Timauza anthu ndiponso ife tokha nkhani za moyo wathu—za amene ife ndife, zimene zinatichitikira ife, ndi mmene dziko lilili. Muubwenzi watsopano uliwonse, tili ndi ufulu wosankha zomwe tingalankhule ndi zomwe sitinganene. Nchiyani chimatipangitsa ife kubwereza zoipa mobwerezabwereza? Ndipotu, nkhani ya moyo, ngakhale yovuta kwambiri, ikhoza kufotokozedwa m'njira yoti idzatipatse mphamvu, kutilimbikitsa, osati kukwiya kapena kusandulika kukhala wozunzidwa.
Ndi anthu ochepa okha amene amazindikira kuti nkhani zimene timanena zokhudza m’mbuyomo zimasintha tsogolo lathu. Amapanga malingaliro ndi malingaliro, amakhudza chisankho, zochita zina, zomwe pamapeto pake zimatsimikizira tsogolo lathu.
Chinsinsi chokhalira ndi moyo popanda kukwiyira chilichonse ndi kukhululukidwa, akutero Tracey McMillan, wolemba zamaganizo wogulitsidwa kwambiri komanso wopambana Mphotho ya Writers Guild of America for Outstanding Writing for a Psychological Series. Phunzirani kuganiza mosiyana ndikulankhula za zomwe zidachitika pamoyo wanu - makamaka za zochitika zomwe zimabweretsa kukhumudwa kapena mkwiyo.
Muli ndi mphamvu zonse pa nkhani yanu. Mosakayikira, anthu ena adzayesa kukutsimikizirani kuti muvomereze zomwe zinachitika, koma chisankho ndi chanu. Tracey McMillan akufotokoza momwe izi zidachitikira m'moyo wake.
Tracy Macmillan
Nkhani ya moyo wanga (chithunzi #1)
“Ndinaleredwa ndi makolo ondilera. Ndisanayambe kupanga mbiri ya moyo wanga, zinkawoneka ngati izi. Ine ndinabadwa. Mayi anga Linda anandisiya. Bambo anga, Freddie, anapita kundende. Ndipo ndinadutsa m’mabanja oleredwa angapo, kufikira pamene ndinakhazikika m’banja labwino, kumene ndinakhala kwa zaka zinayi.
Kenako bambo anga anabweranso kudzanditenga n’kundichotsa pabanjapo n’kukakhala nawo limodzi ndi chibwenzi chawo. Patapita nthaŵi pang’ono, iye anazimiririkanso, ndipo ndinakhala ndi bwenzi lake lachibwenzi kufikira pamene ndinafika zaka 18, yemwe anali wovuta m’pang’ono pomwe kukhala naye.
Sinthani kawonedwe kanu pa mbiri ya moyo wanu ndipo mkwiyo udzatha mwachibadwa.
Malingaliro anga pa moyo anali odabwitsa ndipo amafanana ndi nkhani yanga ya sekondale: "Tracey M.: Wosafunidwa, Wosakondedwa, ndi Wosungulumwa."
Ndinakwiyira kwambiri Linda ndi Freddie. Makolowo anali oipa kwambiri ndipo ankandichitira nkhanza komanso kundichitira zinthu zopanda chilungamo. Kulondola?
Ayi, ndi zolakwika. Chifukwa ichi ndi lingaliro limodzi chabe pa zowona. Nayi kusinthidwa kwa nkhani yanga.
Nkhani ya moyo wanga (chithunzi #2)
«Ndinabadwa. Pamene ndinakula pang’ono, ndinayang’ana atate wanga, amene, kunena mosapita m’mbali, anali chidakwa choledzeretsa, kwa amayi amene anandisiya, ndipo ndinadziuza ndekha kuti: “Ndithu, ndikhoza kuchita bwino koposa iwo.
Ndinatuluka pakhungu langa ndipo nditayesa kangapo kosaphula kanthu, komwe ndinaphunzirapo zambiri zothandiza zokhudza moyo ndi anthu, ndinakwanitsa kulowa m'banja losangalatsa la wansembe wa Lutheran.
Iye anali ndi mkazi ndi ana asanu, ndipo kumeneko ndinalawa moyo wapakati, ndinapita kusukulu yaikulu yaumwini, ndikukhala moyo wabata, wokhazikika umenewo umene sindikadakhala nawo ndi Linda ndi Freddie.
Ndisanakhale ndi zibwenzi zanga zaunyamata ndi anthu odabwitsa koma osamala kwambiri, ndinakhala m'nyumba ya mzimayi yemwe adandidziwitsa malingaliro ambiri okhwima komanso zaluso ndipo - mwina chofunikira kwambiri - adandilola kuwonera TV kwa maola ambiri, motero ndikukonzekeretsa ntchito yanga yamakono monga wolemba pa TV. "
Yesani kuyang'ana zochitika zonse mosiyana: mutha kusintha zomwe mukuyang'ana
Mukuganiza kuti ndi mtundu uti wa filimuyi womwe uli ndi mapeto abwino?
Yambani kuganizira za momwe mungalembenso mbiri ya moyo wanu. Samalani ndi zochitika zomwe munali mukumva zowawa kwambiri: kusudzulana kosasangalatsa pambuyo pa koleji, kusungulumwa kwautali m'zaka za m'ma 30, ubwana wopusa, kukhumudwa kwakukulu kwa ntchito.
Yesani kuyang'ana zochitika zonse mosiyana: mutha kusintha zomwe mukuyang'ana ndipo osakumana ndi zovuta zosasangalatsa. Ndipo ngati mutha kuseka nthawi yomweyo, ndibwino kwambiri. Lolani kuti mukhale opanga!
Uwu ndi moyo wanu ndipo mumakhala kamodzi kokha. Sinthani malingaliro anu pa nkhani yanu, lembaninso zolemba za moyo wanu kuti zikudzeni ndi kudzoza ndi mphamvu zatsopano. Mkwiyo wapamtima udzazimiririka.
Ngati zochitika zakale zibwereranso, yesetsani kuti musamamvetsere - ndikofunikira kuti mupange nkhani yatsopano. Sikophweka poyamba, koma posakhalitsa mudzazindikira kuti kusintha kwabwino kumayamba kuchitika m'moyo wanu.