Momwe Mungayikitsire Wachibale Kunyumba Yosungira Okalamba: Masitepe 5

“Bwanji sindingathe kusamalira wokondedwa wanga ndekha?”, “Kodi anthu anganene chiyani?”, “Ndine mwana wamkazi woipa” … Pafupifupi anthu onse amene amasankha kuika wachibale wachikulire m’nyumba yogonamo maganizo ofanana.

Malinga ndi kafukufuku waposachedwa, chifukwa cha malingaliro okhudzana ndi malo okalamba omwe akhazikitsidwa pakati pa anthu, sekondi iliyonse ya ku Russia imakhulupirira kuti ndi bwino kuti munthu wachikulire azikhala kunyumba, mosasamala kanthu za thanzi lawo.¹. Koma kumusamalira bwino kunyumba nthawi zina kumakhala kosatheka. Ndiyeno tiyenera kupanga chosankha chovuta, pamene tikuvutika m’maganizo.

Zimafotokozedwa ndi kufunika kopangira chosankha kwa makolo. Zimenezi n’zosemphana ndi chikhumbo chathu chozama cha kuona okalamba monga anthu amene anatipangira zosankha zazikulu.

Kudzimva wolakwa angathe kuthana ndi ngati pali zolemetsa mikangano «kwa»: monga usana ndi usiku kusamalira wachibale m'nyumba yogonamo, zofunika zipangizo zachipatala, ndi chabe kuyang'anira nthawi zonse. Koma ngati wachibale mwiniwakeyo sakugwirizana ndi chisankho cha kusamuka, nkhaŵa ya mkhalidwe wake wamaganizo imagwirizana ndi kudzimva wolakwa. Ndipo ndizovuta kuthana nazo popanda kukambirana. Kukhala bwanji?

Okalamba zimawavuta kuzoloŵera kusintha kwa moyo wawo. Safuna kuvomereza zofooka zawo, kusamukira kudera lachilendo, kapena kusamuka ndi mabanja awo. Koma pali masitepe 5 omwe angakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa ngati kusamuka sikungapeweke.

Gawo 1: Fotokozani zabwino ndi zoyipa zonse

Ngakhale chigamulocho chapangidwa kale, wokalambayo amafunikira nthawi kuti achite. Muyenera kulankhula naye modekha ndikumufotokozera chifukwa chake muyenera kuganizira zosamukira ku chipatala. M’pofunika kumveketsa bwino lomwe kuti lingaliro lanu lopita kumeneko silimasonkhezeredwa ndi chikhumbo chofuna kuchotsa wachibale, koma mwa kumsamalira: “Ndimakukondani, chotero sindikufuna kuti mukhale nokha pamene ine; m kuntchito tsiku lonse" kapena "Ndikuwopa kuti sindidzakhala ndi nthawi yoti ndifike, mukafuna thandizo langa."

Osati bwanji?

Uzani wachikulire kuti chisankho chapangidwa kale. Lolani wachibaleyo "akhale" m'maganizo mwatsopano ndikusankha yekha ngati akuyenera kusamuka. Nthawi zambiri timapeputsa makolo athu akamakula, koma zoona zake n’zakuti nthawi zina amamvetsa bwino mmene zinthu zilili pa moyo wathu kuposa ifeyo ndipo amakhala okonzeka kukumana ndi ana awo pa nthawi yovuta.

Gawo 2: Zambiri za Mlingo

Anthu okalamba ndi otengeka mtima kwambiri, choncho akalandira zambiri, amatha kuchita mantha n’kuyamba kubisala. Pakadali pano, simuyenera kutsitsa tsatanetsatane wa chisankho chanu. Tiuzeni za malo omwe mwasankha, mikhalidwe yomwe ili mmenemo, madotolo omwe ali m'boma, komanso kuti ali kutali bwanji ndi mzindawu. Ngati mudayendera kale nyumba yogona yomwe mwasankha, gawanani zomwe mwawona ndi wachibale wanu.

Osati bwanji?

Yankhani mafunso, ngakhale wachibale atawafunsa kangapo. Msiyeni atenge chidziŵitsocho pa liwiro lake lake ndi kubwereza mayankho a mafunso ake mmene angafunikire. Sikoyenera kuti embellish mikhalidwe imene iye adzadzipeza yekha - ananamizira zabwino zimayambitsa kusakhulupirira. Palibe chifukwa choti musamanamize munthu wachikulire: chinyengo chikawululidwa, zidzakhala zovuta kuti muyambirenso kukhulupirirana.

3: Osamukankha

Kwa anthu okalamba, kukana mavuto atsopano kumachepa m’kupita kwa zaka. Amakhala ngati ana, koma ngati ali ndi chitetezo chachilengedwe, ndiye kuti kukana kupsinjika kwa okalamba kumachepa. Izi zimawonetsedwa mwamantha ndi nkhawa. Popeza kuti munthu wachikulire ali pachiwopsezo cha m’maganizo, yesani kumuthandiza ndi kumuuza zakukhosi kwake.

Osati bwanji?

Yankhani mfuu mofuula. Mikangano ndi zonyansa ndi njira yodzitetezera pakachitika kusintha kwa chilengedwe chodziwika bwino kwa munthu wachikulire. Khalani odekha ndipo yesetsani kumvetsetsa kuti mukuyang'anizana ndi wachibale yemwe ali ndi mantha ndi ziyembekezo ndipo akufunikira kumvetsetsa ndi chisamaliro.

Kupanikizika kwamaganizo sikuyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Okalamba amadziŵa bwino lomwe kuti amadalira mwachindunji ana awo. Koma chikumbutso chosafunikira cha izi chingawabweretsere vuto lalikulu lamalingaliro, zomwe zimatsogolera ku kusokonezeka kwamanjenje ndi matenda amisala.

Khwerero 4: Yalani ngodya

Kuwona mtima pokambirana ndi okalamba ndikovomerezeka, koma pali mawu oyambitsa zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa ndi nkhawa mwa iwo. Pewani mawu akuti «ayenera» ndi «ayenera» - angayambitse kukana mkati ndikupangitsa kukhala wopanda chiyembekezo mwa wachibale.

Mawu akuti "nyumba yosungirako okalamba" sayeneranso kugwiritsidwa ntchito. Kwa anthu achikulire, mawuwa akugwirizanabe ndi nkhani zochititsa mantha za malo omwe anthu okalamba amatumizidwa kuti akafere okha. Yesetsani kugwiritsa ntchito mayina amakono a bungwe: geriatric center, nyumba yogonamo kapena malo ogona okalamba.

Osati bwanji?

Muzitchula zinthu zonse mayina awo. Ngakhale ndikulankhulana momasuka, kumbukirani: anthu okalamba ndi osatetezeka komanso okhudzidwa. Mawu amodzi osasamalidwa angawachititse chipongwe kotero kuti zingatenge nthawi yaitali kuti afotokoze.

Gawo 5: Chepetsani ngoziyi

Kwa anthu okalamba, sikuti ndi malo odziwika bwino omwe ali ofunika kwambiri, koma mwayi wokhala pafupi ndi achibale ndi mabwenzi nthawi zonse. Fotokozani kwa wachibale wanu kuti kusamuka kwake ku nyumba yogonamo sikudzasokoneza unansi wanu ndi misonkhano yake ndi ana ndi adzukulu. Ndikofunikira kufotokoza momveka bwino kuti mudzakhalabe ndi mwayi wobwera kudzacheza naye kwa maola angapo kapena kumutenga kumapeto kwa sabata.

Osati bwanji?

Kupereka ziyembekezo zabodza. Ngati munalonjeza kuti mudzachezera wachibale wanu m'nyumba yogona mlungu uliwonse, mudzayenera kusunga mawu anu: palibe choipa kuposa munthu wachikulire wonyengedwa amene amathera kumapeto kwa sabata akudikirira okondedwa ake kuti afike. Wachibale wokalamba, yemwe inu muli pakati pa dziko lake losalimba, ayenera kukhala ndi chidaliro mwa inu ndi kuwona mtima kwanu.

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