Anthu nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi maubwenzi omwe adatha kale. Kupatula apo, zikumbukiro zofunda zimatenthetsa moyo ndikupangitsa kuti chilichonse chikhale bwino. M’malo mwake, n’kothandiza kwambiri kuphunzira kusiya anthu amene poyamba anali pafupi ndi kumasuka ku zochitika zatsopano. Kodi kuchita izo?
Ubale uliwonse umatiphunzitsa chinachake, chifukwa cha iwo timapanga. Zina zimatipangitsa kukhala amphamvu ndi okoma mtima, zina zimatipangitsa kukhala osamala kwambiri, kusakhulupirirana, ndipo zina zimatiphunzitsa kukonda. Komabe, si anthu onse amene ayenera kukhalabe m’miyoyo yathu, mosasamala kanthu za mmene kukumbukira kwawo kungakhalire kosangalatsa.
Maubwenzi, monga maubwenzi ambiri, amasintha m'moyo wonse. Muubwana, tili ndi anzathu ambiri, ndipo onse ndi abwino kwambiri. Muunyamata ndi unyamata, monga lamulo, pali kampani yokhazikitsidwa, ndipo pofika zaka makumi atatu, anthu ambiri amabwera ndi chimodzi, chotsimikiziridwa kwa zaka zambiri, bwenzi lapamtima, ndiyeno ndi mwayi.
Pokhala munthu, munthu amadzipangira yekha malo a moyo wake, miyezo ya makhalidwe abwino, mfundo ndi malamulo.
Ndipo ngati panthawi inayake, kupanga malo oyandikana nawo, simungagwirizane ndi izi, ndiye kuti ndi zaka mfundozi zimayamba kudziwonetsera momveka bwino. Anthu okhala ndi zikhalidwe zosiyanasiyana pamapeto pake amapatukana ndi malo anu ndikupita njira zawo.
Tsoka ilo, nthawi zambiri anthu amawopa kukonza zinthu, kupirira ndikusankha "dziko loipa". Zifukwa za izi ndizosiyana:
kuopa kuoneka oipa pamaso pa ena;
kuopa kusintha chizolowezi cha moyo,
kuopa kutaya phindu lachiwiri
kusafuna kuwotcha milatho: ndizomvetsa chisoni, adamanga ambiri!
Zikuoneka kuti munthu amadzipangitsa kukhala wogwidwa chifukwa cha mantha kuti sangathe kapena sadzatha popanda wina. M’malo moti apite patsogolo, amakakamira paubwenzi wakale.
Njira yotsimikizirika sikusunga munthu mokakamiza, koma kuyang'ana zenizeni ndi mozama pazochitika zomwe zilipo. Muyenera kumvera nokha ndikuyankha mafunso: muli omasuka bwanji muubwenziwu? Kodi munthu uyu ndi wabwino ndi inu? Simungakhale popanda munthu uyu, kapena ndi chizolowezi / mantha / chizolowezi?
Yankho lanu likakhala loona mtima, m'pamenenso mudzamvetsetsa chowonadi.
Palibe munthu amene ali katundu wanu, aliyense ali ndi zokhumba zake, zolinga ndi zolinga zake.
Ndipo ngati asiyana ndi anu, simuyenera kumangiriza wokondedwa wanu kwa inu nokha m'njira zonse, osati kuwongolera, osati kuyesa kukonzanso, koma kumusiya, kumupatsa mwayi woti apite njira yake.
Zidzakhala zosavuta kwa inu ndi ena, chifukwa mumasankha ufulu. Mutha kudzaza gawo lomasulidwa la moyo wanu watsiku ndi tsiku ndi chilichonse chomwe mungafune - ndi achibale ndi abwenzi omwe atha kuphonya izi, ntchito komanso kudzizindikira, komanso zosangalatsa komanso zosangalatsa.
Njira imodzi kapena imzake, ndi bwino kumwazikana popanda zonena ndi mwano, koma ndi kuyamikira ndi ulemu, chifukwa kamodzi inu munali ndi ubwenzi ofunda.