Pafupifupi aliyense wa ife wakumanapo kuntchito ndi anthu omwe amadandaula nthawi zonse. Zinthu zikangolakwika, amayembekeza kuti mutaya chilichonse ndikumvera zomwe sakusangalala nazo. Nthawi zina amakuonani ngati munthu yekha mu ofesi akhoza "kulira pa vest."
Victor amayesa kuthamanga muofesi mwachangu momwe angathere m'mawa kupita kuntchito kwake. Ngati alibe mwayi, adzathamangira ku Anton, ndiyeno maganizo ake adzawonongeka tsiku lonse.
"Anton amadandaula mosalekeza za zolakwa za anzathu, amalankhula za kuchuluka kwa zomwe amawononga kuti akonze zolakwa zawo. Ndimagwirizana naye m’njira zambiri, koma mphamvu zanga zomuthandiza si zokwanira,” akutero Victor.
Dasha watopa kwambiri kuyankhula ndi Galya: "Galya amakwiyitsa kwambiri kuti abwana athu wamba nthawi zonse amapeza zolakwika ndi zazing'ono. Ndipo izi ndi zoona, koma wina aliyense wakhala akugwirizana ndi khalidwe lakeli, ndipo sindikumvetsa chifukwa chake Galya satha kuona zinthu zabwino zomwe zikuchitika.
Ndani mwa ife amene sanakhalepo mumkhalidwe wotere? Zikuwoneka kuti ndife okonzeka kuthandiza anzathu, koma nthawi zina ife tokha tilibe mphamvu zowathandiza kupulumuka panthawi yovuta.
Komanso, kutengeka maganizo nthawi zambiri kumapatsirana. Popanda malire omveka bwino aumwini, kudandaula kosalekeza kwa munthu mmodzi kungawononge gulu lonse.
Kodi n'zotheka kuthetsa vutoli mwanzeru, kusonyeza chifundo chofunikira kwa munthuyo ndi mavuto ake, osamulola kuti "akokere" inu ndi anzake ena mu "dambo" lake? Inde. Koma izi zidzatengera khama pang'ono.
Yesetsani kumvetsa mkhalidwe wake
Musanayambe kudzudzula poyera «whiner», dziike nokha m'malo mwake. Zingakhale zothandiza kumvetsetsa chifukwa chake akufuna kugawana nanu mavuto ake onse. Ena amafunika kuwamvera, ena amafunikira upangiri kapena malingaliro a munthu wakunja. Dziwani zomwe mnzako akufuna powafunsa mafunso osavuta: "Ndingakuchitire chiyani pompano? Mukuyembekeza kuti ndichite chiyani?"
Ngati mungamupatse zimene akufuna, chitani. Ngati sichoncho, ndiye kuti si vuto lanu.
Ngati muli ndi ubwenzi wolimba, lankhulani naye momasuka
Ngati nthawi iliyonse mukamalankhula ndi wogwira naye ntchito, amakuponyerani madandaulo ambiri, zingakhale bwino kunena mosapita m'mbali kuti simukumasuka ndi khalidwe lake. Inunso mumatopa ndipo muli ndi ufulu wodzipatsa nokha malo abwino kapena osalowerera ndale.
Kapena mwina inuyo "muyitana" wantchito mosazindikira kuti azigawana nawo zowawa zawo? Mwina mumanyadira kuti mutha kutembenukirako nthawi zonse kuti akuthandizeni ndi kukuthandizani? Ichi chikhoza kukhala chizindikiro cha «office martyr syndrome» momwe timayendera kuti tithandize anzathu ndi mavuto amtundu uliwonse chifukwa zimatipangitsa kumva kuti ndife ofunika komanso ofunikira. Chifukwa cha zimenezi, nthawi zambiri sitikhala ndi nthawi yochita ntchito zathu tokha komanso kudzipezera tokha.
Thandizani kukambirana mwanzeru pamitu ina
Ngati mulibe ubale wapamtima kwambiri ndi «wodandaula», chophweka njira ndi kufotokoza mwachidule thandizo lanu ndi kupewa kukambirana zina: «Inde, ndikumvetsa inu, izi kwenikweni zosasangalatsa. Pepani, nthawi ikutha, ndiyenera kugwira ntchito. Khalani aulemu ndi mwanzeru, koma musamakambirane nawo, ndipo mnzanuyo posachedwapa adzazindikira kuti palibe chifukwa chodandaula kwa inu.
Thandizani ngati mungathe, musathandize ngati simungathe
Kwa anthu ena, kudandaula kumathandiza pakupanga zinthu. Kwa ena a ife, zimakhala zosavuta kuchita ntchito zovuta polankhula poyamba. Ngati mukukumana ndi izi, auzeni kuti ogwira ntchito apereke nthawi yapadera yodandaula. Pophulitsa nthunzi, gulu lanu limatha kugwira ntchito mwachangu.