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Momwe mungapangire kuti zinthu zabwino zizikuchitikirani pa Khrisimasi
Psychology
Katswiri Marian Rojas-Estapé amadziwa makiyi kuti masiku a Khrisimasi akhale mwayi woti apite patsogolo osati kuti chisoni chosatheka kutifikire.
Kodi ndinu mmodzi wa anthu amene amakonda Khirisimasi kapena, kumbali ina, mumadana nayo? Madeti awa omwe amalembedwa mu kalendala akhala nthawi yoyipa kwambiri pachaka kwa anthu ambiri omwe, pazifukwa zina, sawona tanthauzo la masiku a chikondwererochi, ndipo nthawi zina amawononga. Wodziwika kuti ndi mwezi wachisangalalo, zowunikira, anthu kulikonse, Nyimbo za Khrisimasi ndi zina zosangalatsa, December ndi umodzi wa miyezi mantha kwambiri. Chifukwa chake? Nthawi zambiri limafotokoza zachisoni powerenga miyezi khumi ndi imodzi yapitayi, zomwe zidakhalapo, zomwe zakwaniritsidwa komanso zomwe zidasiyidwa ... Ndiko, kuchita bwino kwambiri, mwezi wogula zinthu komanso kuyanjananso . Marian Rojas-Estapé, katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso wolemba buku logulitsidwa kwambiri "Momwe mungapangire zinthu zabwino kuti zikuchitikireni", amadziwa makiyi kuti atsimikizire kuti masiku Khirisimasi Iwo ndi mwayi woti apite patsogolo osati wachisoni chochuluka kutiyandikira.
Katswiriyu, yemwe amaona kuti n’koyenera kukamba za chisoni pa Khirisimasi, saganiza kuti munthu ayenera kusangalala chifukwa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti komanso anthu ambiri amafuna. Wolemba komanso wanthanthi Luis Castellanos anachenjeza kale kuti: «Zikuwoneka kuti chimwemwe chili m'mavuto okhala padziko lapansi chifukwa, nthawi zambiri, kufufuza kwake kumabweretsa mavuto ambiri kuposa kukhala ndi moyo wabwino.
Marian Rojas-Estapé amalimbitsa mawu ake: «Khirisimasi ili ndi gawo lachisoni lomwe muyenera kuphunzira kuthana nalo. Pali kutengeka mtima kwambiri ndi kukhala wosangalala. Zikuwoneka kuti tili ndi udindo wofunidwa ndi anthu kuti tizidziwonetsa tokha osangalala, kusonyeza kuti palibe chomwe chimatikhudza, kuti palibe kuvutika ... Mwadzidzidzi timafika ndi mabuku, ma podcasts, mavidiyo ... Ndimakhulupirira kuti chimwemwe ndi lingaliro lovuta kwambiri kukwaniritsa m'moyo uno, ngati sizingatheke, "akutero katswiri wa zamaganizo. M'malo mwake, mutu wa buku lake («Momwe mungapangire zinthu zabwino kuti zikuchitikireni») Sizinangochitika mwangozi. "Zimaganiziridwa bwino chifukwa sindinkafuna kuyika mawu oti chimwemwe. Kwa ine sizikufotokozedwa, ndizochitikira. Ndi nthawi yomwe mumalumikizana ndi zinthu zabwino zomwe zimachitika tsiku ndi tsiku. Moyo ndi sewero, umavutika, umakhala wachisoni, wokhumudwa ... ndipo sitingathe kubisa malingaliro amenewo, "akutero Dr. Rojas.
Komabe, ili mu nthawi ino ya chaka pamene kutengeka uku kukuchulukirachulukira ndipo anthu omwe amatizungulira akuwoneka kuti ali ndi mlandu pazomwe zikuchitika. "Panthawiyi zonse ziyenera kukhala zodabwitsa. Chimwemwe chimadalira tanthauzo limene timapereka ku moyo, kotero Khirisimasi makamaka, zimatengera tanthauzo lomwe timapanga. Pali ena omwe amapeza kumapeto kwa chaka chachipembedzo, banja, chinyengo, kupuma, mphindi yakudya ... ", akufotokoza katswiriyu.
Konzekerani kudza kwa Khrisimasi
Sikuti muyenera kuchita mwambo watsiku ndi tsiku kuti ubongo utengere kuti Khrisimasi yatsala pang'ono kufika, koma kuti mumaganizira mbali zina za moyo wanu ndikuzigwiritsa ntchito kuti mupindule. “Aliyense ayenera kudziŵa mmene amafikira pa Khrisimasi imeneyo. Pali ma Khrisimasi omwe mumafika osangalala chifukwa mwakhala ndi chaka chabwino, mudzakhala ndi okondedwa, pali zochitika zomwe mukufuna kupitako ... Komano, pali zaka zomwe mulibe zomwezo. masomphenya chifukwa wina m'banjamo akudwala matenda, pakhala kutayika, pazachuma sindili bwino ... Aliyense Khirisimasi Ndi dziko. Ndibwino kuti mudzikonzekerere kuti mudziwe momwe mukufuna kukhalamo », akulangiza Marian Rojas. «Muyenera kuvomereza kuti mwina ndi Khrisimasi yomwe simukufuna kubwera koma kuti muyesere kukhala ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri. Ngati mwataya munthu, ndi nthawi yabwino kumukumbutsa. Pamasiku awa anthu omwe achoka amakhalapo m'malingaliro athu. Ndi mphindi yowakumbukira popanda kukhala chinthu chodabwitsa, osayang'ana masiku onsewa, "atero dotolo, yemwe wapanga mndandanda wazinthu zingapo. zidule kotero kuti Isitala iyi ndi mphindi ya chiyanjanitso.
Yesetsani kuti musamadye zosapatsa thanzi. “Zikuoneka kuti nthawi zina umafunika kupereka mphatso kuti upange ndi kuwononga ndalama pogula zinthu. Nthawi zambiri mawu, kalata, positi khadi ya Khrisimasi ndi yokongola kwambiri komanso yotsika mtengo kwambiri », akufotokoza Marian Rojas-Estapé.
Muyenera kumvetsetsa Khrisimasi. «Pali chisangalalo, chikondi, mgwirizano ndipo sitiyenera kuiwala kuti pa Khirisimasi munthu amafuna kukondweretsa ena, kugwirizana ndi zamkati ndi zenizeni za zinthu. Pa Khrisimasi anthu ambiri amakhululukirana, amayanjananso, ”akutero.
Pewani mikangano. "Ngati mukuyenera kugawana malo ndi munthu yemwe wapangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wosatheka, khalani ndi chithandizo chabwino. Osalowerera nkhani za mikangano, yang'anani kwambiri anthu omwe mumawakonda kwambiri, "analangiza katswiriyu.