Kodi mungamvetse bwanji kuti tsikulo linalephera, ndikuthetsa ubale mwanzeru?

Tikuyembekezera msonkhano, timajambula m'malingaliro athu momwe zidzakhalire. Koma pambuyo pa tsiku loyamba pali zotsalira - chinachake chalakwika. Simungathe kudzifotokozera nokha, koma mukumvetsa kuti yesero ndilabwino kusiya kuyankha mauthenga komanso osalabadira zomwe amakonda pa Instagram. Ndipo ngakhale masiku achiwiri ndi achitatu samakutsimikizirani kuti ndikofunikira kupitiliza kulankhulana. Kodi mungadzithandize bwanji kuthana ndi malingaliro otsutsana?

Kuwala kofiyira?

1. Sali wofanana ndi momwe ndimaganizira (a)

Choyamba, tiyeni tiyang'ane nazo izi: palibe akalonga ndi mafumu a maloto kwenikweni. Palibe amene ali wangwiro. Chifukwa chake tsatirani malingaliro ndi zofuna mopambanitsa. Ganizirani zomwe zili zofunika kwambiri ku mgwirizano. Dziwani zofunikira pakusankha bwenzi. Ndipo ngati bwenzi lanu latsopano likugwirizana nawo, musathamangire kuti mutembenuke pachipata, koma perekani mwayi wina.

2. Kukambirana sikumata

Ngati mumamva bwino limodzi, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri kupeza mutu wokambirana si vuto. Ndipo ngati kukambirana sikumamatira ndipo kuli kosavuta kukhala chete? Kodi sizingakhale bwino kungothawa? Yang'anani mosamala musanaweruze. Mwinamwake mnzanu watsopanoyo ndi munthu wamanyazi kwambiri. Taganizani, kodi mukuchita zonse nokha kuti kuyankhulana kukhale kosangalatsa?

3. Kodi zikhalidwe zimagwirizana?

Musanakane kulankhulana, mverani nokha ndi kuganizira zonse. Zomwe zili muzokambirana zimanena zambiri za interlocutor. Mitu ina ndi ndemanga zidzakuuzani momwe zina "zimagwirira ntchito". Kodi muli pafupi ndi malingaliro ake adziko lapansi, zikhalidwe, zolinga m'moyo. Chotsani magalasi amtundu wa duwa ndikukweza makutu anu musanapatse mnzanuyo "kulephera". Mvetserani mosamala ndikusankha zomwe zingakuthandizireni komanso zomwe sizingagwire ntchito.

4. Simukufuna

Ngati mulibe chikhumbo chofuna kudziwa za mnzanu, simukufuna kugawana malingaliro anu ndi zokonda zanu, ndipo makamaka khalani ndi zofanana, mwinamwake muyenera kuganizira ngati mupitilize chiyanjano.

5. Zomwe mwadzidzidzi wanu amanena

Intuition idzakuuzani kuti m'malo mwake - "olakwika" mnzanu. Khulupirirani iye. Dzimvereni nokha ndikufunsa mafunso awa m'maganizo:

• Kodi mwatopa?
• Kodi mwangofika kumene ndipo mukufuna kale kupita kwanu?
• Kodi pali china chake chosasangalatsa kwambiri pamawonekedwe a interlocutor?

Zizindikiro zamaganizo siziyenera kunyalanyazidwa, ngakhale nzeru zomveka zikunena mosiyana. Maganizo anu ayenera kutengedwa mozama.

Muzithetsana moona mtima

Koma ngati mnzanu sakugwirizana nanu, mungathetse bwanji kukambiranako kuti musachite manyazi komanso kupwetekedwa mtima?

Mwinamwake, aliyense wa ife osachepera kamodzi adadutsa izi: tinagwirizana kukumana, koma poyankha mafoni ndi mauthenga - osamva chete ndipo palibe kufotokoza. Winawake amatembenuza tsambalo mosavuta: anayiwala, pitirirani. Ndipo wina amadzivutitsa yekha ndi mafunso: Kodi ndachita chiyani kapena ndalakwa chiyani? Tikufuna kumveka bwino, ndipo palibe choipa kuposa chosadziwika. Kapena mwina ife tokha tinachoka mu Chingerezi, popanda madontho a i?

Nthawi zina timauzidwa nkhani za agogo odwala omwe amafunikira kusamalidwa, kapena za ntchito yomwe mwadzidzidzi idawunjikana pa tsiku la deti. Kapena ife tokha timakonda kupanga "nthano" za mabwenzi "osayenera". Mulimonse mmene zingakhalire, timamva ngati kutinamizidwa kapena kunamizidwa, zomwenso n’zosasangalatsa. Choncho, nthawi zonse ndi bwino kuika makhadi patebulo.

Munthu aliyense, ngakhale kuti chiyembekezo chathu sichinatsimikizike, ndi woyenera kulemekezedwa ndi kufotokozedwa. Kulankhulana moona mtima kapena kulankhulana moona mtima kuti simukumasuka, simumasuka, mulibe chidwi, kumapereka mwayi kwa winayo kuti akulole kupita ndikusinthira ku ubale wina. Musaiwale: panali zifukwa zomwe mumafunira kukumana ndi munthu uyu. Ndipo tsopano, pamene mwaganiza zothetsa zimenezo, khalidwe labwino limalamula kuti musakhale wamantha, osati kupeŵa kulankhulana, koma kutsazikana ndi chiyamikiro cha chochitika chatsopanocho.

Kukana nthawi zonse kumakhala kosasangalatsa. Yesetsani kusonyeza kuti mukudandaula kwambiri kuti sizinathandize. Pambuyo pake, palibe amene ali ndi mlandu chifukwa chakuti chemistry sinachitike. Koma nonse munayesetsa kudziwana. Ndipo ndizo zabwino kale!