Nkhani zimasintha, koma zenizeni zimakhala zofanana - ngwazi kapena ngwazi za buku lotsatira sizipangitsa moyo wathu kukhala wosangalatsa kapena wokhazikika, koma zimativutitsa. Ngati nthawi zonse timasankha mabwenzi awa, ndiye kuti mwachiwonekere takhala tizoloŵera ku mtundu wina wa ubale, anatero katswiri wa zamaganizo Susan Daggis-White.
Kafukufuku waubongo akuwonetsa kuti kumwerekera ndi njira iliyonse, kaya kutchova njuga, kudya kosalamulirika kapena maubwenzi osayenera, kumatikhudzanso chimodzimodzi.
Choyamba, zosangalatsa zimayamba kugwirizana kwambiri ndi chinthu china. Pambuyo pake, timayesa kupezanso chisangalalo chathu, mosasamala kanthu za mtengo wake. Ndipo ngati ubongo uwerenga mkhalidwe wa chipwirikiti chowononga kukhala chokhumbitsidwa kwambiri, umalimbikira mobwerezabwereza mobwerezabwereza. Izi zimayambira gudumu la chizoloŵezi, chomwe chimangowonjezereka pakapita nthawi.
Zindikirani kumwerekera
Ngati nthawi zonse timasankha munthu wolakwika, ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake ubongo umatsimikizira kuti ndi wopambana kwambiri. Tikamvetsetsa zifukwa izi, kudzakhala kosavuta kuti tichotse chizolowezicho ndipo tisadzagwerenso. Mwina zimenezi zimatikumbutsa maganizo amene tinali nawo paubwana kapena unyamata.
Ngati takhala tikunyalanyazidwa ndi kunyozedwa kwa nthawi yayitali, timayamba kuzitenga mopepuka.
Chodabwitsa ndichakuti ubongo umatanthawuza nthawi yomweyo malingaliro ndi malingaliro omwe amadziwika bwino kuti ndi abwino komanso otetezeka: ngakhale omwe sanatisangalatse. Ubongo, monga momwe zinalili, wachita kale "ntchito pa zolakwa", kusanthula maubwenzi omwe ali ofunika kwa ife, anakumbukira script, ndipo tsopano amangoyankha pamisonkhano ndi iwo omwe amalonjeza kubwereza zochitika zomwe, chifukwa cha zifukwa zosiyanasiyana, ankakonda kwambiri.
Ngati takhala tikunyalanyazidwa ndi kunyozedwa kwa nthawi yaitali, ife, ngakhale sitigwirizana ndi izi, timayamba kuzitenga mopepuka. Ganizirani kuti ndi bwino kukumana ndi kusapeza kwa zizolowezi zatsopano kusiyana ndi kukhala ndi chinyengo cha chitetezo.
Nazi njira zinayi zothandizira ubongo kusintha malingaliro omwe amapitilira:
1. Ganizirani za maubwenzi onse omwe simunali osangalala. Khalani oona mtima ndi inu nokha ndikuyesera kusanthula zomwe zimawoneka zokopa kwa inu mwa anthu omwe mwachidziwikire simunagwirizane nawo.
2. Ngati panopa muli m’chigwirizano chimene chili chowononga kwa inu, kugwirizana ndi ndudu kungakuthandizeni. Sizingatheke kusiya kusuta mpaka mutadziwa motsimikiza kuti paketi ya chikonga ikukuyesani m’thumba lanu. Simudzakhala mfulu pokhapokha mutachotsa zomwe zikuwononga moyo wanu pang'onopang'ono, zikhale ndudu kapena mgwirizano ndi munthu. Ganizirani njira zothetsera chibwenzi chomwe chili poizoni kwa inu.
3. Dzikumbutseni kuti zosowa zanu ndizofunikira monga za mnzanuyo. Zingakhale bwino kuziyika papepala. Ndithudi inu mukufuna kuti zokhumba zanu zilemekezedwe, mawu anu amveke, kuyamikiridwa, kukhala ndi nkhawa za inu, kukhala okhulupirika kwa inu.
4. Kusintha zosowa za ubongo zomwe mwasankha zimayankha kokha kwa maubwenzi omwe ali oipa sikophweka. Komabe, ikhoza kuphunzitsidwanso pang'onopang'ono. Ngati mutakumana ndi munthu watsopano yemwe mumamuwona kuti ndi mnzanu wodalirika, yambani kuyambitsa ndi kukondwerera-kapena bwino, kulemba-zigawo zomwe sizibwereza zomwe zachitika kale.
Mwachitsanzo, munauza munthu zimene zakukhumudwitsani pa khalidwe lake, osaopa kumuopseza. Munakambirana zimene zinachitika, ndipo iye anachitapo kanthu momvetsa. Adakumana ndi nthawi yovuta, ndipo mudamthandiza (M’zochita kapena ndi mawu). Sanatengere mwakachetechete, koma anakuuzani kuti kutengapo mbali kwanu kuli kofunika kwa iye.
Ubale Detox
Padzafunika kudziletsa kuti musiye chizolowezi chochita chidwi ndi anthu omwe amakuvutitsani. Chilichonse chili ngati pulogalamu yochotsa chizolowezi chilichonse. Mwachitsanzo, kuti mugonjetse chizoloŵezi cha kudya mopsinjika maganizo, m’pofunika kuti musamasunge zakudya zopatsa thanzi m’firiji.
Momwemonso, ndikofunikira kudzimasula nokha kuzinthu zilizonse zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi munthu yemwe ubale wake ndi wowononga kwa inu. Lolani kwa kanthawi zikumbutso za iye: zithunzi, makalata, zolemba pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti - zichotsedwe m'munda wanu wamasomphenya.
Sikwapafupi kusiya kotheratu zomwe zimatisangalatsa, ngakhale titadziwa kuvulaza komwe kumabweretsa.
Uwu ndi mtundu wa detox wamalingaliro ndi malingaliro kuti amasule malo amkati ndikuyamba kudzaza ndi zina, zosangalatsa zathanzi. Ngakhale nthawi zina chizoloŵezicho chidzakubwezerani malo anu, musadzimenye nokha ndikungobwerera ku malo anu akale. Ichinso ndi gawo lachilengedwe la kumasulidwa kwa izo. Mwachitsanzo, mudzayambanso kuwerenga maimelo a wakale wanu kapena kulemba meseji.
Mwa kusiya zizolowezi zakale ndi zikumbutso za maubwenzi osasangalatsa, mumawonjezera chisangalalo ndi kuzindikira ku moyo wanu. Konzaninso maubwenzi ndi omwe anali okondedwa komanso osangalatsa kwa inu, bwererani kuzinthu zomwe zidakusangalatsani.
Khazikani mtima pansi
Ngati mulankhula ndi munthu amene poyamba anali wosuta kwambiri ndiyeno n’kusiya, mwachionekere angavomereze kuti akadali ndi nthaŵi yofuna kusuta. Sikwapafupi kusiya kotheratu zimene zimabweretsa chisangalalo, ngakhale titadziŵa kuvulaza kumene kumwerekera kumabweretsa.
Sizingatenge mwezi kapena chaka kuti amangenso makina amkati ndikuyamba kulola iwo omwe akuyenera kukhala nawo m'moyo. Dzipatseni nthawi, khalani owona mtima kwa inu nokha ndikukumbukira kukumana ndi anthu atsopano omwe amakusangalatsani.