Zamkatimu
"Ndatha, ndipambana", "ndinachita bwino bwanji ntchitoyi." Sitikufuna kunena mawu otero kwa ife tokha, chifukwa nthawi zambiri timakonda kudzidzudzula tokha kuposa kudzitamandira. Komanso nthawi zonse amafuna zotsatira zabwino. N’chiyani chimatilepheretsa kudzikhulupirira komanso kunyada chifukwa cha zimene tapambana?
Ndikafunsa mafunso ndili mwana, nthawi zambiri ndinkamva makolo anga kuti: “Izi n’zachidziŵikire!” kapena “Pa usinkhu wako, uyenera kudziŵa kale zimenezi,” akukumbukira motero Veronika wazaka 37 zakubadwa. - Ndikuchitabe mantha kufunsa chinachake kachiwiri, kuoneka wopusa. Ndine wamanyazi kuti mwina sindikudziwa kanthu. ”
Panthawi imodzimodziyo, Veronica ali ndi maphunziro awiri apamwamba m'chikwama chake, tsopano akupeza chachitatu, amawerenga kwambiri ndipo akuphunzira chinachake nthawi zonse. Ndi chiyani chomwe chikumulepheretsa Veronica kudziwonetsa yekha kuti ndi wofunika? Yankho lake ndi kudzikayikira. Kodi timachipeza bwanji komanso chifukwa chiyani timachiyendetsa m'moyo, akatswiri a zamaganizo amati.
Kodi kudzidalira kumapangidwa bwanji?
Kudzidalira ndi momwe timadzionera tokha: omwe ndife ndani, zomwe tingathe ndi zomwe tingachite. “Kudzidalira kumakula muubwana pamene, mothandizidwa ndi achikulire, timaphunzira kudzimvetsa tokha, kudzizindikira kuti ndife ndani,” akufotokoza motero Anna Reznikova, katswiri wa zamaganizo wodziŵa bwino za chithandizo chanthaŵi yochepa. "Umu ndi momwe chithunzi chako chimapangidwira m'maganizo."
Koma popeza kuti makolo amakonda ana awo, n’chifukwa chiyani nthawi zambiri sitidziyamikira? "Muubwana, akuluakulu amakhala otsogolera athu padziko lapansi, ndipo kwa nthawi yoyamba timapeza lingaliro la chabwino ndi choipa kuchokera kwa iwo, komanso kupyolera mu kafukufuku: ngati munachita izi, ndi bwino, ngati mutatero. izo mosiyana, ndi zoipa! katswiri wa zamaganizo akupitiriza. "Zoyesererazo zimachita nthabwala zankhanza."
Uyu ndiye mdani wamkulu wa kubvomera kwathu, zochita zathu, mawonekedwe ... . Tikamaona kuti ndife ovomerezeka, sitiopa kuti zinthu sizingayende bwino.
Tikukula, koma kudzidalira sikuli
Chifukwa chake timakula, kukhala akulu ndi… kupitiriza kudziyang'ana tokha kudzera m'maso mwa ena. Olga Volodkina, dokotala wa gestalt, anafotokoza kuti: “Umu ndi mmene njira yodziwira mawu oyamba imagwirira ntchito. - Umu ndi momwe zikhulupiriro zochepetsera zimayambira, zomwe zimatchedwanso "wotsutsa wamkati".
Timakula ndipo mosazindikira timagwirizanitsa zochita zathu ndi momwe akuluakulu angachitire. Salinso pafupi, koma liwu likuwoneka ngati likutembenuka m'mutu mwanga, zomwe zimandikumbutsa izi nthawi zonse.
“Aliyense amati ndine wojambula zithunzi, koma kwa ine ndimaona kuti anzanga safuna kundikhumudwitsa,” akutero Nina wazaka 42. - Agogo aakazi ankangokhalira kung'ung'udza kuti ndikuwononga chimango, ndiye ndikumwetulira molakwika, kenako ndikuyima pamalo olakwika. Ndimayang'ana zithunzi zanga, kuyambira ndili mwana komanso tsopano, ndipo ndithudi, osati nkhope, koma mtundu wina wa grimace, ndimawoneka wachilendo, ngati nyama yodzaza! Mawu a agogo aakazi amaletsabe Nina wokongola kusangalala ndi kuima pamaso pa wojambula zithunzi.
Vitaly, wazaka 43, anati: “Nthawi zonse ndinkayerekezedwa ndi msuweni wanga. zinthu zambiri. Koma zimene ndinachita sizinaganizidwe. Makolo nthawi zonse ankafuna zina.”
Wotsutsa wamkati amadya zikumbukiro zoterozo. Chimakula ndi ife. Zimayambira paubwana, pamene achikulire amatichititsa manyazi, kutichititsa manyazi, kuyerekezera, kuimba mlandu, kusuliza. Kenako amalimbitsa udindo wake paunyamata. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wa VTsIOM, msungwana aliyense wa khumi wazaka 14-17 amadandaula za kusowa matamando ndi kuvomerezedwa ndi akuluakulu.
Konzani zolakwika zakale
Ngati chifukwa cha kusakhutira kwathu ndi ife eni ndi mmene akulu athu anatichitira muubwana, kodi tingathe kuchikonza tsopano? Kodi zingakhale zothandiza ngati ife, tsopano akuluakulu, tingasonyeze makolo athu zimene tapindula ndi kufuna kuzindikiridwa?
Igor wazaka 34 sanachite bwino: “M’makalasi ndi dokotala wochiritsa maganizo, ndinakumbukira kuti atate nthaŵi zonse ankanditcha chitsiru pamene ndinali mwana,” iye akutero, “ndinachita mantha kufikira pamene ndinafunikira kutero. thandizirani ndi homuweki. Ndinkaona kuti zikanakhala zosavuta ngati nditamuuza zonse. Koma zinasintha mwanjira ina: Ndinamva kuchokera kwa iye kuti mpaka pano ndakhalabe wolepheretsa. Ndipo zinafika poipa kuposa mmene ndimayembekezera.”
Palibe ntchito kudandaula kwa omwe, m'malingaliro athu, ali ndi mlandu chifukwa cha kusatetezeka kwathu. "Sitingathe kuzisintha," akutsindika Olga Volodkina. "Koma tili ndi mphamvu zosintha momwe timaonera zikhulupiriro zochepa. Takula ndipo, ngati tifuna, tingaphunzire kusiya kudziona ngati ofunika, kuwonjezera kufunika kwa zilakolako zathu ndi zosowa zathu, kukhala wochirikiza ife tokha, wachikulire amene maganizo ake ndi ofunika kwa ife.”
Kudzitsutsa nokha, kudzichepetsera nokha ndi mzati umodzi. Chosiyana ndi kudzitamandira popanda kuyang'ana zenizeni. Ntchito yathu sikuyenda monyanyira kupita ku imzake, koma kukhalabe okhazikika ndikulumikizana ndi zenizeni.