"Ndi zosakhalitsa": kodi ndi bwino kuyika ndalama mu chitonthozo, podziwa kuti sichikhalitsa?

Pamene anasamukira ku nyumba yobwereka, Marina anakwiya: pompopu inali kugwa, makatani anali "agogo", ndipo bedi linayima kotero kuti kuwala kwa m'mawa kunagwa mwachindunji pa pilo ndipo sanamulole kugona. “Koma izi ndi zakanthawi! - adatsutsa mawu akuti chilichonse chikhoza kukonzedwa. “Iyi si nyumba yanga, ndakhala pano kwakanthawi! Chigwirizano choyamba chobwereketsa chinapangidwa, monga momwe zimakhalira, nthawi yomweyo kwa chaka. Zaka khumi zapita. Iye amakhalabe m’nyumba imeneyo.

Pofunafuna bata, nthawi zambiri timaphonya nthawi zofunika zomwe zingasinthe moyo wathu kukhala wabwino masiku ano, kubweretsa chitonthozo chochulukirapo, chomwe pamapeto pake chingakhale ndi zotsatira zabwino pamalingaliro athu komanso, mwina, moyo wabwino.

Abuda amalankhula za kusakhazikika kwa moyo. Heraclitus amadziwika ndi mawu akuti zonse zimayenda, zonse zimasintha. Tikayang’ana m’mbuyo, aliyense wa ife angatsimikizire mfundo imeneyi. Koma kodi izi zikutanthauza kuti kwakanthawi sikoyenera kuyesetsa kwathu, sikoyenera kuyipanga kukhala yabwino, yabwino? N’cifukwa ciani kukhala ndi nthawi yaifupi ya moyo wathu n’kosafunika kuposa nthawi yaitali?

Zikuoneka kuti ambiri sanazoloŵere kudzisamalira pano ndi tsopano. Pakali pano, gulani zabwino kwambiri - osati zodula kwambiri, koma zosavuta kwambiri, osati zapamwamba kwambiri, koma zothandiza kwambiri, zoyenera kuti mutonthozedwe m'maganizo ndi thupi. Mwina ndife aulesi, ndipo timazibisa ndi zifukwa ndi malingaliro omveka okhudza kuwononga chuma kwakanthawi.

Koma kodi chitonthozo pa mphindi iliyonse n'chosafunika kwenikweni? Nthawi zina zimatengera njira zingapo zosavuta kukonza zinthu. Inde, n’zosamveka kuyika ndalama zambiri pokonzanso nyumba ya lendi. Koma kukonza faucet yomwe timagwiritsa ntchito tsiku lililonse ndikupangitsa kuti ikhale yabwino kwa ife.

"Musapite patali ndikungoganizira za nthano" pambuyo pake.

Gurgen Khachaturian, psychotherapist

Mbiri ya Marina, momwe ikufotokozedwera apa, ili ndi zigawo ziwiri zamaganizo zomwe zimakhala zodziwika kwambiri masiku ano. Choyamba ndi matenda oimitsidwa: "Tsopano tigwira ntchito mofulumira, kusunga galimoto, nyumba, ndipo pokhapokha tidzakhala, kuyenda, kudzitonthoza tokha."

Yachiwiri ndi yokhazikika komanso m'zinthu zambiri za Soviet, machitidwe omwe m'moyo wamakono, pano ndi tsopano, palibe malo otonthoza, koma pali chinachake monga kuzunzika, kuzunzidwa. Komanso kusafuna kuyikapo ndalama pakukhala bwino kwanu komanso malingaliro abwino chifukwa cha mantha amkati kuti mawa ndalamazi sizingakhalenso.

Choncho, ife tonse, ndithudi, tiyenera kukhala pano ndi pano, koma ndi kuyang'ana m'tsogolo. Simungathe kuyika zonse zomwe muli nazo paumoyo wapano, ndipo kulingalira bwino kumasonyeza kuti nkhokwe zamtsogolo ziyeneranso kusiyidwa. Kumbali ina, kupita patali ndi kuganiza za nthano zina "kenako", kuyiwala za nthawi ino, sikulinso koyenera. Komanso, palibe amene akudziwa mmene zinthu zidzakhalire m’tsogolo.

"Ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa ngati tidzipatsa ufulu wokhala ndi malowa kapena kukhala ndi moyo, kuyesa kusatenga malo ambiri"

Anastasia Gurneva, katswiri wa gestalt

Ngati uku kunali kukambirana kwamaganizo, ndingafotokoze mfundo zingapo.

1. Kodi zokometsera zapakhomo zikuyenda bwanji? Kodi amapangidwa kuti azisamalira nyumba kapena azisamalira okha? Ngati zili za inu nokha, ndiye kuti ndizoyenera, ndipo ngati zosintha za nyumbayo zimapangidwira, ndiye kuti ndizowona, chifukwa chiyani ndalama zamunthu wina.
2. Kodi malire apakati pa zakanthawi ndi ... chiyani, panjira? "Kwanthawizonse", Wamuyaya? Kodi zimenezi zimachitika? Kodi alipo amene ali ndi zitsimikizo? Zimachitika kuti nyumba yobwereka "imadzipeza" yake malinga ndi kuchuluka kwa zaka zomwe amakhala kumeneko. Ndipo ngati nyumbayo si yanu, koma, tinene, mnyamata, kodi ndi bwino kuikamo ndalama? Ndi kwakanthawi kapena ayi?
3. Kukula kwa chothandizira ku chitonthozo cha danga. Kuyeretsa mlungu uliwonse ndikovomerezeka, koma wallpapering si choncho? Kukulunga pampopi ndi nsalu ndi muyeso woyenera wosamalira chitonthozo, koma kuyitana plumber sichoncho? Kodi malirewa ali kuti?
4. Kodi kulolerana ndi kusapeza bwino kuli kuti? Zimadziwika kuti njira yosinthira imagwira ntchito: zinthu zomwe zimapweteka diso ndikuyambitsa chisokonezo kumayambiriro kwa moyo m'nyumba zimasiya kuonekera pakapita nthawi. Nthawi zambiri, iyi ndi njira yothandiza. Nchiyani chingamutsutse? Kubwezeretsanso kukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro anu, kuti mutonthozedwe ndi kukhumudwa kudzera muzochita zamaganizidwe.

Mukhoza kukumba mozama: kodi munthu amadzipatsa yekha ufulu wa danga ili kapena kukhala, kuyesera kuti asatenge malo ambiri, okhutira ndi zomwe ali nazo? Kodi amadzilola kuumirira kuti zinthu zisinthe, n'kusintha dziko lapansi mwakufuna kwake? Kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, nthawi ndi ndalama kuti malowa azikhala ngati kunyumba, kupanga chitonthozo ndi kusunga kugwirizana ndi malo okhala?

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Masiku ano, nyumba ya Marina ikuwoneka bwino, ndipo amakhala womasuka kumeneko. M’zaka khumi zimenezi, anali ndi mwamuna amene ankakonza mpope, n’kusankha makatani atsopano ndi kukonzanso mipando. Zinapezeka kuti zinali zotheka kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama zambiri pa izo. Koma tsopano amasangalala kukhala panyumba, ndipo zochitika zaposachedwapa zasonyeza kuti zimenezi zingakhale zofunika kwambiri.