Psychology

"Pazaka makumi anayi, moyo ukungoyamba kumene," adatero munthu wamkulu wa filimu yotchuka. Mphunzitsi wamalonda Nina Zvereva akugwirizana naye ndipo akuganiza za komwe angakonde kukondwerera tsiku lake la kubadwa kwa 80.

Ndili wamng’ono ndiponso ndili wachinyamata, ndinkakhala ku Moscow kunyumba ya anzanga aang’ono a Zinaida, a Zinaida Naumovna Parnes. Iye anali dokotala wa sayansi, katswiri wa zamankhwala wotchuka, mlembi wa kupezedwa kwa dziko lapansi. Ndikakula, m’pamenenso ubwenzi wathu unalimba. Zinali zosangalatsa kwa ine kumvetsera zonena zake zilizonse, adakwanitsa kutembenuza ubongo wanga m'njira yomwe sindimayembekezera.

Tsopano ndikumvetsa kuti azakhali a ku Moscow Zina akhala mphunzitsi wanga wauzimu, malingaliro ake anzeru adayambukiridwa ndi ine kosatha. Choncho. Iye ankakonda kuwuluka ku Paris, ndipo iye anaphunzira mwapadera Chifalansa kuti alankhule ndi anthu a ku Parisi. Ndipo atatha ulendo woyamba wopita kwa azakhali ake achikulire, anafika modzidzimuka: “Ninush, kulibe okalamba kumeneko! Pali lingaliro la "m'badwo wachitatu". Anthu a m'zaka zachitatu atangopuma pantchito ndipo mpaka ukalamba amapita ku ziwonetsero ndi museums kwaulere, amaphunzira kwambiri, amawuluka padziko lonse lapansi. Ninush, ukalamba wathu walakwika!”

Ndiye kwa nthawi yoyamba ndinaganiza za mfundo yakuti moyo ukhoza kukhala wokongola osati pa zaka 30 kapena 40 zokha. Ndiyeno panalibe nthawi yoganizira za msinkhu nthawi zonse. Moyo unandipatsa ntchito yovuta - kuphunzira ntchito yatsopano. Ndinachoka pa TV n’kukhala mphunzitsi wa zamalonda. Ndinayamba kulemba mabuku okhudza kulera ndi ana. Pafupifupi tsiku lililonse ndimathamanga mozungulira omvera ndi maikolofoni m'manja mwanga ndikuthandizira achinyamata kupeza njira yawo yolankhulirana ndikuphunzira momwe angadziwonetsere okha ndi polojekiti yawo m'mawu osangalatsa, achidule, omveka.

Ndimakonda kwambiri ntchito yanga, koma nthawi zina zaka zimandikumbutsa zokha. Kenako manja anga amandipweteka ndipo zimakhala zovuta kuti ndilembe pa bolodi. Izi zimabwera ndi kutopa kwa sitima zamuyaya ndi ndege, kuchoka kumudzi kwawo komanso mwamuna wake wokondedwa.

Nthawi zambiri, tsiku lina mwadzidzidzi ndinaganiza kuti ndikuthera zaka zanga zachitatu molakwika!

Kodi ziwonetsero, malo osungiramo zinthu zakale, malo owonetsera zisudzo ndi kuphunzira zilankhulo zili kuti? N’chifukwa chiyani ndimagwira ntchito molimbika chonchi? Chifukwa chiyani sindingathe kuyimitsa? Ndipo funso linanso: kodi padzakhala ukalamba wodekha m'moyo wanga? Ndiyeno ndinaganiza zodziikira ndekha mipiringidzo - ndili ndi zaka 70, kusiya maphunziro, kuyang'ana pa kuphunzitsa ndi kulemba mabuku. Ndipo ku 75, ndikufuna kusintha mawonekedwe a moyo wanga wopenga ndikuyamba kukhala ndi moyo.

Pamsinkhu uwu, monga momwe ndikumvera tsopano, kukhala mu chisangalalo sikophweka konse. M'pofunika kupulumutsa ubongo, ndipo chofunika kwambiri - thanzi. Tiyenera kusuntha, kudya moyenera komanso kuthana ndi mavuto omwe amapeza munthu aliyense. Ndinayamba kulota za usinkhu wanga wachinayi! Ndili ndi mphamvu komanso mwayi wokonzekera lero mikhalidwe ya moyo wabwino muukalamba.

Ndikudziwa motsimikiza kuti sindikufuna kulemetsa ana anga ndi mavuto anga: kuwalola kuti azigwira ntchito ndikukhala momwe akufunira. Ndikudziwa kuchokera m’chondichitikira changa mmene kuliri kovuta kukhala ndi mantha nthaŵi zonse ndi udindo wonse wa makolo okalamba. Titha kukonza nyumba yathuyathu yamakono!

Ndimalota ndikugulitsa nyumba ku Moscow ndi Nizhny Novgorod, kusonkhanitsa abwenzi, ndikukhazikika pamalo okongola. Pangani kuti banja lililonse likhale ndi nyumba yakeyake, koma mankhwala ndi ntchito zimagawidwa. Mwamuna wanga ananena molondola kuti ana athu ayenera kupanga gulu loyang'anira - bwanji ngati sclerosis yathu ibwera msanga kuposa momwe timafunira?

Ndimalota holo yayikulu yamakanema yabwino, dimba lachisanu komanso njira zoyendamo

Ndikufuna wophika bwino komanso khitchini yabwino m'chipinda chilichonse - ndiphika mpaka mphindi yomaliza ya moyo wanga! Timafunikiranso zipinda zabwino za alendo kwa ana athu, zidzukulu ndi mabwenzi omwe pazifukwa zina safuna kukhazikika m'nyumba yathu yogona - adzanong'oneza bondo, choncho nyumba zowonjezera kapena nyumba ziyenera kuperekedwa pasadakhale.

Chosangalatsa ndichakuti malingaliro awa sikuti amangondilowetsa m'chisoni kapena chisoni, koma, m'malo mwake, amandinyamula ndikundisangalatsa. Moyo ndi wautali, ndizo zabwino.

Magawo osiyanasiyana a moyo amapereka mwayi wosiyanasiyana wa chinthu chachikulu - kumva chisangalalo chokhala. Ndili ndi zidzukulu ziwiri zazing'ono kwambiri. Ndikufuna kukakhala nawo maukwati awo! Kapena, muzovuta kwambiri, lembani moni wamavidiyo oseketsa, mutakhala pafupi ndi mwamuna wanu m'munda wachisanu m'malo okongola omwe mumakonda. Ndipo kwezani galasi la shampeni, lomwe lidzabweretsedwe kwa ine pa tray yokongola.

Ndipo chiyani? Maloto amatha kukwaniritsidwa ngati ali ofunitsitsa, koma achindunji komanso ofunikira. Komanso, ndikadali ndi nthawi. Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukhala ndi moyo mpaka m'badwo wachinayi, popeza ndinakana mwadala wachitatu.

Siyani Mumakonda