Chitetezo m'chikondi: Malangizo 7 kwa ana aakazi

Makolo abwino amafunira ana awo zabwino. Ndipo mtsikana akamakula m’banja, ntchito yawo ndi kumukonzekeretsa kaamba ka ubwenzi woyamba, wa chikondi choyamba. Komanso - ku maphunziro ake otsatira, omwe aliyense wa ife ayenera kudutsamo.

Tsogolo lathu lofanana limadalira ngati titha kulera atsikana amphamvu, odzidalira, okondwa komanso odzilemekeza omwe amatha kukhala ndi maubwenzi abwino, akutero mphunzitsi wa moyo komanso katswiri pakugwira ntchito ndi amayi ndi mabanja Samin Razzaghi.

Tsoka ilo, m'dziko lamakono, nkhanza kwa atsikana ndi amayi zikupitirirabe, zonse zakuthupi ndi zamaganizo. Atsikana ndi omwe ali pachiwopsezo kwambiri, ndipo zili kwa akulu kuwathandiza kupewa maubwenzi osayenera ndikuphunzira kupanga zisankho zoyenera pa moyo wawo. N’zoona kuti amuna nawonso amavutika ndi nkhanza komanso kuzunzidwa, koma pamenepa tikukamba za amayi.

Malinga ndi RBC, kuyambira Januware mpaka Seputembara 2019, milandu yopitilira 15 yokhudza maubale ndi mabanja idachitidwa kwa azimayi ku Russia, ndipo mu 2018, milandu 21 ya nkhanza zapakhomo idalembedwa. Ku United States, pafupifupi akazi atatu amamwalira tsiku lililonse ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wawo wakale. Ziwerengero za mayiko ena sizocheperapo, ngati sizowopsa.

"Mosiyana ndi nthano zodziwika bwino, nkhanza zapakhomo zimachitika m'mabanja omwe amalandira ndalama zosiyanasiyana komanso mayiko osiyanasiyana," akufotokoza motero Samin Razzagi.

Akafika msinkhu wina, atsikana amadutsa m'nyengo yomwe maubwenzi ndi anzawo komanso anthu omwe angakhale nawo okwatirana amakhala ofunika kwambiri. Ndipo achikulire angawathandize kuphunzira momwe angapangire maubwenzi abwino panthaŵi yofunikayi.

Samin Razzaghi amapereka "malangizo mu chikondi" asanu ndi awiri omwe angakhale othandiza kwa mtsikana aliyense.

1. Khulupirirani mwachidziwitso chanu

Kwa mkazi, chidziwitso ndi chida champhamvu chopangira zisankho, choncho mtsikana ayenera kuphunzira kudzidalira. Ndi njira yofunikira yodziwira, koma mu chikhalidwe chathu cha "mwamuna", komwe malingaliro ndi mfundo zimayamikiridwa, ife tokha timaphwanya mgwirizano wa ana athu aakazi ndi mphatsoyi. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amauzidwa kuti zimene akuganiza kuti n’zabwino n’zopanda nzeru kapena n’zosamveka.

Pachibwenzi, chidziwitso chingathandize atsikana kupeŵa chikakamizo chogonana ndi anzawo, kupereka lingaliro loyenera la bwenzi, ndi kuzindikira malire awo. Makolo angaphunzitse mwana wawo wamkazi kudalira kampasi yake yamkati mwa kufunsa kuti, “Kodi nzeru zako zimati chiyani?” kapena “chikhumbo chanu choyamba chinali chiyani pamenepa?”

2. Ganizirani mozama

Atsikana ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti lingaliro lawo laubwenzi wabwino limatengera mbiri yawo - nyimbo, mabuku, malo ochezera a pa Intaneti, kutsatsa. Kutengera chitsanzo kapena mafunso monga “Kodi kukhala mtsikana kumatanthauza chiyani pa chikhalidwe chathu?”, “Kodi kukhala pachibwenzi kuzikhala bwanji?”, “Kodi munadziwa bwanji zimenezi?” ndi zina.

Kukhala ndi kuganiza mozama, malinga ndi kunena kwa Samin Razzaghi, ndiko kudzifunsa kuti: “Kodi ndimaona kuti n’zoona? Chifukwa chiyani ndimakhulupirira izi? Ndi zoona? Chavuta ndi chiyani pano?"

3. Kumvetsetsa kusiyana pakati pa kutengeka maganizo ndi chikondi

M'dziko la malo ochezera a pa Intaneti ndi mafoni a m'manja, izi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Kucheza ndi amithenga ndikuwona zolemba za anthu ena kumapanga malingaliro abodza kuti timamudziwadi winawake. Komabe, mawonekedwe a anthu pa malo ochezera a pa Intaneti samagwirizana nthawi zonse ndi omwe ali kwenikweni.

Atsikana ayenera kuphunzitsidwa kuti pang'onopang'ono adziwe munthu. Ayenera kudziwa kuti pamafunika nthawi komanso khama kuti apange maubwenzi. Nthawi zina zoyamba zimakhala zolondola mwachidwi. Pa nthawi yomweyi, pamasiku, anthu amayesa kusonyeza mbali yawo yabwino, kotero palibe chifukwa chothamangira kuyandikira.

“Anthu ali ngati anyezi,” analemba motero wolembayo, “kuti muphunzire makhalidwe ndi makhalidwe ake, muyenera kuwasenda mosanjikiza ndi wosanjikiza.” Ndipo zingakhale bwino kuchita popanda misozi ...

4. Zindikirani kuti nsanje si chizindikiro cha chikondi.

Nsanje ndiyo kulamulira, osati chikondi. Izi ndizomwe zimayambitsa chiwawa mu maubwenzi a achinyamata. M’maukwati athanzi, okwatirana sayenera kulamulirana.

Nsanje imayendera limodzi ndi kaduka. Kumverera kumeneku kumachokera pa mantha kapena kusowa kwa chinachake. Atsikana sayenera kupikisana ndi wina aliyense koma iwo okha.

5. Osapikisana ndi akazi ena

Simuyenera kudana ndi ena inu eni, anthu pawokha komanso magulu athunthu, ndipo muyenera kuphunzira kunyalanyaza anthu otere. Ntchito yonse ya amayi ndikuphunzitsa amuna momwe angawachitire moyenera.

Kungoti mnyamata akubera sizitanthauza kuti mtsikana winayo ndi wabwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti ali ndi vuto la kukhulupirika ndi kuona mtima. Kuphatikiza apo, amatha kuchitira bwenzi lake latsopanolo mofanana ndi wakale, chifukwa watsopanoyo salinso "wapadera" kuposa woyambayo.

6. Mvetserani zosowa zanu

Mphatso ina imene akazi ali nayo ndiyo kumvera ena chisoni ndi kusonyeza chifundo, luso lothandiza ena. Khalidwe limeneli n’lofunika, koma ngati mtsikana nthaŵi zonse ataya zosoŵa zake, posapita nthaŵi mkwiyo ukhoza kuwunjikana mwa iye, kapena angadwale.

Makolo ayenera kuphunzitsa mwana wawo wamkazi kuti njira yokhayo yoperekera zinthu kwa ena ndi yozikidwa pa kuzindikira zosoŵa zawo ndi kutha kulankhula nazo kwa mnzawo, kuvomereza kukana kwake nthaŵi zina.

7. Ikani chikondi chanu patsogolo

Chifukwa cha mmene analeredwera, atsikana ambiri amagogomezera maubwenzi kuposa anyamata. Imeneyi ingakhale mphatso yamtengo wapatali, koma nthaŵi zina imadzetsa kudziwononga tokha. Atsikana nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa kwambiri ndi zomwe amaganiza. Akakula angade nkhawa ngati mwamuna wina amawakonda asanazindikire kuti amamukonda. Iwo amathandiza ena podziwonongera okha.

Makolo abwino amaphunzitsa mwana wawo wamkazi kudzikonda. Kumatanthauza kuika zofuna zanu ndi moyo wanu patsogolo, kumanga ubale wabwino ndi inu nokha-kusintha, kukula, kukhwima. Ili ndilo phunziro lofunika kwambiri kuti mtsikana apeze maubwenzi amphamvu ndi odalirika m'tsogolomu, kumene kuli malo achikondi ndi ulemu.

Kukhala kholo la mtsikana wachinyamata nthawi zina kumakhala ntchito yovuta. Koma mwina chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe amayi ndi abambo angachite ndikuphunzitsa ana awo aakazi momwe angapangire maubwenzi abwinobwino kuti chikondi chawo choyamba chikhale chotetezeka komanso chathanzi.

Za katswiri: Samin Razzagi ndi mphunzitsi wa moyo, katswiri wogwira ntchito ndi amayi ndi mabanja.