Zamkatimu
Nthawi zina timalankhula mawu kwa wina ndi mzake zomwe sizikuwoneka ngati zokhumudwitsa kwa wolankhulayo koma zimatha kupweteka. Awa ndi mawu achipongwe, kumbuyo komwe kuli mkwiyo wosaneneka. Amalepheretsa kudalirana wina ndi mzake ndipo pang'onopang'ono amawononga mgwirizano, mphunzitsi Chris Armstrong ndi wotsimikiza.
"Simunafunse za izo"
Chris Armstrong anati: “Posachedwapa, popita ku bwalo la ndege, ndinaona mwamuna ndi mkazi akukambirana.
Ndi:
“Mukadandiuza.
Ndi iye:
“Simunafunsepo.
“Ndi ndalama zambiri. Ine sindikusowa kuti ndikufunseni inu. Ndimayembekezera kuti undiuza."
"Pali kusiyana kwakukulu pakati pa"sanama" ndi" anali woona mtima," katswiriyo amakhulupirira. — Amene amasamalira mmene mnzake akumvera amadziuza yekha zimene zingavutitse wokondedwa wake. "Simunafunsepo!" ndi mawu odziwika bwino a munthu wankhanza yemwe amapangitsa mbali inayo kukhala ndi mlandu pachilichonse.
"Simunanene, koma mumaganiza"
Nthawi zina timangotengera zolinga ndi zilakolako za anzathu zomwe sananene, koma, monga zikuwonekera kwa ife, adazipeza m'mawu awo. Iye anati, “Ndatopa kwambiri.” Amamva kuti, "Sindikufuna kukhala ndi inu," ndipo nthawi yomweyo amamuimba mlandu. Akudziteteza kuti: "Sindinanene zimenezo." Akupitiriza kuukira: "Sindinanene, koma ndimaganiza."
“Mwina m’njira zina mkazi ameneyu ali wolondola,” Armstrong akuvomereza motero. — Anthu ena amayesadi kupeŵa kukambitsirana ndi mnzawo, kudzilungamitsa okha pokhala otanganidwa kapena otopa. Pang'ono ndi pang'ono, khalidweli lingathenso kukhala nkhanza kwa wokondedwa. Komabe, ife enife titha kukhala aukali, kuvutitsa mbali inayo ndi zongoyerekeza. ”
Timayendetsa mnzako pakona, kutikakamiza kuti tidziteteze. Ndipo titha kuchita zosiyana, pamene, akudziimba mlandu mopanda chilungamo, amasiya kugawana malingaliro ake ndi zomwe adakumana nazo. Choncho, ngakhale mutakhala olondola pa zomwe kwenikweni zili kumbuyo kwa mawu a mnzanu, ndi bwino kukhala omasuka pa zomwe zikukuvutitsani mumtendere, m'malo moyesera kutsutsa, kunena kuti munthuyo sananene.
"Sindikufuna kuti izi zizimveka mwano ..."
"Chilichonse chomwe chidzanenedwa pambuyo pake, nthawi zambiri, chidzakhala chamwano komanso chokhumudwitsa kwa mnzakeyo. Apo ayi, simukanamuchenjeza pasadakhale, akukumbutsa mphunzitsiyo. “Ngati mukufuna kutchula mawu anu oyamba ndi machenjezo otere, kodi muyenera kuwatchula n’komwe?” Mwina muyenera kusinthanso ganizo lanu?
Mukakhumudwitsa wokondedwa wanu, mumamukananso ufulu wakumva zowawa, chifukwa mudachenjeza kuti: "Sindinafune kukukhumudwitsani." Ndipo izi zidzangowonjezera kumuvulaza.
"Sindinakufunseni izi"
Armstrong anati: “Mnzanga Christina amasita malaya a mwamuna wake nthawi zonse komanso amagwira ntchito zambiri zapakhomo. “Tsiku lina anam’pempha kuti anyamule diresi yake mu makina ochapa zovala pobwerera kunyumba, koma sanatero. Chifukwa cha mkangano waukulu, Christina anadzudzula mwamuna wake chifukwa chomusamalira, ndipo iye ananyalanyaza nkhani imeneyi. “Sindinakupempheni kuti musitane malaya anga,” anatero mwamunayo mwamphamvu.
“Sindinakufunseni” ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zopweteka kwambiri zimene mungauze munthu wina. Pochita izi, simumangotengera zomwe mnzanuyo adakuchitirani, komanso malingaliro ake pa inu. “Sindikufunani” ndi uthenga woona wa mawu amenewa.
Pali mawu ena ambiri omwe amawononga maubwenzi athu, koma akatswiri amisala omwe amagwira ntchito ndi maanja nthawi zambiri amawona izi. Ngati mukufuna kusunthirana wina ndi mnzake osati kukulitsa mikangano, siyani mawu achipongwe. Lankhulani ndi wokondedwa wanu za momwe mukumvera komanso zomwe mukukumana nazo mwachindunji, osayesa kubwezera mobisa komanso popanda kukakamiza kudziimba mlandu.
Za Katswiri: Chris Armstrong ndi mphunzitsi waubwenzi.