Ana akayamba kukonza zinthu pakati pawo, ndi nthawi yoti agwire mitu yawo n’kudandaula kuti “tikhale limodzi.” Koma zingatheke m’njira inanso.
Januware 27 2019
Abale ndi alongo amachitira nsanje makolo awo kwa wina ndi mzake, kukangana ndi kumenyana. Zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti m’banjamo zonse zili bwino. Ana amalumikizana kokha pamaso pa mdani wamba, mwachitsanzo, kusukulu kapena kumsasa. Pakapita nthawi, akhoza kukhala mabwenzi ngati simulimbikitsa mpikisano ndikukakamiza aliyense kugawana nawo. Momwe mungapangire mabwenzi ndi alongo ndi abale, adatero Katerina demina, katswiri wa zamaganizo, katswiri wa maganizo a ana, wolemba mabuku.
Perekani aliyense malo akeake. Palibe njira yokhazikika m'zipinda zosiyanasiyana - osachepera sankhani tebulo, alumali yanu mu chipinda. Zida zodula zingakhale zofala, koma zovala, nsapato, mbale siziri. Kwa ana osakwana zaka ziwiri ndi theka, apatseni aliyense zoseweretsa zawo: sangagwirizanebe.
Lembani malamulo angapo ndikuwayika pamalo odziwika. Mwanayo akhale ndi ufulu wosagawana nawo ngati sakufuna. Kambiranani dongosolo la zilango potenga popanda kufunsa kapena kuwononga chinthu cha wina. Khazikitsani njira zomwezo kwa aliyense, popanda kuchotsera zaka. Mwanayo angapeze kope la sukulu la mkulu ndikujambula, chifukwa zimamuvuta kumvetsa kufunika kwake, koma sikoyenera kufotokozera chifukwa chakuti ndi wamng'ono.
Khalani ndi nthawi yopumira. Izi ndizofunikira makamaka kwa woyamba kubadwa. Werengani, yendani, chinthu chachikulu ndikuganizira za mwanayo kwathunthu. Mkuluyo angakhale nawo paulendo wopita ku sitolo, koma musaiwale kupereka mphotho, kumugogomezera kuti: “Mwathandiza kwambiri, tiyeni tipite kumalo osungira nyama, ndipo wamng’ono adzakhala panyumba, ana saloledwa kumeneko. .”
Kuthetsa mikangano sikuphunzitsidwa ndi mawu okha, komanso chitsanzo.
Siyani chizolowezi chodzifananiza. Ana amapwetekedwanso ndi matonzo a zinthu zing’onozing’ono, mwachitsanzo, chifukwa chakuti wina anagona, ndipo winayo sanatsukebe m’mano. Iwalani mawu oti "koma": "Amaphunzira bwino, koma mumayimba bwino." Izi zidzalimbikitsa mwana mmodzi, ndipo aganiza zongowonjezera maphunziro ake, ndipo winayo adzataya chikhulupiriro mwa iyemwini. Ngati mukufuna kulimbikitsa kuchita bwino - khalani ndi zolinga, perekani aliyense ntchito yake ndi mphotho yake.
Samalani modekha. Palibe cholakwika ndi ana kukangana. Ngati ali a msinkhu wofanana kapena kusiyana kuli kochepa kwambiri, musasokoneze. Khazikitsani malamulo oti azitsatira akamamenyana. Lembani kuti kufuula ndi kuitana mayina, kuponya mitsamiro, mwachitsanzo, kumaloledwa, koma osati kuluma ndi kukankha. Koma ngati wina amapeza zambiri nthawi zonse, kutenga nawo gawo ndikofunikira. Ana anayamba kumenyana kawirikawiri, ngakhale kuti ankalankhulana bwinobwino? Nthawi zina makanda amachita zinthu molakwika akamva kusamvana m’banja, mwachitsanzo, makolo awo ali ndi ubwenzi woipa kapena wina akudwala.
Lankhulani zakukhosi. Ngati mmodzi wa anawo akhumudwitsa mnzake, vomerezani kuti ali woyenerera kutengeka maganizo: “Uyenera kukwiya kwambiri, koma wachita choipa.” Ndiuzeni momwe mungasonyezere zaukali mosiyana. Mukadzudzula, nthawi zonse muzipereka chithandizo kaye kenako n’kulanga.
Tsatirani chitsanzo. Ana amafunika kuphunzitsidwa kugwirizana, kuthandizana, kugonja. Simuyenera kuwakakamiza kukhala paubwenzi, ndi zokwanira kuwerenga nthano, kuonera zojambulajambula, kusewera masewera a timu.
Malangizo kwa amayi a ana omwe ali ndi kusiyana kwa zaka zazing'ono, mmodzi wa iwo ndi osakwana chaka chimodzi ndi theka.
Pezani gulu lothandizira. Ndikofunikira kuti mukhale ndi amayi pafupi nanu omwe angakuthandizeni. Mukatero mudzakhala ndi mphamvu zochitira mwana aliyense m’njira imene akufunikira. Pazaka zosiyanasiyana - zosowa zosiyanasiyana.
Yendani kuzungulira nyumba mu siketi yayitali, ana amafunika kumamatira ku chinachake. Izi zimawapangitsa kumva kukhala otetezeka. Ngati mukufuna ma jeans, mangani lamba wa mwinjiro ku lamba wanu.
Perekani zokonda zovala zopangidwa ndi zinthu zomwe zimatsanzira ubweya… Kwatsimikiziridwa kuti kugwira minyewa yoteroyo kumapatsa mwana chidaliro: “Sindili ndekha.”
Ngati mwanayo akufunsani yemwe mumamukonda kwambiri, Yankhani: "Ndimakukondani"… Ana adabwera pamodzi ndikufunsa kuti asankhe? Munganene kuti: “Aliyense m’banja lathu amakondedwa.” Kunena kuti mumakondanso chimodzimodzi sikungathetse mkanganowo. Yesani kupeza chifukwa chake funsoli linabuka. Pali zilankhulo zosiyanasiyana za chikondi, ndipo mwina mwanayo samva kubwerera: mumamukumbatira, pamene mawu ovomerezeka ndi ofunika kwambiri kwa iye.