Ngakhale kuti tikudziwa zambiri, tidakali ndi tsankho lambiri lomwe lingapangitse moyo wapamtima kukhala wovuta. Katswiri wofufuza za kugonana ndi psychoanalyst Catherine Blanc amapenda limodzi la malingaliro otchukawa mwezi uliwonse.
Anthu awiri akugonana, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti onse awiri ali ndi udindo. Aliyense pano ali ndi madera awo odzichepetsa, malire a zomwe zili zololedwa, zongopeka za awiri sizimagwirizana nthawi zonse komanso sizigwirizana. Koma kodi n’zotheka kunena kuti wina ali “wolakwa” pa zimenezi? Mwachitsanzo, mkazi yemwe sali achigololo mokwanira, inventive, yogwira ... Kodi akhale iye amene amadyetsa malingaliro a mwamuna - ngati kuti anali mwana amene sadziwa chochita ndi yekha, ndipo akuyembekezera wamkulu wabwera ndi masewera kwa iye? Ndipo ngati mukuyembekezera chilimbikitso kuchokera kunja kokha, kuchokera kwa wina, kodi pali chitsimikizo kuti chidzabweretsa chisangalalo? Kapena mwinamwake munthu "wotopa" mwiniwake alibe kanthu mkati - ndipo chifukwa chake kunyong'onyeka ndi kudandaula kuti wokondedwayo sangathe kuyimitsa, ziribe kanthu momwe angayesetsere?
Masiku ano, dziko lathu lili ndi zitsanzo, miyezo, zitsanzo - choncho zamakono mwamuna ndi mochepa tcheru kuyang'ana gwero la kudzoza zogonana mwa iyemwini ndi mu ubale wake. Kuphatikiza apo, mwachilengedwe, amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi zowonera: mosiyana ndi mkazi, amatha kuwona chiwalo chake, kuwona chisangalalo chake. Chifukwa cha mbali iyi, adzakhala wokonzeka kuyang'ana kunja kwa zokopa zowoneka kusiyana ndi kutembenukira mkati ku gwero la chikhumbo. Komabe, kukhwima kwa kugonana kumaphatikizapo kukhala wokhoza kupeza kudzoza mwa iwe wekha, kudyetsa chikhumbo chako, kukonzekera kugonjetsa wina. Kupanga kumeneku kumawonekera m'malingaliro athu komanso m'mafunso omwe timadzifunsa tokha komanso kwa anzathu.
Potsirizira pake, kunyong'onyeka pabedi kungalankhulenso za kusakhutira kwakukulu - maubwenzi m'njira yotakata. Ndiye muyenera kudzifunsa nokha funso: chimene chikulakwika mwa iwo? Kapena mwina zimakuvutani kulola kuti muwonetsere zachiwerewere - ndipo zongopeka zimakuthandizani kuti penapake komanso ndi munthu wina chilichonse chikhale chosiyana ... Munkhaniyi, kwenikweni, palibe malo atsopano pabedi angasinthe chilichonse.