Momwe mungathanirane ndi anthu ozizira

Tonse timakumbukira nthano ya mnyamata Kai, yemwe mtima wake unakhala "wolimba ndi wozizira" chifukwa cha zidutswa za galasi la mdierekezi. Anatha kupezanso malingaliro ndikukhala yekha chifukwa cha chikondi cha Gerda. Nanga bwanji Kai, amene tingakumane naye m’moyo weniweni? Kodi mungamuphunzitse kumva?

Kodi tikudziwa chiyani za Kai?

• Amakonda kwambiri anthu. Kai sakhulupirira chimwemwe chake ndi kukhazikika kwa malingaliro a munthu wina, choncho nthawi zonse amayang'ana mphamvu zake ndipo nthawi zonse amasangalala ndi zotsatira zake, koma samawonetsa maganizo. Pa nthawi yomweyo, iye yodziwika ndi lakuthwa kusintha kwa «Ndikufuna kusamalira» kuchirikiza ufulu ndi kudziimira. Mufotokozereni kumverera kodekha, kodekha, kosalekeza, koma nthaŵi zina gwirani manja anu, chifukwa iye ndi “wamkulu kwambiri ndi wamng’ono kwambiri.”
• Kuopa maganizo ake. Kai amasamala povomereza kuti ndi "woipa" ndipo amakana kuthekera kwa chidani. Ndipo kawirikawiri, iye amachitira zonse amphamvu zomverera ambivalently: iye amafuna ndi kuwaopa.
• Ali ndi mantha ang'onoang'ono ambiri. Pali mantha aakulu - mwachitsanzo, kufa ndi kupenga. Apa Kai amawagwira modekha. Amawopa kukanidwa, wofooka, wosayenera, choncho nthawi zonse amadzifunsa funso: "Ndine wamphamvu kapena wofooka."
• Amagawaniza malingaliro onse kukhala magawo ndikuphatikizanso mu mtundu wake. Chilichonse chimene Kai akhudza chiyenera kukhala "chake" - ngati kuti amaika chizindikiro kapena chisindikizo.
• Mkhalidwe wake woipa - kusowa chifuniro, chilimbikitso ndi mphamvu. Kai sangathe kugwira ntchito pamene alibe zinthu zonse zomwe nthawi zambiri zimamupangitsa kupita patsogolo. M'chigawochi, zikuwoneka kwa interlocutor kuti zida za Kai sizizungulira - kutsogolo kwake kuli chipika chosalala cha inert.
• Zimasonyeza maganizo polarized kwa ena. Palibe golide zikutanthauza: mwina kwambiri tilinazo, kapena - stiffness ndi kuzizira, chifukwa chimene iye sangathe pulayimale kutchera khutu ku zochitika za interlocutor.
• Nthawi zambiri amakhala yekha. Nthawi zambiri, Kai angapezeke mu kampani yochezeka komanso yofunda. Amayang'ana mwadala zofanana ndikuzipanga yekha, koma amataya msanga kulumikizana ndi omwe akutenga nawo mbali.

Kuphunzitsa ndi Kai

Pogwira ntchito ndi Kai, pang'onopang'ono ndi kusasinthasintha ndizofunikira, apo ayi, kubweza ndi kubweza kumachitika. Chofunikanso ndi chikondi ndi chidaliro, nyimbo ndi mawu, zomwe alibe, koma zomwe amayamikira mwa ena.

• Limbikitsani thupi lake nthawi zonse. Muyenera kupeza zifukwa zosiyanasiyana za izi, koma mukhoza kuyamba ndi machitidwe a thupi, ndi zazifupi. Amakumbutsa kachulukidwe ka thupi, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti amamupatsa Kai kumverera kwa kukhalapo kotsimikizika. “Posachedwapa, palibe amene adzandidya,” iye akusangalala.
• Mulangizeni zamalonda. Khalani osoka nsapato, kusoka, kuluka, ukalipentala ... Maluso abwino agalimoto amadzutsa ndikupangitsa Kai kukhala wamba. Komanso, akamagwira ntchito zambiri, m'pamenenso amangong'ung'udza.
• Kambiranani zakukhosi ndi Kai. Choyamba, izi ziyenera kuchitika mwachisawawa: muzochitika ziti, ndi ndani komanso momwe amawonekera, mwachitsanzo, m'mabuku ndi mafilimu. Ndipo pokhapo azikondwerera nawo m'moyo. Muloleni aphunzire kukonza malingaliro ake, ndiyeno anthu ena: "Tangoganizani zomwe ndidamva mutandiuza izi motere."
• Osamuchotsa iye mu kugona kwake. Ayenera kuchita yekha komanso mwakufuna kwake. Chifuniro ndi malingaliro sizimauma mpaka pansi - nthawi zonse pamakhala chinachake chotsalira, kotero simuyenera kuzikoka kudzera mwachiwawa "bwerani, chimodzi, ziwiri."
• Koma musamusiye Kai m'malingaliro ake enieni. Ndi yaikulu, n'zosavuta kwa iye mmenemo, zosavuta kwambiri kuposa zenizeni. Osagonja kuti "tikumva bwino pano, tili ngati m'mimba mwa amayi athu, chifukwa chiyani timafunikira dziko lakunja kumeneko?". Osapusitsidwa ndi mwachizolowezi momasuka ongolankhula kukambirana, kumukokera mu moyo - modekha ndi mosalekeza.