Zamkatimu
Kuwerenganso nthano zokondedwa kuyambira ubwana wathu, lero titha kupeza mwa iwo nzeru zomwe zinali zosatheka kwa mwana. Mwachitsanzo, "algorithm" yopezera chikondi chenicheni. Katswiri wama psychotherapist komanso wolemba nthano akufotokoza momwe angafotokozere mauthenga amatsenga ndikuwasintha kukhala masewera othandiza.
Nthawi zambiri amandiuza kuti nthano zimasocheretsa akazi. Heroine amatsimikizika kuti apezedwa ndi wokondedwa wake, ngakhale kuti adagwidwa, kubisika, kapena kusandulika chule. Okonda adzakhaladi mosangalala mpaka kalekale.
M’yoyo, mkazi afunika kuyesetsa kuti apeze cikondi cake. Ndipo lero, upangiri wanthano "khalani ndikudikirira", wopangidwa mwachidwi mu nthano zambiri, sagwira ntchito konse.
Ndikuvomereza, kunja zonse zimawoneka ngati nthano "zimachoka ku zenizeni" ndipo sizingadalirike. Nanga bwanji ngati nthano ndi mauthenga obisika, ndipo sayenera kuwerengedwa "olembedwa", koma "osalembedwa"?
Lingaliro limeneli lidzatifikitsa ku kupezeka kwa cipher yapadera ya nthano. Ndipo zikuwoneka kuti heroine wa nthano amachita zinthu zingapo osati tsiku ndi tsiku, koma zophiphiritsa, zomwe zimakhala zotsatizana zopita ku chisangalalo chachikazi. Tiyeni tiwone zomwe ngwazi zosiyanasiyana zamanthano amachita kuti akumane ndi chikondi ndikusintha miyoyo yawo moyenera. Izi zidzatipatsa malingaliro omveka bwino othandiza.
1. Ngwaziyo amasintha tsoka kukhala labwino
Iye modekha ndi molimba mtima amapita ku tsogolo lake. Amakumana naye, amamutsuka, amamudyetsa. Ndipo tsogolo lochokera kwa mayi wachikulire woyipa limasanduka wamatsenga wabwino.
Malingaliro olembedwa: onetsetsani kuti mukuvomera tsogolo lanu momwe liriri. Kuti muchite izi, siyani mwamphamvu chizoloŵezi chodandaula za tsoka, kukhumba ndi chisoni chifukwa zina zomwe mukuyembekezera sizinakwaniritsidwe. Imani patsogolo pa galasi, dziyang'aneni nokha kwa mphindi zingapo ndikuyang'ana modekha, ndi kunena mokweza kuti: "Tsopano langa, ndiwe wokongola monga ine! Ndikuvomereza wokondedwa wanga! Ndikudziwa kuti mupeza njira yopita ku chisangalalo changa, kukakumana ndi wokondedwa wanga. Ndikulonjeza kuti sindidzakusokonezani ndi madandaulo ndi zitonzo. Ndikukupatsani chidaliro!
Bwerezani malembawo mpaka mutayamba kukhulupirira, mpaka ufulu, mtendere ndi kudzoza ziwonekere mkati mwanu. Chitani izi kawiri pa sabata.
2. Heroine amadutsa njere
Nthawi zambiri mu nthano, mayi wopeza amasakaniza tirigu, mapira, mbewu za poppy, nandolo ndikukakamiza mwana wopeza kuti asankhe, kuzikonza padera.
Malingaliro olembedwa: muwone mwamuna osati ngati wokonda chikondi, komanso ngati wonyamulira mbewu. Yambani kuyang'ana amuna osiyanasiyana ndikudzifunsa nokha mafunso: ndi mbewu yanji yomwe amanyamula mwa iye yekha? Udzu kapena wamphamvu? Ubwino kapena kuwonongeka? Maphunziro otere adzakulitsa chidwi chanu chachikazi komanso kuzindikira.
3. Ngwaziyo amapota chokokera, kuluka kapeti, amaluka
Zochita izi zikuyimira kuleza mtima, kulenga komanso kumvetsetsa bwino za iwe mwini. Malingaliro obisika: mudzidziwe mwadala komanso mwaluso.
Dzifunseni mafunso awiri: Kodi ndikudziwa chiyani za ine ndekha? Kodi sindikudziwa chiyani za ine ndekha? Pezani ndi kulemba mayankho asanu ndi awiri a funso lirilonse. Yesani kubwereza zolimbitsa thupi kamodzi pa sabata.
4. A heroine amaponda nsapato
Bambo a Mfumu amayang'ana ana ake ogona m'mawa uliwonse ndikupeza nsapato zawo zatsopano zatha. Zoona zake n’zakuti ana aakazi amavina usiku.
Malingaliro obisika: kuvina ndi maso otsekedwa kwambiri! Sinthani ku nyimbo iliyonse! Lolani lingaliro lakuti kuvina ndi kalata yophiphiritsira kwa wokondedwa wanu. Tsiku lililonse, kuvina, kulemba uthenga kwa iye. Mmenemo, fotokozerani za inu nokha ndi kumuitanira ku moyo wanu. Mu kuvina kulikonse, auzeni wokondedwa wanu zatsopano za inu nokha.
Lolani maupangiri osavuta okongola akuthandizeni m'moyo!