"Sindisamala": kusagwirizana ndi malingaliro

Pafupifupi aliyense amakhala ndi nthawi zosakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro. Panthawi ina, ubongo umangoyimitsa mbali zina za ntchitoyo, ndipo timakhala ndi moyo wongokhala. Izi sizabwino kapena zoyipa. Anthu osiyanasiyana amaona zochitika zomwezo mosiyana. Sitinagwirizane ndi malo amodzi olamulira, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti sitingathe kuyankha zomwe zikuchitika mofanana. Munthu wosakhudzidwa mtima amaoneka kuti wachita dzanzi ndipo amakhala wosalabadira chilichonse, kuphatikizapo zinthu zimene poyamba zinachititsa kuti anthu ayambe kumukonda.

Kodi kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro ndi chiyani

Kutengeka maganizo ndi mbali yofunika ya moyo wa munthu. Amatsogolera zokhumba zathu ndi zochita zathu, amatipangitsa kuyesetsa kuti tipeze zambiri ndikunyadira zomwe tachita, achisoni, okwiya, okhumudwa, odabwa, chikondi. Kutengeka kulikonse kumakhala ndi mithunzi yambiri yomwe imapanga chithunzi chokongola cha zochitika pamoyo.

Kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro sikungokhala kusasamala, kumalepheretsa kuzindikira zakunja ndikuwunika zonse zomwe zimachitika pozungulira. Sichilola kugwira ntchito, kulankhulana ndikukhala bwino. Zokonda, zokonda, maubwenzi ndi anthu zimakhala zopanda pake komanso zosafunikira, chifukwa palibe zomverera: munthu safuna kuchita zomwe sizibweretsa chisangalalo kapena chisangalalo. N'chifukwa chiyani mumachita zinthu zopanda tanthauzo?

Maudindo ndi nkhani ina, iyenera kukwaniritsidwa, apo ayi mudzatsika pansi. Ndipo chilichonse choposa pamenepo - misonkhano ndi abwenzi, zosangalatsa, zokonda, zokopa - zimamangiriridwa kumalingaliro ndi zilakolako.

Anthu ambiri amalakwitsa kusamvera ngati njira yopulumutsira moyo. Izi sizowona. Zimathandizadi kuzimitsa maganizo anu nthawi ndi nthawi kuti muganizire ntchito zofunika kwambiri, chifukwa kupsa mtima kwambiri kumangopweteka. Chinthu chinanso ndi choipa: ifenso nthawi zambiri timayiwala kubwerera mmbuyo ndikukhala m'maganizo mwazovuta. Malingaliro otsalira amawunjikana mkati ndipo posakhalitsa amamveka.

Chizoloŵezi chotsekereza malingaliro kuti mutseke zokhumudwitsa zilizonse zimatchedwa kupewa, ndipo iyi si njira yabwino kwambiri yodzitetezera. Kusazindikira kwanthawi yayitali kumawonetsa kuphwanya kwakukulu, zikatero ndikofunikira kukaonana ndi katswiri. Nazi zizindikiro zingapo zomwe muyenera kuziwona:

• kutaya chidwi ndi zochitika zamagulu;
• kudzimva kukhala wopanda pake komanso kudzipatula;
• kutopa kwamalingaliro ndi thupi, kutaya mphamvu;
• kusayanjanitsika kwathunthu, osati malingaliro abwino kapena oipa;
• kufooka kwathunthu, zovuta pazochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku;
• kulephera kuganiza mozama ndi kuzindikira zambiri zovuta;
• zovuta kufotokoza zakukhosi m'mawu ndi kufotokozera ena;
• chikhumbo chotseka kunyumba osakumana ndi aliyense.

Zomwe zimayambitsa kusakhudzidwa ndi malingaliro

Nthawi zambiri, matendawa amapezeka chifukwa cha ululu wokhazikika, wakuthupi kapena wamaganizo. Munthu amene amayenera kupirira chizunzo mwadala amayesa kuchotsa maganizo ake, ndiyeno zimakhala zosavuta kwa iye. Zimathandiza poyamba, koma vuto limangowonjezereka pamene nthawi ikupita. Vuto ndilakuti khomalo likukulirakulira komanso lolimba, ndipo pakapita nthawi mulibe kusiyana komwe kumatsalira, pomwe malingaliro ena, abwino kapena oyipa, amatha kulowa.

Njirayi idzatsekedwa mpaka titalingalira kuti tidutse pakhomo.

Zina mwa zomwe zingayambitse ndizovuta zamaganizo, kuphatikizapo:

• kukhumudwa;
• kuzunzidwa m'maganizo ndi m'thupi;
• kudalira mankhwala;
• kupanikizika;
• chisoni;
• zochitika zowawa ndi kusokonezeka pambuyo pa zoopsa;
• kuchuluka kwa nkhawa kapena nkhawa.

Kusatengeka maganizo nthawi zambiri kumayamba pambuyo pa kugwedezeka, makamaka kwa anthu omwe akhala akuzunzidwa kwa nthawi yaitali ndi makolo kapena anzawo omwe amawachitira nkhanza. Monga lamulo, ozunzidwa sangakhudze zomwe zimawachitikira, choncho amadzitsekera okha, chifukwa iyi ndiyo njira yokhayo yodzitetezera. Zochitika zovuta zimabwerera mobwerezabwereza: ngakhale zonse zikatha, munthu amayesa kupeŵa zochitika, zokambirana ndi zomverera zomwe zimamukumbutsa zakale.

Mwa anthu akuda nkhawa, kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro kumayambitsidwa ngati njira yolipirira yomwe imakuthandizani kuti muchepetse kupsinjika kwakukulu kuti mulole. Kuphatikiza apo, mankhwala ena amatha kuyambitsa. Zotsatira zoyipazi zimawonedwa pafupifupi mankhwala onse a psychotropic.

Kodi iye amathandizidwa bwanji

Palibe njira yapadziko lonse yothetsera kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro, vuto lililonse ndi la munthu payekha. Abwenzi, achibale, magulu othandizira sangathe kuthandizira ndi chikhumbo chawo chonse, chifukwa sadziwa momwe angachitire. Njira yabwino yopulumutsira ndikufunsana ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo. Angathe kudziwa zomwe zimayambitsa vutoli ndi kuthetsa vutoli limodzi ndi wodwalayo.

Simuyenera kuyembekezera zotsatira pompopompo: mabokosi omwe zomverera zopanda moyo zimabisika ziyenera kutsegulidwa mosamala, ndikuganiziranso chilichonse. Ngati zonse zachitika molondola, luso la kumva limabwezeretsedwa pang'onopang'ono. Njira ziwiri zodziwika bwino zochizira kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro ndi:

Chithandizo cha kuvomereza ndi udindo. Kuyang'ana pa chitukuko cha kuzindikira, kutha kuzindikira ndi kutanthauzira zochitika zamaganizo "monga momwe ziliri". Wodwalayo amaphunzira kuzindikira zochita zake zowononga n’kuikamo zolimbikitsa.

Chidziwitso chamakhalidwe. Amasamalira kwambiri kukulitsa luso lomvetsetsa komanso kufotokoza zakukhosi. Wodwalayo amaphunzira kusintha maganizo oipa ndi abwino. Kuphatikiza apo, njirayi imathandizira kuwunika mozama zochitika zosiyanasiyana ndikusankha yankho loyenera lamalingaliro.

Kusakhudzidwa sikumafotokozedwa nthawi zonse ndi zochitika zazikulu. Nthawi zambiri amakula mwa omwe amakhala opsinjika nthawi zonse ndikugwira ntchito mpaka malire. Pankhaniyi, akatswiri a zamaganizo amalimbikitsa kuti aganizirenso njira ya moyo.

Momwe mungakhalirebe bwino m'maganizo

Kusakhudzidwa mtima kungalephereke mwa kutsatira malamulo ochepa osavuta.

1. Chitani masewera olimbitsa thupi

Katundu wamasewera ndiye njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro. Tikamasuntha mwachangu, ubongo umatulutsa ma endorphin, omwe amapangitsa kuti munthu azisangalala komanso amapangitsa kuti pakhale mphamvu zambiri. Mphindi makumi awiri zokha patsiku zitha kuthandiza kwambiri kuwongolera thanzi labwino.

2. Yesetsani kukhala aukhondo mwaukhondo

Kugona kwabwino kumachita zodabwitsa. Mukungoyenera kumupangira zinthu: bedi labwino, chipinda chamdima, opanda mafoni a m'manja pabedi komanso osagona mochedwa.

3. Penyani chakudya

Chakudya ndi mafuta ofunika kwambiri m'thupi. Iyi ndi galimoto yabwino, koma ngati mutadzaza ndi chirichonse, idzalephera. Ngati musiya zakudya zovulaza n’kuikamo zathanzi n’kumadya pamene mukuzifuna, thanzi lanu lidzakhala labwino posachedwapa.

4. Chepetsani kupsinjika maganizo

Anthu ambiri opanda chidwi amakhala ndi mavuto ambiri osathetsedwa. Amawunjika pang'onopang'ono ndikusanduka katundu wosapiririka. Pamapeto pake, ubongo sungathe kupirira mochulukira ndipo umalowa m'malo ocheperako. Kuti izi zisachitike, ndikofunikira kwambiri kupumula ndikubwezeretsanso zinthu zanu.

5. Phunzirani kuzindikira, kufotokoza ndi kukhala ndi maganizo

Aliyense amene wakhala wosayanjanitsika ndi chirichonse kwa nthawi yaitali amangoyiwala zomwe zikutanthawuza kumverera ndi kuyankha zomwe zimawoneka, chifukwa luso losadziwika limakhala lopanda nthawi. Izo zikhoza kuipiraipira. Anthu amene anachitiridwa nkhanza ali ana sadziwa kuti maganizo ndi otani chifukwa sanaloledwe kukumana nawo. Mwamwayi, luntha lamalingaliro likhoza kukulitsidwa.

6. Yang'anani omwe ali okonzeka kukuthandizani

Ndi bwino kukhala ndi mabwenzi ndi achibale pafupi omwe ali okonzeka kukuthandizani pa nthawi zovuta. Nthawi zina kungolankhula mochokera pansi pa mtima ndikokwanira kumveketsa bwino chochita. Koma ngati palibe womukhulupirira, yang'anani magulu othandizira, pitani kwa ochiritsa, musakhale nokha.

Kusakhudzidwa kwamalingaliro sikuchoka paokha, njira yochira ndi yayitali komanso yovuta. Muyenera kusintha nokha ndikusintha ubale wanu ndi dziko lakunja. Koma mudzakwanitsa. Kupatula apo, izi zimachitidwa kuti abwezeretse kukoma kwa moyo kachiwiri.