Ndikufuna kukhala wokondwa mwanjira yanga

Aliyense akuyesetsa kumvetsa tanthauzo la kukhala wosangalala, ndipo m’njira zambiri akuyesetsa kukwaniritsa zimenezi. Komabe, mosasamala kanthu za chikhumbo chokhala ndi moyo wowala ndi wachimwemwe, ambiri sadziwa mmene angachitire zimenezi.

Kufotokozera chimwemwe n’kovuta, chifukwa tikukhala m’dziko lodzaza ndi zododometsa. Tikamayesetsa, timapeza zimene tikufuna, koma nthawi zonse sitipeza zokwanira. Masiku ano, chisangalalo chasanduka nthano: zinthu zomwezo zimapangitsa munthu kukhala wosangalala komanso wina wosasangalala.

Posakasaka chimwemwe

Ndikokwanira «kusefukira» Intaneti kuona mmene ife tonse kutengeka ndi kufunafuna chimwemwe. Nkhani zambiri zimakuphunzitsani zomwe muyenera kuchita ndi zomwe simuyenera kuchita, momwe mungakwaniritsire kuntchito, m'banja kapena m'banja. Tikuyang'ana njira zopezera chimwemwe, koma kufufuza koteroko kungapitirire mpaka kalekale. Pamapeto pake, zimakhala zopanda kanthu ndipo sizingatheke kuzikwaniritsa.

Tanthauzo lomwe timapereka ku chisangalalo likukulirakulira kukumbukira chikondi chachikondi, chomwe chimapezeka m'mafilimu okha.

Psychology yabwino imatikumbutsa nthawi zonse za zizolowezi "zoyipa" zomwe timakodwa nazo: timadikirira sabata yonse Lachisanu kuti tisangalale, timadikirira chaka chonse kuti tchuthi tipumule, timalota bwenzi labwino kuti timvetsetse chomwe chikondi ndi. Nthawi zambiri timalakwitsa kukhala osangalala zomwe anthu amafunikira:

• ntchito yabwino, nyumba, foni yamakono yamakono, nsapato zapamwamba, mipando yokongola m'nyumba, kompyuta yamakono;
• m’banja, kukhala ndi ana, mabwenzi ambiri.

Potsatira malingaliro awa, sitisandulika kukhala ogula oda nkhawa, komanso kukhala ofunafuna chimwemwe chosatha chomwe wina ayenera kutimanga.

chisangalalo chamalonda

Mabungwe apadziko lonse lapansi ndi bizinesi yotsatsa amaphunzira mosalekeza zosowa za makasitomala omwe angakhale makasitomala. Nthawi zambiri amatikakamiza kuti tigulitse malonda awo.

Chimwemwe chochita kupanga choterocho chimakopa chidwi chathu chifukwa aliyense amafuna kukhala wosangalala. Makampani amamvetsetsa izi, ndikofunikira kuti apambane kukhulupilira ndi chikondi cha makasitomala. Chilichonse chimagwiritsidwa ntchito: zidule, zosokoneza. Akuyesera kusokoneza malingaliro athu kuti atikakamize kuyesa mankhwala "omwe amabweretsa chisangalalo." Opanga amagwiritsa ntchito njira zapadera zamalonda kutitsimikizira kuti chisangalalo ndi ndalama.

Ulamuliro wa chimwemwe

Kuonjezela pa mfundo yakuti cimwemwe casanduka cinthu cakudya, caikidwa kwa ife monga chiphunzitso. Mawu akuti "Ndikufuna kukhala osangalala" adasinthidwa kukhala "Ndiyenera kukhala wokondwa." Tinkakhulupirira chowonadi: "Kufuna ndiko kukhala wokhoza." “Palibe chosatheka” kapena “Ndimwetulira mochulukira ndi kudandaula mochepa” kakhalidwe kake sikamatipangitsa kukhala osangalala. M’malo mwake, m’malo mwake, timayamba kuganiza kuti: “Ndinkafuna, koma sindinathe, chinachake chinangolakwika.”

M’pofunikanso kukumbukira kuti sitiyenera kufuna kukhala osangalala, ndiponso kuti kulephera kukwaniritsa cholinga si vuto lathu nthawi zonse.

Kodi chimwemwe chimakhala ndi chiyani?

Uku ndikumverera kokhazikika. Tsiku lililonse timakhala ndi malingaliro osiyanasiyana, amayamba chifukwa cha zochitika zabwino ndi zoipa. Kutengeka kulikonse ndi kothandiza ndipo kumakhala ndi ntchito yake. Kutengeka mtima kumapereka tanthauzo ku kukhalapo kwathu ndikusintha zonse zomwe zimachitika kwa ife kukhala zofunikira.

Kodi mumafunika chiyani kuti mukhale osangalala?

Palibe ndipo sipangakhale njira yapadziko lonse yachisangalalo. Tili ndi zokonda zosiyanasiyana, makhalidwe, timakumana ndi zochitika zosiyanasiyana kuchokera ku zochitika zomwezo. Zomwe zimakondweretsa wina, zimabweretsa chisoni kwa wina.

Chimwemwe sichili mu kugula kotsatira kwa T-sheti yokhala ndi zolemba zotsimikizira moyo. Simungathe kumanga chimwemwe chanu, kuyang'ana zolinga ndi zolinga za anthu ena. Kukhala wosangalala ndikosavuta: muyenera kudzifunsa mafunso oyenera ndikuyamba kufunafuna mayankho, mosasamala kanthu za miyezo yokhazikitsidwa.

Imodzi mwa malangizo othandiza kwambiri panjira yopezera chisangalalo: osamvera ena, pangani zisankho zomwe zimawoneka ngati zabwino kwa inu.

Ngati mukufuna kuthera sabata yanu mukuwerenga mabuku, musamvere omwe amati ndiwe wotopetsa. Ngati mukuona kuti ndinu wosangalala kukhala nokha, iwalani za amene amaumirira kufunika kwa ubwenzi.

Ngati maso anu amawala pamene mukugwira ntchito yomwe mumakonda koma osapeza phindu, nyalanyazani omwe amati simukupeza ndalama zokwanira.

Zolinga zanga za lero: khalani okondwa

Palibe chifukwa chochotsera chisangalalo mpaka mtsogolo: mpaka Lachisanu, mpaka tchuthi, kapena mpaka nthawi yomwe muli ndi nyumba yanu kapena mnzanu wangwiro. Mukukhala mu nthawi yomweyi.

Inde, tili ndi udindo, ndipo nthawi zonse padzakhala munthu amene amakhulupirira kuti n'zosatheka kusangalala pansi pa kulemera kwa udindo wa tsiku ndi tsiku kuntchito ndi kunyumba. Koma zilizonse zomwe mungachite, dzifunseni nthawi zambiri zomwe mukudabwa chifukwa chake mukugwira ntchitoyi tsopano. Kodi mukuchitira ndani: inu nokha kapena ena. Chifukwa chiyani mukuwononga moyo wanu pa maloto a munthu wina?

Aldous Huxley analemba kuti: "Tsopano aliyense ali wokondwa." Kodi sizosangalatsa kupeza chimwemwe chanu, osati ngati chitsanzo chokhazikitsidwa?