Mosangalala Nthawi Zonse: Malangizo 6 Opumula Popanda Kuwononga Maubale

Pambuyo pazaka zambiri zantchito, mutha kumasuka komanso osathamangira kulikonse m'mawa. Mwinamwake mukumva kupumula, kukwezedwa, kuda nkhawa, ndi chisoni pang’ono. Ndipo mumamvetsetsanso kuti kupuma pantchito kumatanthauza chiyembekezo chokhala ndi nthawi yochulukirapo kunyumba ndi mnzanu. Poyamba, izi zimakondweretsa, koma mlungu ndi mlungu umadutsa, ndipo chithunzi cha kusonkhana pamodzi kukhitchini kapena kutsogolo kwa TV chimasiya kukhala chokoma kwambiri.

Kupuma pa ntchito kungapangitse banja kukhala lovuta, ngakhale lolimba. Kwa zaka zambiri mwakhala mukuchita bwino, ndipo tsopano mwadzidzidzi ndalamazo zatha. Pochita chithandizo changa, ndakumana ndi mabanja angapo omwe adadutsa nthawi yovutayi. Nazi malingaliro omwe nthawi zambiri ndimapereka kwa makasitomala anga.

1. Khazikani mtima pansi

Miyezi yotsiriza isanayambe komanso yoyamba itatha ntchito ingafanane ndi kugwedeza kwenikweni kwamphamvu kwa malingaliro. Ngakhale mwakhala mukudikirira mphindi ino kwa nthawi yayitali, izi sizimanyalanyaza kupsinjika kwakukulu komanso mawonekedwe amalingaliro ndi malingaliro osayembekezeka okhudzana nawo.

Ndipotu kupuma pantchito n’kofunika kwambiri, n’kumene kumasintha kwambiri moyo wa munthu ngati mmene wachitira ukwati kapena kubadwa kwa mwana. Chisangalalo pankhaniyi nthawi zonse chimalumikizidwa ndi nkhawa komanso nkhawa yayikulu yamkati. Choncho, sonyezani chifundo chambiri kuposa masiku onse, makamaka ngati nonse munapuma pantchito posachedwapa.

2. Zindikirani kusintha kwa malingaliro anu, momwe mumamvera komanso momwe mumakhalira

Kodi mwadzipeza kuti mukumwa mowa kwambiri, kugula zinthu pafupipafupi, komanso kukhumudwa ndi zinthu zazing'ono? Nanga bwanji mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu? Izi zikhoza kukhala zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mmodzi kapena nonse munaona kuti n'zovuta kumanga moyo watsopano mutapuma pantchito, kapena kuti ubale wanu ukusintha chifukwa cha zochitikazi.

Ngati muwona zosinthazi, onetsetsani kuti mumayang'ana kwambiri njira zomwe mumagwiritsa ntchito polimbana ndi kupsinjika maganizo komanso / kapena kuyesa zatsopano: kulemba, njira zosinkhasinkha kapena miyambo yachipembedzo, kupita kumunda kapena kukaonana ndi dokotala yemwe angakuthandizeni pamavuto. Muuzeni zomwezo kwa mnzanuyo ngati muwona kuti ali ndi mavuto ofanana.

Konzani zoyenda kuti muzisinthana kukambirana za momwe mukumvera komanso momwe mukumvera mukapuma pantchito. Ndikofunika kugawanitsa nthawi mofanana kuti mnzanuyo alankhule theka loyamba la ulendo, ndipo winayo pobwerera. Osasokonezana kuti aliyense alankhule ndi kumveka. Perekani malangizo ndi ndemanga pokhapokha ngati mnzanuyo akufunsa mwachindunji.

3. Osapanga zisankho zazikulu

Panthawi ya mkuntho wamalingaliro, ndikofunikira kwambiri kupewa kusuntha mwadzidzidzi popanga zisankho zazikulu pamoyo. Mungakhale ndi mikangano yachiwawa, imachitika imodzi ndi ina kwa miyezi ingapo, ndiyeno padzakhala chiyeso chogwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti ukwati suli wotheka.

Kutsika kwadzidzidzi kwa ndalama kungathenso kuopseza okwatirana ndipo angafune kusintha kwambiri moyo wawo ndi/kapena kusamukira kumalo kumene mtengo wa moyo ndi wotsika.

Malingaliro oterowo angakhale magwero a mikangano yaikulu. Tengani nthawi yanu ndikulonjezana wina ndi mnzake kuti simupanga zisankho zazikulu kwa nthawi yoikika (miyezi isanu ndi umodzi mpaka chaka). Pakapita nthawi, zosankha zomwe zingatheke zitha kukambidwa pakati pawo komanso ndi akatswiri pagawo linalake.

4. Musamayembekezere kuti wokondedwa wanu angakusangalatseni.

Mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ali ndi zochita zake ndi zochitika zake, zomwe wakhala akuzigwiritsa ntchito tsiku lililonse kwa zaka zambiri. Lemekezani zikhalidwe za wina ndi mnzake mukapuma ndipo nonse muli kunyumba. Tengani nthawi kuti mudziwe momwe mnzanuyo amakonda kugwiritsa ntchito masiku awo komanso zomwe mumakonda kuchita nokha. Ngati aliyense wa inu ali ndi lingaliro la zomwe amakonda, zimakhala zosavuta kuti mupeze njira zogwirizanirana ndi ndandanda zanu kuti zigwirizane ndi aliyense.

5. Dziwaninso nokha komanso zomwe mumakonda

Anthu ambiri amakhala otanganidwa kwambiri ndi ntchito yawo kwa zaka zambiri moti amaiwala mmene amakonda kuthera nthawi yawo yopuma. Mwina munasiya zokonda zanu zomwe mumakonda koma zogwiritsa ntchito kwambiri kapena zowonongera nthawi (monga kuphika, kuimba zida zoimbira, kulima dimba) kuti muzichita zinthu zosavuta zomwe zimakusiyani ndi mphamvu mukamaliza ntchito (mwachitsanzo, kuwonera TV). ).

Tsopano popeza simukufunikanso kugwira ntchito, ndi nthawi yoganizira momwe mumasangalalira ndi nthawi yanu yopuma. Ndi chiyani chomwe chimakupangitsani kukhala osangalala, kodi nthawi zonse mumafuna kuchita chiyani? Yang'anani ntchito zomwe zingakhale zopindulitsa ndi kukupatsani chisangalalo kapena tanthauzo. Konzekerani kudzidabwitsa nokha, dzidziwitseni nokha. Iyi ndi mphatso kwa inu ndi mnzanuyo, yemwe angakhudzidwe ndi ntchito yanu yatsopano - kotero kuti amafunanso kutenga nawo mbali.

6. Khalani ndi chidwi ndi kuthandizana wina ndi mzake

Kwa mwamuna ndi mkazi amene akhala pamodzi kwa nthaŵi yaitali, n’zosavuta kuganiza kuti aphunzirana bwinobwino. Tsoka ilo, izi zimabweretsa kutaya chidwi ndi kumasuka, zomwe zimakulepheretsani inu ndi banja lanu. Ndizotopetsa komanso zotopetsa nthawi zonse kulosera za mnzako ndikumaganiza kuti sasintha. Khalidwe limeneli lingakhale lopanda phindu, chifukwa kaŵirikaŵiri zosintha zathu sizimawonedwa ndi kunyozedwa.

Perekani mpata wina ndi mzake kuti mupumule. Kumbukirani kuti mudakhala maola ambiri otalikirana mukugwira ntchito, chifukwa chake pali zinthu zambiri m'moyo wa mnzanu zomwe simukuzidziwa. Tiyerekeze kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu akupitirizabe kusintha, khalani ndi chidwi chofuna kudziwa zimene zikumuchitikira komanso mmene zikumuchitikira. Yang'anani njira zothandizira ndi kulimbikitsana wina ndi mzake kuti zaka zanu zopuma pantchito zikhale zosangalatsa monga momwe mungathere kwa nonse.

Za Mlembi: Katherine King ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo ndi Pulofesa Wothandizira wa Psychology ku William James College, akuphunzitsa gerontology, chitukuko cha chitukuko, ndi makhalidwe.