Ngati wina amalingalira kaŵirikaŵiri za kudzipatula kwa okalamba pamene tikukamba za kusokonekera kwa banja, zimenezi zingakhudzenso ana ndi akuluakulu ogwira ntchito. Ganizirani kwambiri za mliri wakumadzulo womwe wafala kwambiri.

Kuyambira kugunda koyamba kwa mtima wake, m'mimba mwa amayi ake, mwanayo amawona malingaliro ake, bata lake kapena mosiyana, kupsinjika kwake. Pambuyo pa miyezi ingapo, amamva mawu a abambo ake ndi mamvekedwe osiyanasiyana a omwe ali pafupi naye. Choncho, banja ndilo chiyambi cha malingaliro komanso komanso pamwamba pa zonse zomwe zimakonda anthu komanso makhalidwe abwino. Zisonkhezero zogwira mtima ndi ulemu wa makolo kwa mwana ndizo zonse zomwe zingakhudze umunthu wake wachikulire.

Njira yofananayi imabwerezedwa malinga ngati ana asankha kukhala makolo m’nthawi yawo. Kenako mgwirizano wamphamvu wamaganizo ndi wamakhalidwe umayambika pakati pa ziŵalo za banja limodzi, kupangitsa kudzipatula kaŵirikaŵiri kukhala kovuta kupirira.

Kutuluka kunja, vuto la othawa kwawo, ntchito zomwe zimafuna kusamvana kwakukulu kwa mabanja, milandu yodzipatula ndiyochuluka kuposa momwe timaganizira. Kutalikirana uku kungayambitse nthawi zina ufa. Zikapezeka, chithandizo ndi kulumikizananso kwa mabanja kumatha kuyimira mayankho ogwira mtima.

Ana amathanso kudzipatula kapena kusamvana ndi mabanja awo. Chisudzulo kapena kulekana kwa makolo aŵiriwo kungatsogoleredi kulekana mokakamizidwa ndi mmodzi wa makolo aŵiriwo (makamaka pamene wotsirizirayo ali wochoka kudziko lina kapena akukhala kudera lakutali kwambiri). Sukulu yogonera panthawi yamaphunziro imakumananso ndi ena ngati chovuta kwambiri chabanja kukhala nacho.

Mosakayikira okalamba ndi amene amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kudzipatula. Izi zitha kulongosoledwa mophweka ndi kupatukana pang'onopang'ono ndi chikhalidwe cha anthu, kunja kwa banja.

Zowonadi, okalamba sagwiranso ntchito ndipo amakonda kudzipereka okha ku mabanja awo (makamaka pakubwera kwa ana ang'onoang'ono). Anzako omwe amakumana nawo pafupifupi tsiku lililonse amaiwala kapena osachepera, misonkhano ikuchulukirachulukira. Kulankhulana ndi abwenzi nakonso sikuchitika kawirikawiri chifukwa omalizawo amatengedwa ndi ntchito zawo zapabanja.

Zaka zikupita ndipo zilema zina zimawonekera. Okalamba amadzipatula kwambiri ndikuwona anzawo akucheperachepera. Opitilira 80, kuphatikiza pabanja lake, nthawi zambiri amakhutira ndikusinthana pang'ono ndi anansi, amalonda ndi othandizira ochepa. Pambuyo pa zaka 85, chiwerengero cha interlocutors chimachepa, makamaka pamene munthu wachikulire amadalira ndipo sangathe kuyendayenda payekha.

Mofanana ndi kudzipatula, kudzipatula kwa banja kumapita patsogolo. Ana akugwira ntchito, samakhala nthawi zonse mumzinda kapena dera lomwelo, pamene ana aang'ono ndi akuluakulu (nthawi zambiri amakhala ophunzira). Kaya ndi kunyumba kapena kumalo osungirako anthu, pali njira zimene zingathandize okalamba kulimbana ndi kusungulumwa.

Ngati akufuna kukhala panyumba, munthu wachikulire amene ali kwakutali angathandizidwe mwa:

• Maukonde othandizira am'deralo (kuperekera chakudya, chithandizo chamankhwala kunyumba, ndi zina).
• Ntchito zoyendera okalamba kuti zilimbikitse kuyanjana ndi kuyenda.
• Magulu odzifunira omwe amapereka ubwenzi kwa okalamba (kuyendera kunyumba, masewera, maphunziro owerengera, kuphika, masewera olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina).
• Makalabu ochezera ndi malo odyera kulimbikitsa misonkhano ya okalamba.
• Thandizo lakunyumba pantchito zapakhomo, kugula zinthu, kuyenda agalu, ndi zina.
• Ophunzira akunja omwe amakhala ndi chipinda m'nyumbamo posinthanitsa ndi kampani ndi ntchito zazing'ono.
• Ma EHPAs (Kukhazikitsa Nyumba Za Okalamba Anthu) amadzipereka kuti azikhala ndi ufulu wodzilamulira (mwachitsanzo moyo wa studio) pomwe akusangalala ndi zabwino za moyo wamagulu woyang'aniridwa.
• The Mtengo wa EHPAD (Accommodation Establishment for Dependent Elderly People) landirani, perekezani ndi kusamalira okalamba.
• Ma USLDs (Mayunitsi Osamalira Okalamba Okalamba M'chipatala) amasamalira anthu omwe amadalira kwambiri.

Pali mayanjano ambiri omwe amabwera kudzathandiza okalamba ndi akutali, musazengereze kufunsa kuholo ya tauni yanu.

Mabungwe angapo amathandiziranso kupeŵa kusungulumwa kwinaku akuthandiza achibale omwe sapezeka nthawi zonse.

Kudzipatula kapena kupatukana ndi banja ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri kukhala nayo, makamaka ngati ikuwoneka ngati yosasinthika (motero madandaulo obwera mobwerezabwereza a okalamba omwe ali ndi kusungulumwa). Kuchita zinthu zowathandiza kuwathandiza kuti azikalamba mwabata komanso kuchepetsa nkhawa zawo.