Zamkatimu
Nthawi zambiri timayiwala za izo, kupeza zifukwa zosiyanasiyana. Pakadali pano, kudzisamalira ndikofunikira kwambiri pakugwira ntchito bwino, chifukwa kumatithandiza kuthana ndi zovuta za tsiku ndi tsiku. Family Therapist Leslie Santana akukamba za momwe mungadziwire ngati mukudzisamalira bwino.
Mu psychotherapy, ndikofunikira kuti muwunike mwachangu momwe kasitomala akuchitira ndi kudzisamalira - ndi m'derali m'mene chinsinsi cha kuchira nthawi zambiri chimakhala. Tsoka ilo, kaŵirikaŵiri samamvetsetsedwa kotheratu, akufanana ndi kudzikonda ndi kudzikonda.
Kodi ma psychotherapists amatanthauza chiyani pokulangizani kuti musamalire nokha? N’chifukwa chiyani chisamaliro chili chofunika kwambiri? Ndi liti pamene imathandiza kwambiri?
Tiyeni tithane.
1. Kusiyanitsa kudzichiritsa tokha ndi kudzikonda
Kudzichiritsa nokha ndikopindulitsa, kudzikonda ndikosiyana kwenikweni. Ndikopindulitsa kwambiri kutenga mphindi 10 patsiku kuti muwunike zomwe zidakukwiyitsani masana ndi nkhanza kuposa kukhala ola limodzi mu salon ya misomali.
Zoonadi, simuyenera kusiya zosangalatsa zazing'ono ndikudzizunza nokha ndi liwongo chifukwa cha izo. Koma kudzisamalira kuyenera kuyang'ana pa kuwongolera thanzi labwino komanso thanzi.
Pomvetsetsa zomwe zimakupangitsani kukhala okhumudwa, mudzaphunzira zambiri za inu nokha, ndipo chidziwitsochi chidzakhala chothandiza kwa inu muzovuta zamtsogolo.
Ndipo ngati mukupita kale ku manicure kapena wokonza tsitsi, ndiye apa pali uphungu wochepa kwa inu: njira zoterezi ndi mwayi wabwino wochita kupuma mozama.
2. Siyanitsani chisamaliro chabodza ndi chisamaliro chenicheni
Pseudo-care ikuwoneka ngati yofanana ndi chisamaliro chenicheni, komabe ndikofunikira kusiyanitsa pakati pawo.
Chitsanzo chabwino ndi kugula zinthu. Tiyerekeze kuti patatha milungu iwiri yakukhumudwa, mwaganiza zodzisangalatsa ndi kugula kwatsopano. Ndizotheka kuti mungasangalale ndi njirayi ndipo malingaliro anu adzasintha kwakanthawi. Vuto ndilakuti nthawi zambiri timachotsa chisamaliro chenicheni ndi obereketsa otere. Nkhawa zachinyengo zimatha kubweretsa mpumulo kwakanthawi, chifukwa sizikhudza zomwe zimayambitsa kukhumudwa kwathu kapena zizindikiro zina zomwe zimativutitsa.
M'malo mwake, yesani kusunga diary ya zokambirana zanu zamkati.
3. Phunzirani kulimbana ndi mavuto
Lusoli nthawi zambiri limanenedwa momveka bwino, koma pakadali pano ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuphatikiza. Kudzisamalira ndi chizindikiro cha unansi wanu ndi inuyo, ndipo kulimbana ndi mavuto kumalimbitsa unansi umenewo.
Ngati simulekerera bwino zovuta, mwachidziwikire, ubale wanu ndi wekha sunakulitsidwe bwino. Pamene mukulimbitsa maubwenzi amenewa, musaiwale kuti ndikofunikira kuphunzira momwe mungathanirane ndi zovuta m'njira zabwino komanso zoyenera.
4. Kumbukirani kulumikizana kwa malingaliro, thupi ndi mzimu
Monga tanenera, kudzisamalira nthawi zonse kumafuna kulimbikitsa thanzi labwino komanso thanzi labwino.
Pamene mukukonzekera kudzisamalira, ganizirani mmene mukugwirira ntchito m’maganizo, mwakuthupi, ndiponso mwauzimu. Kuti mugwiritse ntchito nokha kuti mupereke zotsatira za nthawi yayitali, khalani ndi chizolowezi chowunika momwe zinthu zilili. Yang'anani pa madera ovuta poyamba.
Izi sizikutanthauza kuti muwononge nthawi kapena ndalama zambiri. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, chisamaliro n'chofunika kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi thanzi. Ngati simukudziwa komwe mungayambire, yesani kuyesa mitundu yosiyanasiyana ya kusinkhasinkha, lembani zolinga, phunzirani kuthokoza, yambani kulemba, yesetsani kupuma mozama komanso masewera olimbitsa thupi opumula. Chinthu chachikulu ndichoti potsiriza mutenge sitepe yoyamba kwa inu nokha!
Gwero: PsychoCentral.