Ndili ndi phobia ya usiku wotsatira chaka chatsopano

Mphunzitsi wina wazaka 41, dzina lake Linda, anati: “Ndimalotanso mmene ndimakonzekerera Chaka Chatsopano. "Bwanji ngati simukonda mphatso?" Ndi chakudya chanji choti muphike? Kodi makolo a mwamunayo abwera? Nanga bwanji ngati onse amakangana?” Kwa iwo omwe sangadzitamande chifukwa cha bata m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, maholide achisanu amakhala mayeso aakulu. Katswiri wa zamaganizo a Natalia Osipova akufotokoza kuti: "Kulimbikitsana kwakunja kwamphamvu, kumapangitsa kuti nkhawa yamkati iwonetseke," akufotokoza motero katswiri wa zamaganizo Natalia Osipova, "ndipo tchuthi ndi phokoso, phokoso, makamu ndi ziyembekezo zazikulu: pambuyo pake, Chaka Chatsopano ndi spruce wobiriwira amaimira kukonzanso ndi muyaya. moyo. Zotsatira zake ndizovuta kwambiri. ” Kwa ambiri, ngakhale kwambiri.

Amandipanikiza

Katswiri wa zamaganizo Juliette Allais anati: “Tili pa chitsenderezo champhamvu cha anthu. "Zimafunika kuti tigwiritse ntchito nthawi ndi ndalama zomwe zimakhudza kudzidalira kwathu (kodi ndidzatha kuchita zonse?) ndi kudzidalira (komwe ena adzandiyesa bwanji?)." Ngati kudzidalira kwathu kuli kofooka, kufunikira kochita zonse bwino, zomwe zimayikidwa pa ife ponse paŵiri mwa malonda ndi okondedwa athu, pamapeto pake zimatilepheretsa kugona. Ndipo timasiya tokha kuti Chaka Chatsopano ndi chachikulu. Kukana kuchita chikondwerero? "Zotsatira zake ndi zowopsa kwambiri: munthu akhoza kutchedwa "wampatuko", pafupifupi wopanduka," akuyankha Juliette Allais.

Ndalekanitsidwa ndi mikangano

Chaka chatsopano chimapanga mikangano yamkati yomwe imayambitsa kudzimva wolakwa. “Mwambo umenewu wakukhala m’gulu,” wopendayo akupitiriza motero, “amalola maunansi olimba ndi kukulitsa kudzidalira: chifukwa chakuti tili ndi ntchito yathuyathu m’banja, tilipo.” Koma gulu lathu likutsamira ku munthu payekha komanso kudziyimira pawokha: mkangano woyamba wamkati.

"Tchuthilo limafuna kuti tikhale omasuka komanso okonzeka kudikirira (kwa alendo, maphwando, chakudya chamadzulo, mphatso ...). Koma kwa chaka chonse, takhala tizoloŵera ku chipembedzo chachangu ndipo sitingathe kuchepetsa: mkangano wachiwiri. "Pomaliza, pali mkangano pakati pa zilakolako zathu, kufunika komvetsetsa, ndi phula la phula lomwe maholidewa angatigulitse." Makamaka ngati maganizo athu sakugwirizana ndi kukwera kwakukulu.

Ndimasiya kukhala ndekha

Misonkhano yabanja ndi chikondwerero cha zokambirana: timapewa mitu yovuta, kumwetulira ndikuyesera kukhala osangalatsa, zomwe zimabweretsa kukhumudwa. "Zimakhala zovuta makamaka kwa iwo omwe chaka chotuluka chidabweretsa kulephera kapena kutayika kuti awoneke osangalala," akutero Natalya Osipova. "Chiyembekezo chamtsogolo chomwe chili pachikondwererochi chimawapweteka." Koma zabwino za gulu, tiyenera kutsutsa zomwe zili mkati mwathu. “Chikondwerero cha ubwana chimenechi chimatibweretsanso paubwana wathu, sitilinso ofanana ndi ife tokha,” akutsindika motero Juliette Allais. Kubweza kumatisokoneza kwambiri kotero kuti timapereka umunthu wathu wapano, timayiwala kuti tinakula kalekale. Koma bwanji ngati, pambuyo pa zonse, timayesetsa kukhala akuluakulu Chaka Chatsopano ichi?

Zoyenera kuchita?

1. Sinthani zizolowezi zanu

Bwanji ngati tilolera kuchita zinthu mopanda pake? Simukuyenera kutsatira mwambo mu chilichonse. Ndipo Chaka Chatsopano, ngakhale kufunikira kwake, sichinali nkhani ya moyo ndi imfa. Dzifunseni zomwe zingakusangalatseni. Ulendo pang'ono, madzulo kumalo ochitira masewero? Yesani kubwerera ku tchuthi tanthauzo lake, kutali ndi dziko la mowa. Uwu ndi mwayi wosangalala ndi anthu ena ndikulumikizanso (kapena kupanga) maulalo omwe mumakonda.

2. Lankhulani ndi okondedwa anu pasadakhale

Musanayambe kusonkhana patebulo limodzi, mungakumane ndi achibale ena mmodzimmodzi m’malo osachita zinthu monyanyira ndi ogwirizana. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti muzimva mwachibadwa m'tsogolomu. Mwa njira, ngati mumatopa ndi mawu a amalume ena patchuthi, mutha kumuuza mwaulemu kuti, kuchokera pamalingaliro anu, ino si nthawi yoyenera mavumbulutso otere.

3. Mvetsetsani nokha

Chaka Chatsopano chimasonyeza bwino chikhalidwe cha maubwenzi athu ndi banja. Kodi mumamasuka? Kapena kodi muyenera kumvera zimene okondedwa anu amayembekezera? Kukumana ndi dokotala kungathandize kufotokozera udindo wanu m'banja. Mwinamwake ndinu kholo la ana amene ali ndi thayo la kulinganiza ndi kugwirizana kwa fuko. Anthu a m’banja oterowo ali ndi udindo waukulu umene ungagaŵidwe bwinopo ndi ena.