Chimwemwe: Malamulo 5 omwe simukuwadziwa

Kafukufuku wambiri akuwonetsa kuti chinsinsi cha chimwemwe ndicho kumveketsa bwino zolinga zanu. Kuyambira paubwana, timaphunzitsidwa kuti tiyenera kudziikira miyezo yapamwamba ndi kupeza chikhutiro m’ntchito yabwino, zopambana ndi zipambano. M'malo mwake, kutanganidwa ndi zotsatira kumakulepheretsani kukhala osangalala, akutero Raj Raghunathan, mlembi wa If You're So Smart, Why Are You Sample?

Analingalira zimenezi poyamba pa msonkhano ndi anzake akale a m’kalasi. Anazindikira kuti kupambana koonekeratu kwa ena a iwo - kupita patsogolo kwa ntchito, ndalama zambiri, nyumba zazikulu, maulendo osangalatsa - amawonekera kukhala osakhutira ndi osokonezeka.

Zowona izi zidapangitsa Raghunathan kuti achite kafukufuku kuti amvetsetse psychology ya chisangalalo ndikuyesa malingaliro ake: chikhumbo chotsogolera, kukhala wofunikira, wofunikira komanso wofunidwa chimangosokoneza malingaliro abwino. Chifukwa chake, adapeza zigawo zisanu zofunika kwambiri za chisangalalo.

1. Osathamangitsa chisangalalo

Pofunafuna chisangalalo chamtsogolo, nthawi zambiri timayiwala kuyika patsogolo zomwe zili patsogolo. Ngakhale kuti ambiri aife timavomereza kuti n’chofunika kwambiri kuposa ntchito kapena ndalama, m’zochita zathu nthawi zambiri timazipereka kuti tizichita zinthu zina. Khalani osamala. Palibe chifukwa chodera nkhawa za momwe mwasangalalira - chitani zomwe zimakuthandizani kuti mukhale osangalala pano ndi pano.

Koyambira. Ganizirani zomwe zimakupatsirani chisangalalo - kukumbatirana ndi okondedwa, zosangalatsa zakunja, kugona bwino usiku, kapena zina. Lembani mndandanda wa mphindi zimenezo. Onetsetsani kuti nthawi zonse amakhalapo m'moyo wanu.

2. Tengani udindo

Osaimba mlandu ena chifukwa chosasangalala. Kupatula apo, zimatengera inu. Tonsefe timatha kulamulira maganizo athu ndi mmene tikumvera, mosasamala kanthu za mmene zinthu zilili kunja kwa dziko. Kudziletsa kumeneku kumatipangitsa kukhala omasuka komanso osangalala.

Koyambira. Kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi kumathandiza kuti mukhale odziletsa. Yambani kudzisamalira: onjezerani zolimbitsa thupi pang'ono, idyani chipatso chimodzi china patsiku. Sankhani mitundu yolimbitsa thupi yomwe ingakuthandizireni bwino ndikukuthandizani kuti mukhale bwino, ndikuyiphatikiza pazochita zanu zatsiku ndi tsiku.

3. Pewani kufananiza

Ngati kwa inu chisangalalo chimagwirizana ndi kudziona kuti ndinu wapamwamba kuposa wina, ndiye kuti mudzakhumudwitsidwa nthawi ndi nthawi. Ngakhale mutakwanitsa kupambana omwe akukupikisana nawo tsopano, posachedwa wina adzakuposani. Nthawi zambiri, zaka zimayamba kukukhumudwitsani.

Kuyerekeza ndi ena kungawoneke ngati njira yabwino yodzilimbikitsira: "Ndidzakhala wopambana kwambiri m'kalasi langa / mu kampani / padziko lapansi!" Koma bala iyi ipitilira kusuntha, ndipo simungathe kukhala wopambana kwamuyaya.

Koyambira. Ngati mumadziyesa nokha ndi ena, ndiye kuti mosasamala mudzayenda mozungulira zolakwa zanu. Chifukwa chake khalani okoma mtima kwa inu nokha - mukamayerekeza pang'ono, mudzakhala osangalala.

4. Pitani ndi kutuluka

Ambiri aife takumanapo ndi kuyenda nthawi zina, zomwe zimatilimbikitsa tikagwidwa ndi chinthu chomwe timataya nthawi. Sitiganizira za udindo wathu wa chikhalidwe cha anthu, sitiyesa momwe timakhalira bwino kapena moipa ndi ntchito yomwe timamizidwa.

Koyambira. Kodi mungatani? Kodi ndi chiyani chomwe chimakusangalatsani, chokulimbikitsani? Kuthamanga, kuphika, kulemba, kujambula? Lembani mndandanda wa zochitikazi ndipo muzipatula nthawi yozichita nthawi zonse.

5. Khulupirirani alendo

Mlozera wachisangalalo uli wokulirapo m’maiko kapena madera amene nzika zinzawo zimakhulupirirana. Mukakayikira ngati wogulitsa angawerenge zosinthazo molondola, kapena mukuwopa kuti wina wapaulendo m’sitimayo angabereni kanthu, mumataya mtendere wamumtima.

Mwachibadwa kukhulupirira achibale ndi mabwenzi. Kukhulupirira alendo ndi nkhani ina kotheratu. Ichi ndi chisonyezo cha momwe timakhulupirira kwambiri moyo.

Koyambira. Phunzirani kukhala omasuka. Monga mchitidwe, yesetsani kulankhula ndi osachepera mmodzi mlendo tsiku lililonse - mumsewu, mu sitolo ... Ganizirani pa zabwino mphindi kulankhulana, osati pa mantha kuti mukhoza kuyembekezera mavuto kwa alendo.