Mpaka posachedwa, zinali zovuta kulingalira za bambo pa tchuthi cha makolo. Ndipo tsopano nkhaniyi ikukambidwa mwachangu. Ndani amasankha izi - henpecked, loafer kapena eccentric? "Bambo wabwinobwino, sindikuwona chilichonse chachilendo pankhaniyi," akutero Intars Busulis, woyimba, yemwe akuchita nawo ziwonetsero za "Three Chords", bambo wa ana anayi. Nthawi ina, adakhala chaka kunyumba ndi mwana wawo wamwamuna wobadwa kumene.
7 September 2019
“Inenso ndine wochokera m'banja lalikulu. Ndili ndi azichemwali anga awiri ndi abale anga awiri. Tinkakhala bwino nthawi zonse wina ndi mnzake, kunalibe nthawi yofotokozera zaubwenzi, tinkachita bizinesi nthawi zonse: sukulu yophunzitsa nyimbo, kujambula, magule achikhalidwe, sitinakwereko ngakhale njinga - kunalibe nthawi, - akukumbukira Intars. - Sindinganene kuti ndimalota kuti ndidzakhala ndi ana ambiri, koma sizinandiwopsyeze. Zimakhala bwino pakakhala abale ndi alongo. Nthawi zonse pamakhala munthu wapafupi amene mungapite kwa iye, kuti mukambirane zinazake.
Ndinali ndi zaka 23 pamene mkazi wanga ndi ine tinakhala ndi mwana wathu woyamba. Sindikuganiza kuti molawirira. Koma tsopano Lenny ali ndi zaka 17, ndipo inenso ndidakali wamng'ono (Busulis ndi zaka 41. - Approx. "Antenna"). Mwana wanga wamwamuna atabadwa, ndinkalowa usilikali, ndipo ndinkayimba zida zoimbira za oimba mu Gulu Lankhondo Lonse ku Latvia. Koma chifukwa chosamvana ndi akuluakulu aboma, ndidachotsedwa ntchito. Ndinakhala pa ntchito chaka chimodzi. Anali wokonzeka kutenga chilichonse, koma sanapeze chilichonse. Ndipo ine ndi Inga tili ndi mwana wamng'ono, nyumba za lendi, tsopano nyumba imodzi, kenako ina. Zinthu zinali zovuta: kwinakwake kunalibe madzi, enawo amayenera kutenthedwa ndi nkhuni. Mkazi wanga yekha ndi amene ankagwira ntchito. Inga anali woperekera zakudya mulesitilanti ina. Iye sanangopeza, komanso anabweretsa chakudya kunyumba. Zinali zabwino pamenepo. Chifukwa chake takhala tikupatsidwa chakudya chamadzulo nthawi zonse ”.
Intars ndi mwana wamkazi wamkulu Amelia.
“Mkazi wanga ankagwira ntchito, ndipo ine ndimagwira ntchito ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna. Sindinkawona ngati vuto kwa ine ndekha, mkhalidwe wowopsa, zinali zochitika zokha. Inde, tinali ndi agogo, koma sitinapite kwa iwo kuti atithandize, tili monga chonchi: ngati palibe chifukwa chachikulu, timakhala tokha patokha. Kodi amayi omwe ali ndi ana amandisamala kwambiri? Sindikudziwa. Sindinaganizirepo za izi, ndinalibe zovuta zake. Koma ndinali ndi mwayi wokhala nthawi yayitali ndi mwana wanga wamwamuna, kuwona momwe amakulira, kusintha, kuphunzira kuyenda, kulankhula. Mwa njira, mawu oyamba omwe adalankhula anali ma tetis, omwe amatanthauza "papa" m'Chilativiya.
Sindikudziwa chifukwa chake aliyense amaganiza kuti ndi chamanyazi kuti abambo azikhala pakhomo ndi mwana. Ndikuvomereza kuti tsopano ndikosavuta kwa ine kusewera konsati ya anthu zikwi 11 kuposa kukhala tsiku limodzi ndi mwana kunyumba ndekha. Mwanayo amakukokerani kulikonse: mwina amafuna chakudya, ndiye kusewera naye, ndiye muyenera kumudyetsa, kenako ndikumugoneka. Ndipo muyenera kukhala atcheru nthawi zonse. "
Mu Marichi 2018, Busulis adakhala bambo wachinayi. Ndi mwana wamwamuna Janis.
“Kuyambira 2004, abambo ku Latvia atha kupita patchuthi cha amayi oyembekezera. Mwa anzanga pali omwe agwiritsa ntchito ufuluwu. Inenso ndikadachita ndichisangalalo, ngati kuli kofunikira. Ngakhale alipo ena omwe amaganiza: Ndine munthu ngati ndingabweretse ndalama kunyumba. Koma ndikudziwa kuchokera mwa inemwini kuti sizosangalatsa kwa aliyense ngati simukukhala ngati bambo kunyumba. Ndikuganiza kuti bambo sayenera kungogwira ntchito, kukhala "chikwama", kulimbitsa thupi, mtsogoleri wabizinesi; ngati pali ana, ayenera kukhala bambo woyamba, wothandizira theka lake. Ngati mkazi wanu akufuna kugwira ntchito, koma ndizosangalatsa kuti mukhale ndi mwana wanu ndipo mutha kukwanitsa, bwanji? Kapenanso ngati ndalama zomwe amapeza ndizochulukirapo kuposa zanu, ndikuganiza kuti ndibwino kuti mumupatse mpata wopitiliza kuchita bizinesi, ndizothandiza banja lanu.
Kukhala kholo labwino ndi ntchito yayikulu ndipo, ndikuganiza, ntchito yovuta kwambiri padziko lapansi. Chimene ndidaphunzira ndikakhala ndi mwana wanga chinali kuleza mtima. Tiyerekeze kuti mwana amadzuka usiku, akulira, amafunika kusintha thewera, ndipo simukufuna kudzuka, koma muyenera. Ndipo inu mumachita izo. Kusamalira mwana, inunso mumadziphunzitsa nokha. Mumadzitsimikizira nokha kuti muyenera kugwiritsa ntchito nthawi ndi mphamvu zanu kuti mumuphunzitse zinthu zambiri, ngakhale zazing'ono monga kupita kumphika, kenako mudzakhala osavuta komanso odekha pambuyo pake. Zimatengera kuyesetsa kwambiri, ndipo moleza mtima komanso mosasinthasintha mumazolowera chilichonse, ndipo pamapeto pake zonse zikachitika, mumanena monyadira: amadziwa kugwira supuni, kudya ngakhale kupita kuchimbudzi yekha. Ndipo ndi ntchito yotani yomwe yachitika kuti mupeze zotsatira zoterezi! "
Ndi mkazi wake Inga pachiyambi cha ubale wawo.
“Nthawi zonse ndimayesetsa kukhala mwamtendere ndi ana. Ngakhale iwo, ndithudi, amasonyeza khalidwe, amayesa kugwada pansi pawo. Koma mwanayo sayenera kuloledwa kukupusitsani, kumusangalatsa. Ndipo iwe, pokhala wamkulu, umalimbikira wekha; Nthawi ina, amapereka kwa inu mwa chifundo Chanu, ndipo zimamupepukira.
Osatengeka ndi zikhumbo. Mwana akagwa, ndimafuna kuthamangira kwa iye, kukamutenga, kuthandiza. Koma mukuwona kuti sakumva kuwawa, ngakhale akulira. Mumadikira kuti mwanayo adzuke yekha. Chifukwa chake, mumamuphunzitsa kuthana ndi izi payekha.
Nthawi zina ndimawona makolo ena ali ndi ana awo m'mashopu akusokonekera, akufuna zidole zomwe akufuna kubwera kuno komanso pano. Amakonza zochitika, akuyembekeza kuti sangakane. Ndipo ana athu akudziwa bwino kuti ndizopanda phindu kuchita izi, zonse ziyenera kuchitika. Ndipo ngati atchera khutu ku chinthu china m'sitolo, timawauza kuti: "Tsalani bwino ndi chidolecho tizipita." Izi sizitanthauza kuti timawakana onse. Tili ndi nyumba yodzaza ndi zoseweretsa, koma samazilandira ndi chithandizo, koma chodabwitsa, chilimbikitso.
Mwachitsanzo, ngati adatsuka, kutsuka mbale, kudyetsa mphaka, kuyenda ndi galu, kapena pazifukwa zina - tchuthi kapena tsiku lobadwa. Osangoti "Ndikufuna - mutenge." Sitili ouma mtima konse, tikufuna kusangalatsa ana, kuwasangalatsa. Kuphatikiza apo, pali mwayi, koma sikoyenera kuti mwana aganize kuti ngati angafune, apeza zonse nthawi imodzi. "
Mwana wamwamuna yemweyo Lenny, yemwe abambo ake adamusamalira chaka choyamba cha moyo wawo, Raymond Pauls ndi wojambulayo.
“Mu 2003, nditakhala kunyumba kwathu chaka chonse, mzanga adandiimbira foni kuti akukhazikitsa gulu la jazi ndipo akufunika woyimba. Ndidamukana: "Ndine wokonda kuyimba bomba," ndipo adakumbukira kuti ndili mwana ndimayimba pagulu. Akuti: "Bwerani, ndili ndi vuto, ndipo muli ndi milungu iwiri yokonzekera zidutswa za jazi 12." Inde, ndinali wokondwa kuti panali ntchito. Adapereka ma lats 50 pa konsati, pafupifupi 70 euros, ndalama zabwino kwambiri panthawiyo. Izi zidakhala poyambira pantchito yanga yoimba…
Nditapeza ntchito, mkazi wanga adakhala malo omwewo, chifukwa sitinali otsimikiza kuti ndidzakhala ndi zonsezi kwanthawi yayitali. Inga anali wantchito wabwino, adayamikiridwa, adayamba ntchito. Ndipo mwana wathu wamkazi adabadwa, ndipo titha kukwanitsa kuti mkazi wanga apite patchuthi cha umayi.
Tsopano tili ndi ana anayi. Lenny, mwana wamwamuna woyamba kubadwa, asiya sukulu chaka chamawa. Ndi mwana waluso, amakonda masewera, komanso ali ndi mawu abwino. Mwana wamkazi Emilia 12, amaphunzira kusukulu ya nyimbo, amasewera saxophone, mumtima mwake ndiwosewera weniweni. Amalia ali ndi zaka 5, amapita ku sukulu ya mkaka, amakonda kukonda za moyo, magule ndipo amatipangitsa kukhala osangalala ndi maluso amitundu yonse. Ndipo khanda Janis posachedwa adzakhala ndi chaka chimodzi ndi theka, ndipo akuwoneka kuti akumvetsetsa zonse kale ”.
"M'banja mwathu sichizolowezi kukambirana za ntchito, kulibe TV kunyumba, kotero kutenga nawo gawo muwonetsero" Zolemba Zitatu ", ngakhale nditakhala wochuluka bwanji, sindikutsatiridwa ndi ana. Sitikakamiza anthu kuti azikonda chilichonse, kuphatikizapo nyimbo.
Tili ndi mwayi kuti tingakwanitse kuti tisatenge wantchito, timatha tokha ndipo palibe chifukwa chofunira thandizo kwa mlendo. Ndikuganiza kuti ndikofunikira kwambiri kupatsira zomwe mwakumana nazo kwa mwana kuposa ngati zingachitike ndi munthu wina, yemwe malingaliro ake pa moyo, mwina, sagwirizana ndi athu. Koma sitimakana thandizo la agogo. Ndife banja limodzi. Tsopano ndine ndekha amene ndimayang'anira bajeti yathu pabanja. Mutha kunena kuti mkazi wanga yekha ndi amene amagwira ntchito, ndipo ine ndimangokhala woyimba, woyimba. "