Zamkatimu
Ngakhale kuti pali nkhani ya “chochitika chatsopano” m’chitaganya, ozunzidwa otsatira akuvutika kwinakwake. Timamvetsetsa chifukwa chake m’zaka zaposachedwapa kwakhala ozunza ambiri, kumene analipo kale, ndi chifukwa chake ena akali okhutiritsidwa kuti amene akuvutika nako ali ndi liwongo kaamba ka kuchitiridwa nkhanza.
Mawu oti "kuzunza" akuwonekera kwambiri pamasamba osindikizira komanso pa intaneti. Koma chomwe chiri komanso chifukwa chake maubwenzi ankhanza ali owopsa samamvetsetsabe aliyense. Ena amanenanso kuti izi sizoposa malonda (mabuku omwe ali ndi mawu akuti "nkhanza" mumutu amaphwanya zolemba zonse zogulitsa, ndipo maphunziro a pa intaneti kwa omwe akuzunzidwa amatsatiridwa ndi mamiliyoni ambiri oyambitsa).
Koma kwenikweni, mawu atsopanowa adapereka dzina lake ku chinthu chakale komanso chokhazikika m'dera lathu.
Kodi ubale wankhanza ndi chiyani
Maubwenzi opondereza ndi omwe munthu wina amaphwanya malire a munthu wina, amanyozetsa, amalola nkhanza poyankhulana ndi kuchitapo kanthu pofuna kupondereza chifuniro cha wozunzidwayo. Nthawi zambiri maubwenzi ankhanza - mwa okwatirana, pakati pa achibale, makolo ndi ana, kapena abwana ndi ochepera - amakula kwambiri. Choyamba, izi ndi kuphwanya malire ndi pang'ono, ngati kuti mwangozi, kupondereza chifuniro, ndiye kudzipatula payekha ndi zachuma. Kunyoza ndi kuwonetsa nkhanza ndizo mfundo zazikulu za ubale wozunza.
Nkhanza mu cinema ndi mabuku
"Koma bwanji za chikondi chopenga, monga Romeo ndi Juliet?" - mukufunsa. Uwunso ndi ubale wankhanza. Ndipo nkhani zina zilizonse zachikondi zimachokera ku opera yomweyo. Akamukwaniritsa, ndipo amamukana, kenako amagonja ku chikakamizo chake, kenako amadziponyera yekha pathanthwe, chifukwa wokondedwa wake wamwalira kapena kupita kwa wina, izi siziri za chikondi. Ndi za codependency. Popanda izo, sipakanakhala buku losangalatsa kapena filimu yosaiwalika.
Makampani opanga mafilimu akonda nkhanza. Ndipo ichi ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe maubwenzi osayenera amawoneka kwa ife ndendende zomwe takhala tikuyang'ana kwa moyo wathu wonse.
Nkhani monga Juliet, John ndi Elizabeth kuchokera 9 ½ Masabata, Daenerys ndi Khala Drogo kuchokera Game of Thrones, zikuchitika kwa anthu enieni, nkhawa akatswiri maganizo. Sosaite, m'malo mwake, imawasangalatsa, kuwapeza achikondi, osangalatsa komanso ophunzitsa.
Ngati ubale wa wina ukuyenda bwino, ukhazikika pa mgwirizano wofanana ndi kukhulupirirana, kwa ambiri zikuwoneka ngati zotopetsa kapena zokayikitsa. Palibe sewero lachisangalalo, agulugufe m'mimba, nyanja ya misozi, mkazi samamenyana ndi nkhanza, mwamuna samapha mdani mu duel - chisokonezo ...
Ngati ubale wanu ukukula ngati kanema, ndiye kuti tili ndi nkhani zoyipa kwa inu.
"Nkhanza ndi mafashoni"
Pali malingaliro ambiri okhudza chifukwa chake maubwenzi ozunza amakhala mwadzidzidzi. Nthawi zambiri amatsutsana ndi diametrically. Monga nthawi zonse, chowonadi chiri penapake pakati.
Nthawi zambiri mumatha kumva lingaliro loti anthu amakono akhala otometsedwa kwambiri - achiwerewere komanso osatetezeka. Mkhalidwe uliwonse wachilendo ungayambitse kupsinjika maganizo, ndipo ngakhale kudzipha. “Ngati anayesera kulankhula za mtundu wina wa nkhanza m’Nkhondo Yadziko Lonse Yoyamba kapena Yachiŵiri kapena m’nthaŵi ya Stalin. Ndipo mwachisawawa, ndi maganizo onga a achinyamata amakono, palibe nkhondo yomwe ingapambane.
Ngakhale kuti maganizo amenewa angaoneke ngati ankhanza chotani, pali zoona zake. M'zaka za zana la XNUMX, makamaka koyambirira komanso pakati, anthu anali "akhungu lakuda". Inde, iwo anamva ululu - mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo, odziwa, kutaya okondedwa awo, anagwa m'chikondi ndipo anakhumudwa, ngati kumverera sikunali kogwirizana, koma osati mokokomeza monga mbadwo wamakono. Ndipo pali kufotokoza komveka kwa izi.
Panthaŵiyo, anthu anapulumukadi—Nkhondo Yapadziko Lonse Yoyamba, kupanduka kwa 1917, njala ya 1932-1933, Nkhondo Yadziko Lachiŵiri, chiwonongeko cha pambuyo pa nkhondo ndi njala. Dziko mochuluka kapena mocheperapo adachira ku zochitika izi pokhapokha mu ulamuliro wa Khrushchev. Anthu a m’nthaŵiyo akanakhala omvera chisoni monga momwe ife timachitira, sakadapulumuka m’mavuto onsewo.
Wozunza wamkulu ndi mwana wopwetekedwa mtima
Mikhalidwe yamakono ya kukhalapo si yankhanza komanso yovuta, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti malingaliro aumunthu amatha kukula. Izi zinapangitsa kuti anthu ayambe kubadwa ndi psyche yovuta kwambiri. Kwa iwo, zochitika zomwe zimangofanana ndi zomwe zidachitika koyambirira komanso pakati pazaka za zana la XNUMX ndi tsoka lenileni.
Kuchulukirachulukira, akatswiri a zamaganizo amakumana ndi anthu omwe ali ndi "kusakonda" kwambiri paubwana pamagawo. Ngakhale, zingawonekere, mayi wamakono ali ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi mphamvu kwa mwana kuposa mayi wamba pakati pa zaka zana zapitazi.
Ana amenewa amakula n’kukhala achikulire ovulala, ndipo nthawi zambiri amachitira nkhanza. Zitsanzo zakale zimawalimbikitsa kuti alandire chikondi m'njira zina, zosagwirizana ndi chilengedwe, kapena kukhala ozunzidwa omwe sadziwa momwe angatulukire muubwenzi woipa. Anthu oterowo amakumana ndi mnzawo, amamukonda ndi mtima wonse ndipo amayamba kuchita nsanje, kulamulira, kuchepetsa kulankhulana, kuwononga kudzidalira, ndi kukakamiza.
Magwero a nkhanza zovomerezeka
Koma nkhanza zakhalapo kuyambira kale ndipo sizingatheke kutha m'miyoyo yathu. Pasanapite nthawi panalibe akatswiri amene angayerekeze kufotokoza nkhaniyi. Ndipo izi ndizochitika padziko lonse lapansi.
Maubwenzi osagwirizana ndi anthu ali paliponse. Atsogoleri omwe amazunzidwa pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi mayiko a ku Middle East, kumene amalerabe ana mkati mwa miyambo ndi miyambo yakale, amaika malingaliro olakwika okhudza ukwati ndi ufulu m'mitu yawo.
Mu chikhalidwe cha ku Russia, kuzunzidwa ndi gawo lofunika kwambiri la moyo. Ingokumbukirani «Domostroy», kumene mkazi ndi kapolo wa mwamuna wake, kumvera, kugonjera ndi chete. Koma mpaka pano, ambiri amakhulupirira kuti ubale wa Domostroevsky ndi wolondola. Ndipo pali akatswiri omwe amaulutsa kwa anthu ambiri ndikupeza kuyankha kwakukulu kuchokera kwa omvera (ndipo, zodabwitsa, kuchokera kwa amayi).
Tiyeni tibwerere ku nkhani yathu. Theka lachiwiri la XX atumwi. Asilikali ochuluka sanabwerere kunkhondo, m'mizinda ndi m'midzi muli kusowa kwathunthu kwa amuna. Akazi amavomereza aliyense - onse olumala, ndi oledzera, ndi omwe psyche yawo inavutika.
Mwamuna m’nyumbamo anali chitsimikizo cha kupulumuka panthaŵi zovuta. Nthawi zambiri ankakhala m'mabanja awiri kapena atatu, ndipo momasuka
Mchitidwe umenewu unali wofala makamaka m’midzi. Akazi ankafuna kwambiri ana ndi banja moti mpaka anagwirizana ndi mikhalidwe yoteroyo, chifukwa panali njira ziŵiri zokha: “motero kapena ayi.”
Makhazikitsidwe ambiri amakono akhazikika pamenepo - kuchokera kwa agogo athu aakazi ndi agogo aakazi. Zomwe zinkawoneka ngati zachizoloŵezi panthawi ya kuchepa kwakukulu kwa amuna ndizosavomerezeka lerolino, koma akazi ena akupitirizabe kukhala ndi moyo wotero. Kupatula apo, agogo anga nawonso adalonjezedwa kuti: "Chabwino, amusiye nthawi zina, koma samwa mowa ndikubweretsa ndalama m'nyumba." Komabe, musaiwale kuti wochitira nkhanzayo samangiriridwa ndi mwamuna wamwamuna - mkazi amathanso kuchita nkhanza m'banja.
Masiku ano tili ndi zinthu zonse zotithandiza kukhala ndi moyo wogwirizana komanso wosangalala. Dziko potsiriza likukamba za codependencies, aggressors ndi ozunzidwa. Ngakhale mutakhala ndani, musakhale ndi moyo m'mibadwo isanu ndi iwiri musanakhale ndi moyo. Mutha kutuluka m'malemba odziwika bwino kwa anthu ndi makolo ndikukhala mwaulemu ndi kulandiridwa.