Kodi mkwiyo ndi wothandiza bwanji?

Mkwiyo ndi mphamvu zimachokera ku gwero lomwelo, lomwe dzina lake ndi mphamvu. Koma ngati timakonda mphamvu mwa ife tokha, ndiye kuti kuyambira tili ana timaphunzitsidwa kusakonda mkwiyo. Zikuwoneka kuti zimayambitsa mikangano ndi mikangano. Kusonyeza mkwiyo kungakhaledi kowononga. Koma pakati pa ukali wopanda nzeru ndi kukhala chete, pali mipata yambiri yosonyezera mkwiyo.

Kukwiya komanso kukwiya sizili zofanana. Ana amauzidwa kuti: “Mukhoza kukwiya, koma osamenyana,” kugawana malingaliro ndi zochita zawo.

"Ukhoza kukwiya" - Nthawi zambiri ndimayenera kudzikumbutsa za mawu awa, monga anthu onse omwe anakulira m'dera loletsa chiwawa.

Kumverera kukwiya ndikothandiza, ngati kungodziwa zomwe zikuchitika zenizeni. Tangoganizani kuti mwataya kumva ululu. Mukadutsa chitofu chotentha, mudzapsa kwambiri, simungathe kuchiza ndikuphunzira kudutsa chitofucho.

Komanso, popanda kukwiya, simudzayesa chiwawa ngati chiwawa, simudzatulukamo nthawi yake ndipo simungathe kudzipatsa chithandizo choyamba chamaganizo pambuyo pa zomwe zinachitika.

M'malo mwake, munthu, wogwirizana ndi mkwiyo wake, amasiyanitsa zochitika zachiwawa chifukwa chakuti mwa iwo amamva bwino mkwiyo wake. Sataya mkwiyo wake chifukwa cha ubale kapena "chithunzi chabwino."

Muchitsanzo choyaka moto, kulumikizana pakati pa zolandilira zowawa ndi ubongo zomwe zimayendetsa chizindikiro kuchokera ku zolandilira zimatayika. Munthu amene analetsedwa kusonyeza mkwiyo wake ndipo anagwiriridwa nthawi yomweyo (kunjenjemera, kumenya mbama, kumenyedwa, kunyoza, kuopseza) amatenga nthawi yaitali kulumikizanso kugwirizana pakati pa kukwiya ndi kuvomereza kumverera kumeneko. “Sindikananso kumvera mkwiyo wanga” ndicho chosankha chimene chingapangidwe m’njira.

Ngati mkwiyo "wachoka", timasokonezeka ndi zomwe zikuchitika kwa ife, mkati mwathu komanso pokhudzana ndi munthu wina. "Mwina ndimaganiza chifukwa chomwe ndinganene china kwa wolankhulayo?" - kukayikira koteroko kudzauka ngati sindikutsimikiza kuti ndi mkwiyo umene ndikumva. Malo a mkwiyo wosazindikira amakhala ndi kumverera kwa nkhawa yosamveka, nkhawa, mkhalidwewo umawoneka ngati wosasangalatsa, mukufuna kuthawa. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, sizidziwikiratu zoyenera kuchita, chifukwa mkwiyo sunakwaniritsidwe.

Chinthu choyamba kuti mugwirizanenso ndi chiwawa chanu, choncho mphamvu, ndikuwona mkwiyo wanu: momwe, liti, muzochitika ziti zomwe zimawonekera. Kutha kumva mkwiyo wanu ukangotuluka kumawoneka ngati sitepe lalikulu kuti mukwaniritse mphamvu zanu zotayika. Imvani mkwiyo ndipo pitirizani kuumva.

Pozolowera kusakwiya, timawoneka ngati tikudula zambiri kuposa kukwiya: timataya gawo lalikulu la ife eni. Popanda mphamvu zathu zambiri, tingakhale opanda mphamvu zochitira zinthu zosavuta.

Tiyeni tiwone zifukwa zisanu zomwe zili «zabwino» kukwiya.

1. Mkwiyo umakuthandizani kuthana ndi kudziona kuti ndinu wopanda mphamvu.

Mawu omwe timadziuza tokha, ofunikira pa msinkhu uliwonse: "Ndikhoza", "Ine ndekha", "ndidzachita" ndi mawonetseredwe a mphamvu zathu. Kudzimva kuti ndikulimbana ndi moyo, ndi zochitika, sindiwopa kulankhula ndi kuchitapo kanthu, zimandilola kudziona kuti ndine wodzidalira, kudalira ndekha, kumva mphamvu zanga.

2. Mkwiyo ndi chitsogozo chomvetsetsa kuti sitikonda zomwe zikuchitika

Ngakhale ngati sitinakhalebe ndi nthaŵi yomvetsetsa ndi malingaliro athu kuti mkhalidwe wasintha, mkwiyo wathu wanena kale kuti: “Chinachake chalakwika, sichikundiyenerera.” Timapeza mwayi wosintha zinthu zomwe zimawopseza moyo wathu.

3. Mkwiyo ndiye mafuta oyendetsera zinthu

Kodi mukukumbukira pamene mzimu wankhondo, chitokoso kapena ndewu zinathandiza kupeza zotulukapo zabwino? Mwachitsanzo, kukwiyira munthu, munachita kuyeretsa mu mpweya womwewo.

Ngati muyang'ana kukwiyitsa kwambiri, kumakhala mphamvu yamatsenga yomwe imakulolani kuti musinthe maganizo kukhala zochita, ndi malingaliro kukhala mankhwala. Mkwiyo umathandiza osati kulota, koma kusonyeza. Khalani pachiwopsezo choyambitsa chatsopano, kupitiliza ndikumaliza zomwe mudayamba. Gonjetsani zopinga. Zonsezi zimachitika ndi mphamvu zathu, zomwe nthawi zina zimayamba ndendende ndi mkwiyo. Kutengedwa kuchokera ku mpikisano, malingaliro a kaduka kapena zionetsero.

4. Mkwiyo umationetsa mmene timasiyana ndi ena.

Mkwiyo ndi mphamvu yolekanitsa. Zimatilola kukayikira zolembera zathu ndikufunafuna malingaliro athu. Tikamaphunzira zinthu zatsopano, tingakhumudwe: “Ayi, izi sizikundiyenerera.” Panthawiyi, pali mwayi wopeza chowonadi chanu, kukulitsa zikhulupiriro zanu, kuyambira "zosiyana".

Ndi mkwiyo umene umatipatsa mphamvu imeneyo, popanda zomwe sizingatheke kusiya semolina chaka chimodzi ndikusiya makolo athu zaka makumi awiri. Mphamvu yolekanitsa (mkwiyo) imakulolani kuti muyang'ane modekha kusiyana pakati pa malo anu ndi a anthu ena. Wina akhoza kukhala wosiyana, ndipo ine ndikhoza kukhala ndekha. Ndipo izi sizikutanthauza kuti mkwiyo ndi maubwenzi sizigwirizana. Ndikhoza kukwiya, winayo akhoza kundikwiyira, timasonyeza mkwiyo wathu, siziunjikana ndipo sizimaphulika.. Izi zimatithandiza kupitiriza ubale wathu moona mtima, mofanana, monga momwe zilili, ndi chisangalalo chonse ndi zokhumudwitsa zonse zomwe zili mu ubale uliwonse.

5. Mkwiyo umakulolani kuti muyime ndikumenyana.

Kukhoza kuteteza zofuna zanu ndi mphatso yachindunji ya mkwiyo. Mkwiyo umatilola kuti tipewe zolakwika, zosayenera kuti tidziyankhe tokha, mosasamala kanthu za kuchuluka kwa ubale ndi woukirayo komanso mikhalidwe ya moyo. Zimakupatsirani ufulu woteteza thupi lanu ndi mzimu wanu, kuthekera kufotokozera, kuyimirira, kufuna, kumenyera.

Pomaliza, kupondereza mkwiyo mwa ife tokha ndi njira ya kupsinjika maganizo, pamene timadzichotsera mphamvu. Mkwiyo ndi wabwino kuumva ndikuwudziwa, ziribe kanthu momwe tingasankhe kuufotokozera. Kumvetsetsa zomwe mkwiyo umatiuza, timamvetsetsa kwambiri moyo wathu wamkati ndikuphunzira kuchita zenizeni.

Sitingathe kungoyang'ana mkwiyo wathu ngati mphamvu yowononga komanso yosalamulirika, komanso kutenga zoopsa ndikuphunzira kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu za mkwiyo kuti ziwonetsere, kusuntha ndi kudziwonetsera tokha.