Momwe mungaletsere kuyenda kwa malingaliro olakwika

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Kuyesera kuthawa kapena kukana malingalirowa kumatenga mphamvu zambiri. Mutha kumenya nawo nkhondo yamalingaliro mpaka kalekale, koma pamapeto adzabwerera, kukhala osasangalatsa komanso osasokoneza.

Katswiri wa zamaganizo komanso yemwe kale anali mmonke wachi Buddhist Donald Altman adalemba mabuku angapo ogulitsa kwambiri omwe amathandiza kuti agwiritse ntchito malingaliro a Kum'mawa kuti athe kuthana ndi mavuto omwe anthu akumadzulo timakumana nawo.

Makamaka, akuwonetsa kugwiritsa ntchito njira ya "jiu-jitsu yakale yabwino" ndikutembenuza malingaliro oyipa pamutu pawo ndi chinthu chosavuta. Kuchita kwamaganizo kumeneku kungafotokozedwe mwachidule m'mawu amodzi: kuyamikira.

"Ngati mawuwa akupangitsani kugona, ndiroleni ndikupatseni kafukufuku yemwe angakudabwitseni," alemba Altman.

Kafukufukuyu adawonetsa kuti kuyamikira nthawi zonse kumakhala kothandiza kwambiri ndipo kumabweretsa zotsatira zotsatirazi:

• kuchuluka kukhutitsidwa ndi moyo,
• pali kupita patsogolo kokwaniritsa zolinga zanu,
• kupsinjika kumachepa, kukhumudwa kumachepa,
• achinyamata amawonjezera chidwi chawo, chidwi, kupirira komanso luso lokhazikika,
• kumakhala kosavuta kukhalabe ndi anthu ocheza nawo, kufunitsitsa kuthandiza ndi kuthandiza ena kumawonjezeka,
• kuyang'ana kwa chidwi ndi kuyeza kwa kupambana kumasamutsidwa kuchoka ku zinthu zakuthupi kupita ku zauzimu, mlingo wa nsanje wa ena umachepa;
• kusangalatsidwa kumatenga nthawi yayitali, pali kumverera kwa kulumikizana ndi anthu ena, kawonedwe ka moyo kamakhala ndi chiyembekezo,
• kwa odwala omwe ali ndi matenda a neuromuscular, ubwino ndi nthawi ya kugona bwino.

Nkhani ya Jerry

Altman amatcha zotsatirazi zonse nsonga ya madzi oundana. Pamene akulankhula za zotsatira zabwino za chizolowezi choyamikira, wochiritsayo amagwiritsa ntchito chitsanzo cha kasitomala wake, Jerry.

Jerry anali ndi mkhalidwe wovuta m’banja: agogo ake aamuna nthaŵi zonse anali kugonekedwa m’zipatala za amisala, ndipo amayi ake anapezeka ndi kuvutika maganizo koopsa. Izi sizingakhudze momwe Jerry amamvera komanso kudzifotokozera yekha: "Ndili ndi chibadwa cha kuvutika maganizo, ndipo palibe chimene ndingachite."

Wothandizirayo adapereka kwa Jerry chizolowezi choyamikira tsiku ndi tsiku, ndipo patapita nthawi, onse adawona kusintha kwakukulu m'maganizo ndi m'moyo wa munthuyo, zomwe pamapeto pake zinakhala maziko a kusintha kwa malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake pazochitika za moyo.

Altman amakumbukira tsiku limene kasitomala wake anati, "Inde, ndimakhala ndi nthawi yachisoni, koma ndikudziwa momwe ndingathanirane nazo poyesa kuyamikira." Panali chidaliro chochuluka ndi chiyembekezo m'mawu awa kuposa kale, ndipo mphamvu zabwino zoterozo zinakhala zotheka mbali yaikulu chifukwa cha luso loyamikiridwa lomwe linapezedwa.

Kuchita Chisamaliro Mwanzeru

Kuyamikira kumaphunzitsa chidwi chathu m'njira yapadera kwambiri. Mwachitsanzo, nthawi zambiri timaganizira kwambiri zimene zikusowa kapena zimene sizikuyenda bwino m’moyo wathu, n’kudziyerekezera ndi ena. Koma ndi mphamvu yathu kutembenukira ku zabwino ndi zokongola zomwe zikuchitika kwa ife kapena zomwe zatizungulira.

N’chifukwa chiyani kuli kofunika kwambiri? Mwa kuona zimene tingakhale oyamikira, timakulitsa njira yosiyana ya moyo ndi mikhalidwe yosiyana. M'malo mwake, izi sizimangosintha malingaliro ndi machitidwe, komanso zimathandiza kupanga chizolowezi chothandizira, chotsimikizira moyo chamtsogolo.

Khalani pano ndipo tsopano

Tidazolowera kuthera nthawi yochuluka tikudikirira - kuyang'ana pa intaneti, kuwonera mapulogalamu amasewera, zosangalatsa zapa TV, ndi zina zotero. Kuyamikira kumatitengera ife mu nthawi ino, chifukwa kumafuna kuchitapo kanthu mwachangu. Timangofunika kukhala mu nthawi ino kuti timve zomwe tinganene kuti zikomo.

Izi zimapereka kumverera kwa kulumikizana kolimba ndi zenizeni komanso malingaliro oyembekezera zotsatira za zochita zathu. Kuyamikira kumatithandiza kukhala olimba mtima chifukwa timaganizira zabwino.

Njira zitatu zosavuta zochitira kuyamikira

Kwa iwo omwe ali ndi chidwi ndi izi, a Donald Altman amapereka malingaliro achindunji.

1. Zindikirani ndi kufotokoza pakali pano zomwe mumayamikira. Mwachitsanzo: "Ndili woyamikira _____ chifukwa _____." Kuganizira zifukwa zoyamikirira kumathandiza kuti tifufuze mozama pamutuwu.

2. Lembani mndandanda wa zikomo zanu za tsikuli. Pezani kapu yomwe imati "Zikomo" ndikuyikamo ndalama kuti muzindikire kumverera uku. Kapena lembani mawu ochepa papepala laling’ono ponena za zimene mukufuna kunena kuti zikomo. Kumapeto kwa sabata, yang'anani banki yanu ya nkhumba ndikuwona kuchuluka kwa zikomo zomwe mwapeza.

3. Uzani ena zakukhosi kwanu. Auzeni za mchitidwewu ndi zomwe mumayamikira tsiku lino. Iyi ndi njira yabwino yolimbikitsira kulumikizana kwanu ndi ena.

Yesani kuchita izi sabata yonse, koma osabwereza kuthokoza komweko masiku osiyanasiyana. Longosolani chidwi chanu m'njira yabwino, ndipo muwona kuchuluka komwe kuli m'moyo wanu zomwe mukufuna kunena zikomo.