Momwe mungapezere chikondi podzipatula

Ngakhale mutapitirira pang'ono zaka 30, muli ndi banja losapambana kumbuyo kwanu, ndipo ana awiri akumenyana katatu pabedi pabedi, pali chiyembekezo chopeza kalonga wanu. Ulamuliro wodzipatula wapanga kusintha kwakukulu m'miyoyo yathu - tsopano simudzapita ku malo ogulitsira khofi kukakhala ndi bukhu, ndipo madzulo kukawombera kumalo odyera ndi maso anu pofunafuna ma bachelor okongola. Tsopano muyenera kukonza moyo wanu patali. Wopanga machesi wazaka 30, mphunzitsi wodziwa bwino komanso katswiri wazamisala adapereka upangiri wamomwe mungapewere zovuta ndikupeza "yemwe" adakonzeratu.

Gawo 1: Ikani patsogolo

Zodabwitsa, koma kufunafuna wokwatiwa kuyenera kuyamba ... ndi iwe wekha. Choyamba sankhani: mukufuna chiyani m'moyo? Ana kusiya ana kwa nanny ndi kumanga ntchito? Kuchoka muofesi ndikupita molunjika m'banjamo, kubereka ena atatu ndikuphika zakudya zokoma kuyambira m'mawa mpaka usiku? Kuyenda chaka chonse, kusuntha ndi banja lanu kuchokera kumalo akumwamba kupita kumalo ena? Mwaganiza? Tsopano ganizirani: ndi chiyani chikukulepheretsani kuti maloto anu akwaniritsidwe komanso ndi munthu wamtundu wanji yemwe ayenera kukhalapo kuti akwaniritsidwe.

- Amayi ambiri, kuphatikiza amayi osakwatiwa, amadikirira kuti kalonga awonekere m'miyoyo yawo ndikuthetsa mavuto awo onse. Izi ndi zolakwika kwenikweni - mwamuna ali ndi mavuto ake, chifukwa chiyani amafunikira anu? - amaganiza mphunzitsi, injiniya wamasewera, wolemba zosintha, masewera abizinesi ndi makhadi ophiphiritsa Anna Seglina. - Choyamba, dzimvetseni nokha, ikani patsogolo, yang'anani pa zofunika, kenako yambani kufufuza.

Kudzipatula kwakulitsa kwambiri mwayi wokhala pachibwenzi: chilichonse chili kutali, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti pa intaneti - kulumikizana ndi thanzi, osati ndi njonda za mzinda wanu, komanso m'dziko lathu lonse komanso ndi alendo.

- Ganizirani mozama luso lanu pasadakhale: maphunziro, chidziwitso cha chilankhulo, chikhalidwe, ulemu, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe zili zofunika komanso zamtengo wapatali zomwe mungapatse mwamuna. Ganizirani za dziko lomwe mwakonzeka kusamukira, ngati zonse zikuyenda bwino, Anna Seglina akulangiza. - Khalani okonzekera kusiyana kwa malingaliro: mwachitsanzo, ku Italy mudzayenera kuzindikira kufunikira kwa miyambo ya banja komanso kuti amayi a mwamuna wanu adzakhala ndi udindo m'nyumba. Ku Iceland, m'malo mwake, chofunika kwambiri ndi mgwirizano komanso m'malesitilanti aliyense amadzilipira yekha.

Makamaka

1. Lembani mbiri yanu mwatanthauzo, onetsani mphamvu zanu mmenemo, sankhani chithunzi chomwe mudakhala bwino, komabe mukuwoneka ngati nokha m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku.
2. Yang'anani munthu weniweni, osati kalonga: vomerezani, mwinamwake, wokondedwa wanu si wamkulu, osati tycoon wamafuta kapena superman.
3. Phunzirani mosamala chithunzi cha munthu yemwe mumamukonda mu mbiriyo, yang'anani mothandizidwa ndi injini zosakira kuti zikhale zoyambira.
4. Mukamalankhulana, funsani kuti akutumizireni zithunzi kuchokera m'gulu "Muli kuti tsopano", onetsetsani kuti mukugwiritsa ntchito kuyankhulana kwamavidiyo. Zithunzi zomwe zimatengedwa m'bafa, zithunzi zodulidwa, kukana kulankhulana pavidiyo komanso nthawi zonse kumapeto kwa sabata ndizizindikiro zosonyeza kuti ngwazi yanu si yaulere kapena ngati munthu wina.
5. Ngati mukufuna kuwonetsetsa kuti mwamuna ndi woona mtima ndi inu, lembani mbiri ena angapo patsamba lomwelo, aloleni akhale abwino kuposa anu. Yang'anani tsamba la bwenzi lanu lomwe lingakhalepo, koma musatenge sitepe yoyamba. Ngati amakulemberani poyamba, akuyamba kubalalika poyamikira, ndiye kuti mwina ndinu woyamba kusakhala ndi chidwi ndi iye kotero kuti anasiya kufunafuna dona wamtima. Kudziwana koteroko kuyenera kuyimitsidwa.

Gawo 2: Kusaka kuyenera kukhala kogwira

Panthawi yodzipatula, chiwerengero cha makasitomala m'mabungwe okwatirana chinawonjezeka: choti achite ngati akwati okha sakhala pamzere?

- Ndinali ndi kasitomala - mtsikana amene sanapeze aliyense - amuna anataya chidwi atangodziwa kuti ali ndi ana awiri, - akuti mwiniwake wa bungwe laukwati la Metkiy Cupid, wosewera ndi Svetlana Radaeva wazaka 30. - Patapita zaka zitatu mpaka iye "kucha" ine, potsiriza, kumvetsera. Ndipo ndili ndi diso lophunzitsidwa kale: ndimamupatsa mwamuna, ndipo iye: "O, iye si mtundu wanga, wochepa thupi." Ndimamuuza kuti: “Taonani, dziwani, ngati simukukonda, bwerani, tidzasankha wina.” Ndipo mukuganiza bwanji? Banja losangalala, lokwatirana, limodzi kwa zaka 4.

Masiku ano, msika waukwati umapereka njira zambiri zochepetsera kufunafuna "ameneyo": manambala adzakuthandizani kupeza njonda yoyenera pa tsiku lobadwa, physiognomy - kuchotsa opotoza, abodza amatsenga ndi amuna omwe amakonda chiwawa, tarot. makadi - kulongosola tsogolo pang'ono, ndi pulogalamu yachilendo "Antikhvarna" - kudziwa zizindikiro za "kuwonongeka" ndi chizindikiro cha zodiac ndi maonekedwe - mawonekedwe a makutu, mtundu wa tsitsi, zizindikiro zobadwa.

"Monga katswiri pankhaniyi, ndinganene kuti munthu wadazi, yemwe chizindikiro chake cha zodiac ndi mkango, ndi munthu woyipa kwambiri," akutero Radaeva. - Chizindikiro chilichonse chili ndi mawonekedwe ake, kuti mudziwe chomwe ndi chiyani, muyenera kulumikizana ndi akatswiri.

Malangizo a Matchmaker, kapena "zomwe mungachite ndi zomwe musachite"

1. Simungayang'ane wokwatirana naye pamalo ochezera - awa ndi malo owopsa a scammers ndi anthu omwe safuna kukhala pachibwenzi - pali 90% yaiwo. Mungagwiritse ntchito malo ochezera a pa Intaneti pazifukwa izi: kupita ku VKontakte, lembani mu injini yosakira mu "kufufuza mwachangu", ikani jenda, zaka ndikuphunzira mosamala masamba a amuna omwe mumakonda: zithunzi, magulu omwe ali nawo, nyimbo zotani. amamvera, yang'anani anthu omwe mumakonda nawo zofanana.
2. Osalemba kaye. Ikani zokonda - ndizokwanira. Ndi bwino kusankha "zinthu" zochepa pakati pa omwe ali mabwenzi ndi anzanu. Kotero mwamunayo adzawona kuti muli ndi abwenzi apamtima, adzakhala ndi chidwi. Ngati amakukondani azilemba. Ngati kulankhulana kwayamba, mukhoza kufunsa mnzanuyo ngati kuli koyenera kuthera nthawi pa "chinthu" chanu.
3. Osalemba mbiri ya moyo wanu wonse nthawi imodzi. Mndandanda wa mitu yosavomerezeka umaphatikizapo maubwenzi akale, mavuto azachuma ndi ngongole. Zidzakhala zotheka kuyankhula za zonsezi mutatha kugonana, kapena bwino, pambuyo pa masiku angapo ofanana "opitirira". Ndipo izi zisanachitike, lankhulani za zokonda, yang'anani mitu yodziwika bwino yokambirana.
4. Simungathe kuwonetsa nkhawa kwambiri kwa ana, apo ayi mwamunayo angasankhe kuti nthawi zonse azikhala pamalo achiwiri ndi ena ndikuthawa. Titha kunena kuti ndi anzeru, aluso, ndipo koposa zonse, odziyimira pawokha. Inde, ana ayeneranso kukhala okonzekera m’maganizo kaamba ka chenicheni chakuti mayi ali ndi kuyenera kwa kukhala payekha.
5. Musalole kuti mwamuna azikhala nanu atangokumana nanu - mukhoza kuthamanga mu gigolo, zomwe zingakhale zovuta kwambiri kuchotsa. Mutha kuvomera kuti mudzamuchezere nokha (mutachenjezeratu, kunena, bwenzi lapamtima za komwe mudzakhala), kuti mutha kuchita "kuzindikira mwamphamvu": muwone ngati ali waudongo m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, ngati manja ake akukulirakulira. malo oyenera, ndipo chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti ngati ali wosungulumwa: zovala zazimayi ndi kusamba, ndithudi, zingakhale za amayi ake, koma mwayi woti mkazi ali m'dzikoli ndipo mwamuna akungoyang'ana ulendo ndi wovuta kwambiri. mkulu mu nkhani iyi.

Khwerero 3: Khulupirirani Chidziwitso Chanu

- N'zotheka komanso kofunika kulankhulana ndi kukonza moyo waumwini panthawi yodzipatula, - ndikutsimikiza Pulofesa Wothandizira wa Dipatimenti ya Philosophy ya Samara State Medical University, katswiri wa zamaganizo Nina Kovalyunas. - Amuna wamba omwe amafunikira chikondi ndi kulankhulana nawonso tsopano ali kudzipatula, akufunanso chikondi, ndipo ambiri sasamala ngati mkazi ali ndi ana, kaya anali wokwatiwa, chifukwa chachikulu ndicho kupeza munthu "wanu". .

Koma apa pali vuto lalikulu: pamisonkhano yaumwini, mkazi amatha kumvetsetsa ngati mwamuna ndi woyenera kwa iye, nthawi yomweyo - fungo, mawu, kukhudza kumabwera kudzapulumutsa. Tsopano ndizovuta kwambiri ndi izi - kulumikizana kwasamukira kwa ma mesenjala apompopompo. Mafoni a kanema amakulolani kuti muyese maonekedwe, koma mithunzi ya mawu ndi zina zonse zimakhalabe zomwe zimatchedwa "kumbuyo", kotero mutha kunyengedwa pazomwe mukuyembekezera.

“Pa Intaneti, akazi “akhoza kupanga” mosavuta chifaniziro cha mnzawo, kuchita manyazi kufunsa ndi kumveketsa chimene chimamkondweretsadi,” akutero Nina Kovalyunas. - Choncho, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalangiza, ngakhale pazochitika za chibwenzi pa intaneti, kuti atsatire lamulo la "osachepera atatu" masiku musanamvetsetse ngati simuyenera kukana wopempha dzanja ndi mtima.

Inde, chibwenzi chodzipatula ndi chovuta tsopano, koma intaneti imakulolani kuti muwone filimu pamodzi kutali ndi "kupita ku zisudzo" - chirichonse chiripo, muyenera kungofuna. Kapena, mosiyana, mungakumbukire zinsinsi zakale za kunyengerera: makalata olembedwa ndi manja pa pepala lonunkhira, kusinthanitsa mabuku omwe mumawakonda pamakalata ndi zolemba m'mphepete - kodi makolo athu adalankhulana bwanji pamaso pa teknoloji ya chidziwitso? Chinthu chachikulu apa sikuti muzichita mopitirira muyeso komanso kuti musamuwopsyeze chibwenzi ndi njira yanu yodabwitsa.

Malangizo a akatswiri

Momwe mungadziwire wabodza

- Mukamalankhulana pa intaneti, mutha "kuthamangira" mwachinyengo kapena gigolo. Ndipo amadziwa momwe angasinthire chilakolako cha akazi chachikondi kuti apindule: mawu okongola, kuyamikira kosatha, nkhani zamisozi. Kuti musagwere mumsampha, ndi bwino kugwiritsa ntchito malo odalirika ndi magulu pa intaneti, kuphatikizapo samalani kuti musaulule zambiri za inu nokha.

Pakulankhulana kwaumwini, wabodza angaperekedwe ndi kusagwirizana kwa zizindikiro zapakamwa komanso zosagwirizana ndi mawu: chinenero cha thupi la anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri chimatsutsana ndi thupi. Pa intaneti, muyenera kulabadira zosagwirizana zomveka, zotsutsana ndi nkhani za inu nokha. Khulupirirani mwachidziwitso chanu: ngati akunena kuti "chinachake chalakwika ndi iye", ndiye kuti ndi choncho.

Muyeneranso kuchenjezedwa ndi zidziwitso zachiwawa za chikondi pa tsiku la 1-2, akulonjeza kuti munthu sangathe kukwaniritsa, akupempha kubwereka ndalama ndikudzipereka kuti asamuke mwamsanga.