Zamkatimu
"Ingotengani ndikuchita!", "Siyani chilichonse chosaneneka!", "Dzikanize pamodzi!" - Tikamawerenga nkhani za momwe tingakhalire opindulitsa, timakumana ndi mawu olimbikitsa ngati awa nthawi ndi nthawi. Katswiri wa zamaganizo Nick Wignal ndi wotsimikiza kuti uphungu woterowo umavulaza kwambiri kuposa ubwino. Izi ndi zomwe amapereka pobwezera.
Monga anthu ambiri, ndimakonda hacks zokolola. Koma izi ndi zomwe zimandisokoneza: zolemba zonse zomwe ndidawerenga pamutuwu zimapereka upangiri wamphamvu wankhondo: "kuti mukhale opindulitsa m'mawa uliwonse, muyenera kuchita izi ndi izo", "anthu opambana kwambiri padziko lapansi tsiku lililonse azichita", "chifukwa chilichonse kuti muchite, ingosiyani zonse zomwe sizikukupangitsani kuchita bwino. ”
Koma kodi simukuganiza kuti zonse si zophweka? Nanga bwanji ngati anthu onse ochita bwinowa apambana ngakhale kuti ali ndi makhalidwe abwino, omwe amayamikiridwa kwambiri m’chitaganya, osati chifukwa cha iwo? Kodi mfundo zolimba zimene amalalikirazi zimawathandizadi kukhala opindulitsa? Ndipo ngakhale zitakhala choncho, kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti aliyense adzachita mwanjira imeneyi? Ine sindiri wotsimikiza kwathunthu za izi. Monga katswiri wa zamaganizo, nthawi zonse ndimayang'ana zotsatira za njirayi, chachikulu ndikudzidzudzula nthawi zonse.
Poyang'ana koyamba, zitha kuwoneka kuti kwakanthawi kochepa, kudzudzula mwamphamvu kwamkati kumakhala kothandiza, koma "kuthamanga mtunda wautali" kumakhala kovulaza: chifukwa chake, timakhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse ndipo timatha ngakhale kulowa m'maganizo. . Kusatchulanso kuti kudziimba mlandu ndi chimodzi mwa zifukwa zazikulu zozengereza.
Koma tikaphunzira kuzindikira mawu a wotsutsa wamkati m'kupita kwanthawi ndikufewetsa kamvekedwe ka mawu amkati, malingaliro amakhala bwino, ndipo zokolola zimakula. Zomwe muyenera kuchita ndikukhala wokoma mtima kwa inu nokha.
Ndiye mumakhala bwanji (ndikukhala) ochita bwino popanda kudzivutitsa nokha? Nazi mfundo zina zofunika.
1. Fotokozani zolinga zanu
M'dera lathu, amakhulupirira kuti tiyenera kulota zazikulu. Mwina zimenezo n’zoona, koma kudzichepetsa sikupwetekanso. Cholinga chachikulu chimasangalatsa, koma ngati sichikwaniritsidwa, kukhumudwa sikungapeweke. Nthawi zambiri njira yabwino ndikutenga njira zing'onozing'ono ku cholinga chapadziko lonse, kukhazikitsa zolinga zapakatikati ndikuzikwaniritsa.
Ndipo, ndithudi, m’pofunika kukhala woona mtima kwa inu eni. Kodi zolinga zomwe mumadzipangira nokha ndi zanu? Ambiri aife timalephera kuthetsa mavuto ndendende chifukwa si ofunika kwa ife. Kuthera nthawi yochuluka pokwaniritsa zolinga za munthu wina, timayamba kukhala ndi kusakhutira ndi nkhawa. Koma pamene zolingazo zimasonyeza makhalidwe athu enieni, potsirizira pake timagwidwa ndi bata ndi chidaliro.
2. Tsatirani ndondomeko ya munthu payekha
Akatswiri a zokolola nthawi zambiri amatilangiza kumamatira ku chizoloŵezi china, koma bwanji ngati sichingagwire ntchito kwa ife? Kudzuka XNUMX koloko m'mawa, kusamba kosiyana, ola limodzi la ntchito yaumwini musanayambe ntchito yaikulu ... Ndipo ngati ndinu kadzidzi usiku?
M'malo moyesera kudzigonjetsa nokha, yesani kumvera nokha ndikukonzanso zochita zanu za tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwinamwake muyenera kuyamba ndi kutsiriza tsiku lanu la ntchito mochedwa kwambiri kuposa ena. Kapena nkhomaliro yayitali, chifukwa panthawi yopuma mumabwera ndi malingaliro apamwamba kwambiri. Izi zingawoneke ngati zing'onozing'ono, koma m'kupita kwanthawi zingapangitse kusiyana kwakukulu pakupanga kwanu.
3. Zoyembekeza mofatsa
Nthawi zambiri, sitimangoganiza za iwo, kugawana ziyembekezo zofanana ndi anthu otizungulira. Koma kodi zimagwirizana ndi zosowa zathu ndi zolinga zathu? Osati kwenikweni - koma zokolola, kachiwiri, zimakhala zovuta.
Ndiye dzifunseni: Kodi ndikuyembekezera chiyani kuchokera kuntchito? Tengani nthawi yanu, dzipatseni nthawi yoganiza. Wina ayenera kusinkhasinkha kuti ayankhe funsoli, wina ayenera kulankhula ndi bwenzi lapamtima, wina ayenera kulemba maganizo ake papepala. Mukatsimikizira zomwe mukuyembekezera, dzikhazikitseni chikumbutso kuti muzizibwerezanso nthawi ndi nthawi.
4. Chepetsani kamvekedwe ka zokambirana zamkati
Pafupifupi tonsefe timadzilankhula tokha ponena za zimene zikuchitika kwa ife, ndipo nthaŵi zambiri timamva wosuliza wamkati yemweyo amene akutidzudzula ndi kutitsutsa kuti: “Ndiwe chitsiru chotani nanga kuwononga chirichonse! kapena "Ndine munthu waulesi - chifukwa cha izi, mavuto anga onse ..."
Kukambitsirana kwa mkati ndi kamvekedwe kamene timalongosola zimene zikuchitika zimakhudza mmene tikumvera, mmene timadzionera tokha, mmene timamvera, ndi mmene timagwirira ntchito. Kudzidzudzula tokha chifukwa cha khalidwe loipa ndi zolephera, timangodzipangitsa tokha kukhala oipitsitsa ndi kudziletsa tokha kupeza njira yotulukira mumkhalidwewo. Choncho, ndi bwino kuphunzira kudzisamalira mosamala komanso mofatsa.
Ntchito itaima, Ernest Hemingway anadzikumbutsa kuti, “Osadandaula. Ukhoza kulemba kale ndipo ukhoza kulemba tsopano.” Ananenanso kuti nthawi zonse amagwira ntchito bwino masika. Ichi ndi chitsanzo chabwino cha momwe mungadzimvere nokha, kudziwa mawonekedwe anu ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti mugwire bwino ntchito.
Aliyense wa ife amakhala ndi nthawi yomwe sitipanga bwino kapena kugwera mu chibwibwi. Izi nzabwino. Zokolola zitha kudutsa mu "nyengo yozizira" kapena "chimake cha kasupe". Musayembekezere kuti masika adzakhalapo mpaka kalekale. Phunzirani kuyamikira nyengo yozizira ndikupindula nayo.
Gwero: Yapakatikati.