Zamkatimu
Mmene timadzichitira zimakhudza mmene timamvera. Kudziona ngati wonyozeka, kudzidzudzula mopambanitsa kungayambitse kuvutika maganizo, kusokonezeka kwamanjenje ngakhalenso matenda. Chenjerani: Kodi mukudzipangira nokha zomwe mungachitire bwenzi lanu lapamtima?
Tonsefe timayenera kutichitira zinthu mwanzeru ndiponso mwaulemu. Izi ndi zomwe timayembekezera kwa ena. Koma muyenera kuyamba ndi inu nokha! Zodabwitsa ndizakuti, nthawi zambiri timachita (ndikulankhula) tokha m'njira yomwe sitingachite ndi achibale, abwenzi, ngakhale omwe timawadziwa: mwankhanza komanso modzudzula.
Nkosavuta kwa ambiri kuvomereza zolakwa zawo kusiyana ndi zoyenerera zawo. Ndipo sizotetezeka: kudzidalira kumapangitsa kuti pakhale zofunikira pakukhumudwa komanso nkhawa. Kodi si nthawi yoti musinthe maganizo anu kuti mukhale abwino?
1. Ganizirani zenizeni
Sitingathe kusintha zimene sitikuziona. Kudzipenyerera ndi kofunika kuti munthu achitepo kanthu. Ngati tikufuna kuti tisiye kudziona kuti ndife ofunika, tiyenera kumvetsa mmene timachitira. Ndikosavuta kutengera kuwunika kwachindunji lingaliro la liwu lamkati lomwe limanyoza zomwe tikuyenera kuchita ndikuwonetsa zofooka.
Komabe, mawu amenewa akusonyeza kuti munthu samadziona ngati wosafunika. Ndipo izo ziyenera kuchita ndi chirichonse koma chenicheni. Pophunzira kuzindikira ndi kuyesa molondola mawu awa, mukhoza kusintha momwe mukudzionera nokha.
2. Muzilankhula za Inu mwini Mwaulemu
Nthawi zonse kupeputsa luso lanu ndi zomwe mwakwaniritsa, kuyankhula monyoza za inu nokha, kupewa chidwi chilichonse, kukulitsa ulemu… Iyi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yodzisungitsira kudzidalira. Mawu ndi ofunika, amakhudza kwambiri mmene timaonera zinthu komanso mmene timaonera ena.
Chifukwa chake, yambani kunena za inu nokha ndi zochitika zanu, kupewa chilichonse chomwe chimakuwonetsani kuti ndinu wozunzidwa kapena wotayika. Landirani zoyamikira popanda kupereka zifukwa kapena kukana zoyenereza. Vomerezani mlembi wa malingaliro abwino.
Chilichonse cholembedwa chokhudza kukhululuka nthawi zambiri chimanena za ena poyamba. Koma n’kofunikanso kuphunzira kudzikhululukira.
Dziyamikireni pakuchita bwino kwanu. Chenjerani ndi chizolowezi chodziganizira moyipa ndikuti "Bodza!" ku malingaliro otere. nthawi iliyonse iwo amabwera. Achotseni poganizira za mawonekedwe anu abwino.
3. Pezani nyenyezi mwa inu
Albert Einstein ankakhulupirira kuti aliyense ndi wanzeru m'munda wawo. Kuyimba, kuphika, kuthamanga, kulemba mabuku, kuthandiza ena ... Pamene tiwonetsa luso, timamasula kuwala kwa nyenyezi yomwe imakhala mkati mwathu ndikuwunikira kudalira, kukongola, chidaliro ndi chidziwitso.
Pamene timadziwa zambiri za luso lathu lapadera, timaliwonetsera kwambiri-kawirikawiri popanda zovuta, chifukwa ndi zokondweretsa-ndipo gawo lamkati la chidaliro limakula. Dziwani kuti talente yanu yeniyeni ndi chiyani ndipo ikani nthawi mundandanda yanu kuti mugwiritse ntchito.
4. Dzikhululukireni nokha
Chilichonse cholembedwa chokhudza kukhululuka nthawi zambiri chimanena za ena poyamba. Koma n’kofunikanso kuphunzira kudzikhululukira. Pochita izi, timabwezeretsa kufunikira kwathu pamaso pathu ndipo timakhala omasuka pamaso pa ena.
Kumbukirani chochitika chomwe chimakupangitsani chisoni. Ikumbukireni pamodzi ndi nkhani yake, kuphatikizapo malo, nthawi, malo, mmene mumamvera komanso mmene mumaganizira panthawiyo. Siyanitsani zomwe zingachitikire chifukwa cha zochitika ndi ena omwe atenga nawo mbali pazochitikazo ndi zomwe zimadalira inu.
Pezani mfundo zofunika kuchokera ku izi zamtsogolo, ndiyeno dzikhululukireni kuchokera pansi pa mtima wanu - moona mtima monga momwe mungakhululukire munthu amene mumamukonda. Munachita zomwe mungathe pa nthawiyo, ndipo palibe chifukwa chonyamula katundu wakale.
5. Thandizani ena
Kudzimva wofunikira ndikopindulitsa kwambiri kukulitsa kudzidalira. Tengani udindo kwakanthawi kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino kwa iwo omwe akukumana ndi zovuta, odzipereka kapena kugawana chidziwitso, kusamutsa chidziwitso ...
Ndikopindulitsa kuti tidzilemekeze kuzindikira kuti chifundo chathu, kusaganizira ena, mawu, ndi kupezeka kwathu kumatonthoza ndi kuthandiza ena. Makamaka ngati sitikuchepetsa mtengo wa zochita zathu ndipo osachita kuchokera pa udindo wa "kapolo wodzipereka". Perekani thandizo, nthawi, ndi malangizo monga ofanana, osavuta, komanso mwaulemu.
6. Pitani ku masewera
Kafukufuku wambiri watsimikizira kugwirizana pakati pa kudzidalira ndi kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi. Kuthamanga, kuyenda mwachangu, kusambira, kukwera pamahatchi, kutsetsereka pamadzi, kuvina, nkhonya…
The Self ndiye gawo lolimba, lokhazikika la umunthu wathu, mtima waumunthu.
Kudzidalira kumakula, ndipo timaona kuti ndife okhoza kulemekeza gawo lathu. Osanenapo kuti kusewera masewera kumawongolera mkhalidwe wamalingaliro ndikuwongolera kugona. Ndiyeno timamva bwino "pakhungu lathu" ndikukhala olimba mtima.
7. Yamikirani umunthu wanu
Pali zowona, zotsatira (zolakwa ndi kupambana), zochitika, zochitika za moyo - ndipo pali chinachake chozama kwambiri. Pali pamwamba ndipo pali kuya. Pali "Ine" (yakanthawi, yosakwanira, yotengera momwe zinthu ziliri), ndipo pali "Kudzikonda": malinga ndi Jung, uku ndiko kuchuluka kwa mawonetseredwe athu onse.
The Self ndiye gawo lolimba, lokhazikika la umunthu wathu, mtima waumunthu. Uwu ndiye mtengo wake, ndiye muyenera kuusamalira ndikuulemekeza. Kunyoza, kunyalanyaza ndi kupeputsa khalidwe la munthu kukakhala kuzunza umunthu wake. Yambani kumvetsera zosowa zanu, khalani ndi chidwi ndi zilakolako, zilemekezeni, ndiyeno ena azilemekeza.
Pokonzekera nkhaniyi, zipangizo zinagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi Allison Abrams, katswiri wa zamaganizo, wolemba mutu wa "Kusamalira Kudzimvera Chifundo" pa psychologytoday.com, ndi Glenn Shiraldi, katswiri wa zamaganizo, wolemba Ten Solutions for Improving Self-Esteem (Dix Solutions). pour accroître l'estime de soi, Broquet , 2009).