Kuopa kulephera, kutsutsidwa, kunyozedwa kwa ena kumatiletsa ngakhale pamene malingaliro anzeru kwambiri abwera m'maganizo mwathu. Koma mantha amenewo akhoza kuthetsedwa ndi masewera olimbitsa thupi osavuta, anatero mlangizi wa zamalonda Lindy Norris. Chinthu chachikulu ndikuzichita nthawi zonse.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani tikalakwitsa? Timachita manyazi, chisoni komanso manyazi. Lingaliro la kulephera kwatsopano limatimanga unyolo ndi kutilepheretsa kuchita ngozi. Koma kupeŵa kulephera kosalekeza kumatilepheretsa kuphunzira zinthu zofunika pa zolephera.
Lindy Norris, Motivational TED speaker, amalankhula za momwe angasinthire zovuta kukhala nkhani yolimbikitsa. Anasamukira ku US kukaphunzira pulogalamu ya MBA. Koma adazindikira kuti njira iyi siinali yake, ndipo adaganiza zobwerera kwawo.
Koma m’malo modzimvera chisoni, Lindy Norris anapenda zifukwa za kulephera kwake ndipo anapezamo magwero a nyonga. Anazindikira kuti afunika kuchita chinthu china. Pamene ankapenda kwambiri zimene zinamuchitikira, m’pamenenso anazindikira kuti ankafuna kuuza ena.
“Kulephera sikutanthauza kuti sitinakhalepo m’moyo ndipo ndi bwino kusiya kuyesetsa kukhala abwino. Pali nthawi zomwe timazindikira kuti dongosolo loyambirira silikugwira ntchito, kuti sitinayese mphamvu zathu molondola, akutero Lindy Norris. "Chabwino, zikutanthauza kuti tsopano tikudziwa tokha komanso kuthekera kwathu bwino."
Mwa kuphunzitsa luso lathu lolimbana ndi kulephera ngati minofu, pang'onopang'ono tidzakhala olimba mtima pochita ngozi.
Njira zingapo zosavuta zokonda ngozi
1. Kodi mumakonda kupita ku cafe yomweyi? Pezani mwayi: dzifunseni kuchotsera ngati mlendo wokhazikika. Zikuwoneka kuti ndizosavuta kunena. Koma pali chinthu chovuta kwa inu nonse (mumapempha chinthu chomwe sichinalembedwe pamenyu) ndi kwa cashier (amakakamizika kuchita mogwirizana ndi ndondomekoyi). Pofunsa funso ili, mupeza zambiri kuposa ndalama zomwe zasungidwa. Mudzakweza malire anu a kudzidalira ndikugonjetsa chotchinga chamkati.
2. Khalani pafupi ndi mlendo m'basi, sitima, kapena sitima yopanda kanthu. Timayesa kusiya malo ochuluka momwe tingathere pakati pa ife ndi anthu ena. Kodi mudzapeza kulimba mtima kuti musiye chitsanzo ichi? Mwinamwake manja anu angaoneke ngati aubwenzi ndipo mudzatha kuyambitsa kukambirana.
3. Nenani cholinga chanu poyera. Kodi mwakhala mukufuna kuchita chinthu chokhumba kwa nthawi yaitali, chomwe chidzafuna khama ndi kupirira? Itanani anzanu ndi omwe mumawadziwa kuti achitire umboni, kuyika pabulogu yanu kapena nthawi yapaintaneti. Pochita izi, mumakhala pachiwopsezo choti aliyense adziwe za kulephera komwe kungatheke. Koma ngakhale mutalephera kuchita chilichonse mwangwiro, mudzazindikira kuti palibe choyipa chomwe chingachitike ndipo anzanu sadzakusiyani.
4. Gawani china chake chanu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti. Facebook (bungwe lochita zinthu monyanyira loletsedwa ku Russia) ndi chiwonetsero chachikulu chomwe aliyense adzapeza gawo lawo la chidwi. Koma bwanji ngati inu simupeza limodzi «monga»? Mwanjira ina, mungapindule mwa kuphunzira kulankhula momasuka za inu mwini popanda kuyembekezera kutamandidwa kapena kukumvetserani. Kugawana chifukwa chogawana, chifukwa ndikofunika kwa inu poyamba, ndi luso lofunika kwambiri.
5. Kambiranani ndi abwana anu za zomwe simukonda. Ambiri a ife zimativuta kusonyeza kusakhutira kwathu pamaso pa munthu amene ali ndi mphamvu pa ife. Chotsatira chake, panthawi yovuta kwambiri, sitipeza mawu otetezera maganizo athu. Yesani nthawi ino kufotokoza zonse zomwe zikukudetsani nkhawa, osadikira chifukwa. Ngati inuyo ndinu bwana, yesani kupereka ndemanga kwa wantchito wanu momasuka komanso moona mtima momwe mungathere, osapewa kutsutsidwa.
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