Zamkatimu
Moyo umayimba, mtima ukulefuka… Ndipo chimachitika ndi chiyani ku ubongo wa munthu wachikondi? Zosintha zisanu ndi ziwiri zomwe zingatheke pokhapokha titadziwa kuti ichi ndi chikondi.
Timayamba kuzolowera
Chikondi sichimatchedwa mankhwala pachabe. Tikakhala m’chikondi, mbali zomwezo muubongo wathu zimayamba kugwira ntchito ngati mmene tazolowera mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Timakhala osangalala ndipo timafunitsitsa kukumana ndi izi mobwerezabwereza. M’lingaliro lina, munthu amene ali m’chikondi amakhala pafupifupi chidakwa choledzeretsa, komabe, iye saika thanzi lake pachiswe, m’malo mwake, mosiyana.
Sitidziganizira tokha, koma za "ife"
M'malo molankhula ndi kuganiza "Ine", timayamba kulankhula ndi kuganiza "ife". Kodi pali kusiyana kotani? Kafukufuku waposachedwa wasonyeza kuti omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "ine", "wanga", "ine" nthawi zambiri amakhala okhumudwa kwambiri kuposa omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "ife" ndi "wathu" - zomwe zimatsimikiziranso kuti chikondi Ubale umapangitsa thanzi.
Tikukhala anzeru
Chikondi ndi chabwino kwa psyche. Okonda amakumana ndi kuchuluka kwa dopamine, timadzi timene timalumikizana ndi chisangalalo, chikhumbo, ndi chisangalalo. Maubwenzi mwa anthu okwatirana amathandiza kuti akhale ndi moyo wautali, nzeru komanso thanzi labwino.
Ndife ofunitsitsa kuthandiza ena
Chikhulupiriro ndi chithandizo ndizofunikira kwambiri muubwenzi, ndipo ubongo wathu ndi wokonzeka kutithandiza mwanjira iliyonse. Maphunziro a MRI amasonyeza kuti tikakhala m'chikondi, ntchito za lobes zam'tsogolo, zomwe zimakhala ndi udindo, makamaka, kuweruza ndi kutsutsa, zimachepa, ndipo sitingathe kutsutsa kapena kukayikira anthu omwe ndi ofunika kwa ife.
Sitikupanikizika kwambiri
Ubongo wathu suiwala zomverera kuchokera kukhudza koyamba kwa wokondedwa. Chodabwitsa kwambiri: tikangogwira dzanja la wokondedwa wathu, zimamuteteza ku nkhawa, kumachepetsa kuthamanga kwa magazi komanso kuchepetsa ululu.
Malo osangalatsa muubongo amawala
Pambuyo pophunzira momwe ubongo wa anthu omwe amavomerezana kuti ali ndi "chikondi chopenga" kwa wina ndi mzake, asayansi adapeza kuti ntchito ya "Pleasure Center" ya aliyense wa iwo inakula kwambiri pamene adawona ... chithunzi cha wokondedwa. Ndipo m'dera lokhudzana ndi kuyankha kupsinjika, ntchito, m'malo mwake, idachepa.
Timamva kukhala otetezeka
Ubale umene umamanga okondana ndi wofanana ndi ubale wa mwana ndi mayi. Ndicho chifukwa chake “mwana wamkati” amatembenukira muubongo wathu, ndipo malingaliro athu aubwana, mwachitsanzo, a chisungiko chotheratu, amabwerera kwa ife. Kafukufuku akuwonetsanso kuti tikakhala m'chikondi, zigawo zaubongo zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi mantha ndi malingaliro oyipa zimakhala zochepa.