamve kwenikweni kuti wacheperachepera, wachepa. Zomwe zimachitikira kumverera uku ndizosapiririka, koma zimatha kugwiridwa.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza kuyambira kosavuta. Mukangomva manyazi m'thupi lanu, nenani, "Ndikuchita manyazi pompano." Kuvomereza uku kokha ndikokwanira kutuluka pawekha ndikudzipatsa mwayi wochepetsera zotsatira za manyazi. Inde, aliyense amagwiritsidwa ntchito kubisa manyazi, kubisala, koma izi zimangowonjezera vutoli.
Manyazi amachiritsidwa mwa kupanga mkati mwa danga kuti amve ndi kuyang'ana pamene akubwera ndi kupita
Ndikofunika kudzipatula nokha monga munthu ndi maganizo anu ndi zochita zanu. Poyang'ana manyazi, musayese kuchotsa, ndi bwino kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake. Koma muyenera kuchita izi pamalo otetezeka komanso pamalo abwino.
Zomwe zimayambitsa manyazi nthawi zina zimakhala zosavuta kuzizindikira, ndipo nthawi zina zimafunika kuzifufuza. Kwa wina, iyi ndi positi pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti pomwe mnzanu amalemba momwe zimamuvutira. Munthuyo amazindikira kuti palibe chimene angachite kuti athandize, ndipo amagwera m’manyazi. Ndipo kwa wina, chifukwa choterocho chingakhale chakuti iye sachita zimene amayembekeza. Apa, kugwira ntchito ndi psychotherapist kumathandizira kuwunikira magwero a manyazi.
Ilse Sand, wolemba Shame. Momwe mungalekerere kuopa kusakumvetsetsani, akutchula uphungu uwu: “Ngati mukufuna kupeza chithandizo chamkati, yesani kucheza ndi anthu omwe atha kuchita zomwe simunathe. Amachita mwachibadwa komanso molimba mtima pazochitika zilizonse, nthawi zonse amatsatira mzere womwewo wa khalidwe.
Kuwona zochita zawo, mudzapeza luso lofunika kwambiri pothetsa mavuto anu.
Pa nthawi yomweyi, yesetsani kukunyengererani mothandizidwa ndi manyazi. Afunseni kuti akuchitireni ulemu ndipo asakulemezeni mawu odzudzula osayenera, kapena muchokepo nthawi iliyonse imene simumasuka.”
Zokumana nazo zamanyazi kwa akulu zimasiyana pang'ono ndi kudzichepetsa kwa ana. Uku ndi kumverera komweko komwe mumakhumudwitsa wina, kuti mwawonongeka ndipo mulibe ufulu wakulandiridwa ndi kukondedwa. Ndipo ngati kuli kovuta kuti mwana asinthe maganizo a zomvererazi, munthu wamkulu akhoza kutero.
Pozindikira manyazi athu, kulengeza kupanda ungwiro kwathu, timapita kwa anthu ndi kukhala okonzeka kulandira chithandizo. Kupondereza malingaliro anu ndikudziteteza kwa iwo ndi njira yowononga kwambiri. Inde, n'zosavuta, koma zotsatira zake zingakhale zowononga psyche ndi kudzidalira. Manyazi amachitidwa ndi kuvomereza ndi kudalira.