M'dziko lamakono, pali mwayi wopeza zibwenzi zatsopano kuposa kale. Komabe, ambiri a ife timatha kukhalabe okhulupirika. Iwo likukhalira kuti si za makhalidwe ndi mfundo. Ubongo umatiteteza ku kuperekedwa.
Ngati tili pachibwenzi chomwe chimatikomera, ubongo umatipangitsa kukhala kosavuta kwa ife pochepetsa kukopa kwa ena omwe tingathe kukhala nawo m'maso mwathu. Izi ndi zomwe adapeza katswiri wa zamaganizo Shana Cole (Shana Cole) ndi anzake a ku yunivesite ya New York.1. Anafufuza njira zamaganizidwe zomwe zimathandiza kukhala okhulupirika kwa mnzanu.
M'maphunziro am'mbuyomu amtunduwu, otenga nawo mbali adafunsidwa mwachindunji momwe amasangalalira ndi ena omwe angakhale ogwirizana nawo, kotero ndizotheka kuti mayankho awo pamutu "womvera" wotere angakhale wosaona mtima.
Mu phunziro latsopano, ochita kafukufuku adasankha kuchita zinthu mosiyana osati kufunsa funso mwachindunji.
Ophunzira 131 adatenga nawo gawo pakuyesa kwakukulu. Ophunzira adawonetsedwa zithunzi za anthu omwe angathe kukhala nawo mu labu (a amuna kapena akazi anzawo) ndikudziwitsidwa mwachidule za iwo-makamaka, kaya ali pachibwenzi kapena osakwatiwa. Kenako ophunzirawo anapatsidwa zithunzi zingapo za mnzake wa m’kalasi yemweyo ndipo anauzidwa kuti asankhe chofanana kwambiri ndi chithunzi choyamba. Zimene ophunzirawo sankadziwa n’zakuti zithunzi zachiŵiri zinasinthidwa ndi kompyuta m’njira yoti mwa zina mwa izo munthuyo amaoneka wokongola kwambiri kuposa mmene analili, ndipo zina zosaoneka bwino.
Ophunzira adapeputsa kukongola kwa omwe angakhale okwatirana atsopano ngati akhutitsidwa ndi ubale wawo.
Ophunzira omwe anali pachibwenzi adavotera kukongola kwa okondedwa atsopano pansi pamlingo weniweni. Iwo ankaona chithunzi chenicheni kukhala ofanana ndi «onyozeka» zithunzi.
Pamene phunzirolo ndi munthu pa chithunzicho sanali pachibwenzi, kukongola kwa munthu pa chithunzicho kunavoteledwa kuposa chithunzi chenichenicho (chithunzi chenichenicho chinali chofanana ndi "chopambana").
Ophunzira a 114 adachita nawo kuyesera kwachiwiri kofanana. Olemba a kafukufukuyu adapezanso kuti otenga nawo mbali amapeputsa kukopa kwa okondedwa atsopano pokhapokha ngati akhutitsidwa ndi ubale wawo. Anthu omwe sanasangalale kwambiri ndi ubale wawo ndi mnzawo wapano adachita chimodzimodzi ndi ophunzira omwe sanali pachibwenzi.
Kodi zotsatira izi zikutanthauza chiyani? Olembawo amakhulupirira kuti ngati tili kale paubwenzi wokhazikika womwe timakhutitsidwa nawo, ubongo wathu umathandizira kukhalabe okhulupirika, kutiteteza ku mayesero - anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi okhaokha (omasuka komanso omwe angakhalepo) amawoneka ngati osakongola kuposa momwe alili. .
1 S. Cole et al. «Mu Diso la Okwatirana: Kutsika kwa Maganizo a Attractive Alternative Romantic Partners», Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin, July 2016, vol. 42, №7.