Kutha, kutha kwa ntchito. Choipa kwambiri: imfa ya wokondedwa. Zinthu zambiri zomwe zimakulowetsani m'malingaliro ozama a chiwonongeko, chisoni chomwe chimaoneka kuti palibe chomwe chingathetse. Ndipo komabe: nthawi ili kumbali yanu. Pamafunika nthawi kulira. Izi zimadutsa m'zigawo zingapo, zomwe katswiri wa zamaganizo Elisabeth Kübler-Ross anafotokoza mu 1969, mwa odwala omwe anali pafupi kufa. Ndiye, pang'onopang'ono, mtundu wina wa kupirira udzalembetsa mwa inu, kukulolani kuti mupite patsogolo, kulawa, kachiwiri, kuti mupite patsogolo. "Mphepo yamkuntho ya moyo" : mwachidule, kubwereranso. 

Kugwedezeka kwa kusweka, kapena, choipitsitsa, imfa ya wokondedwa, poyamba imayambitsa ziwalo: ululu umakuzungulirani, umakhala ngati torpor. Mukupwetekedwa ndi kutaya kosaneneka, kosaneneka. Mukumva kuwawa koopsa.

Tonsefe timavutika m’moyo. Kusudzulana kungatenge nthawi yaitali kuti kuchiritse, wokondedwayo amakumbukira maganizo anu kwa nthawi yaitali. Zabwino kwambiri nthawi zambiri ndikuphwanya kulumikizana konse, kufufuta mauthenga onse, kuthetsa ubale wonse. Mwachidule, kuchotsa zotsatira zakale. Kubwereranso, kutsegula mwayi wokumananso kwatsopano, chikondi chatsopano, chozama kwambiri!

Kutayika kwa ntchito kumabweretsanso vuto lalikulu: kumvetsera mwachifundo kwa anzanu kapena anzanu kungakuthandizeni pamene mwangotaya kumene ntchito. Kusinthana uku kukuthandizani kuti mudutse zomwe zidachitikazo ndipo zitha kukutsogolerani kuti muwone zabwino zomwe zabwera chifukwa chakutayaku: kuthekera, mwachitsanzo, kuyamba ulendo watsopano waukatswiri, kapena kuyambiranso ntchito yomwe mudakhala nayo. nthawi zonse ndimalakalaka.

Koma zachisoni kwambiri, zachiwawa kwambiri, kudzimva wopanda kanthu, mwachiwonekere ndi zomwe zimachitika pa imfa ya wokondedwa: kumeneko, monga momwe katswiri wa zamaganizo Elisabeth Kübler-Ross akulembera, “Dziko lapansi likuzizira”.

Atagwira ntchito kwambiri ndi odwala kumapeto kwa moyo wawo, Elisabeth Kübler-Ross anafotokoza. “Njira zisanu zakulira”. Sikuti aliyense amadutsa magawo asanuwa, komanso satsata dongosolo lomwelo. Zida zimenezi zimathandiza kuzindikira malingaliro ake, kuwatsimikizira: siziri zochitika zazikulu zomwe zimalongosola ndondomeko ya nthawi ya maliro. “Chisoni chilichonse chimakhala chapadera, chifukwa moyo uliwonse ndi wapadera”, akukumbukira motero katswiri wa zamaganizo. Kumanga pa magawo asanu awa, kukhala nawo “Kudziwa bwino mmene maliro amakhalira”, tidzakhala okonzeka kulimbana ndi moyo ... ndi imfa.

• Kukana : nzofanana ndi kusakhulupirira, kukana kukhulupirira kuti kutaika kulidi.
• Mkwiyo : imatha kukhala yosiyana siyana, ndipo ndiyofunika kwambiri pakuchira. “Uyenera kuvomereza, ngakhale zitakhala ngati sizikufuna kukhazika mtima pansi”, akulemba motero Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Ndipo kotero, pamene mukumva kukwiya kwambiri, mofulumira kumatha, ndipo mwamsanga mudzachira. Mkwiyo umapangitsanso kukhala kotheka kuponya chophimba paunyinji wamalingaliro: izi zidzawonetsedwa nthawi yake.
• Kukambirana: kukambirana kungakhale mtundu wa mgwirizano kwakanthawi. Pa nthawi yachisoni imeneyi, munthuyo amakonda kuyenderanso zakale m’malo movutika panopa. Chifukwa chake amalingalira mitundu yonse yamitundu yosiyanasiyana, “Ndipo ngati…”, amaganiza mobwereza bwereza. Izi zimamupangitsa kudziimba mlandu posachita zinthu zina. Posintha zakale, malingaliro amapanga zongopeka zenizeni. Koma luntha nthawi zonse limatha kutsimikizira zenizeni zomvetsa chisoni.
• The Depression: pambuyo pa zokambiranazo, nkhaniyo mwadzidzidzi imabwereranso panopa. “Kudzimva kukhala opanda pake kumatiukira ndipo chisoni chimatigwira, champhamvu kwambiri, chowononga kwambiri kuposa chilichonse chimene tikanaganizira”, akutero Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Nthawi yachisoniyi ikuwoneka yopanda chiyembekezo: komabe, simasainira matenda amisala. Kuti muthandize munthu amene akukumana ndi chisoni choterechi pambuyo pa kulekana kapena imfa, nthaŵi zambiri ndi bwino kudziŵa kumvetsera mwatcheru, kwinaku mukukhala chete.
• Kulandira: Mosiyana ndi zimene anthu ambiri amakhulupirira, kuvomereza sikutanthauza kulimbana ndi kutha kwa wokondedwa, kupatukana, kapena kutayikiridwa. Choncho palibe amene angaiwale imfa ya wokondedwa wake. “Ichi ndicho kuvomereza kuti munthu amene timamukonda wapita, ndi kuvomereza kuti mkhalidwe umenewu udzakhala wamuyaya”, akutero Elisabeth Kübler-Ross. Dziko lathu latembenuzidwa mpaka kalekale, tiyenera kuzolowerana nalo. Moyo umapitirira: ndi nthawi yoti tichiritse, tiyenera kuphunzira kukhala ndi moyo, popanda kukhalapo kwa wokondedwa pambali pathu, kapena popanda ntchito yomwe tataya. Yakwana nthawi yoti tibwerere!

Kulira, kutayika, ndizovuta zamaganizo. Kuti mubwerere, muyenera kudziwa momwe mungakhazikitsire malingaliro anu. Ndi mayeso ovuta kuvomereza zinthu momwe zilili. Mukuvutikabe ndi kutha kapena kutayika. Muli, mukadali, mu gawo lamalingaliro lomwe simunadziwe ...

Zotani ndiye? Khalani ndi ntchito zomwe zimakupatsani chitonthozo. Monga kucheza ndi abwenzi, kujowina gulu lothandizira ... "Ganizirani zomwe zimakupangitsani kuti mupumule ndikuchita izi popanda kudziweruza nokha: pitani ku mafilimu ndikuthawira ku mafilimu, akutero Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, kumvetsera nyimbo, kusintha malo, kupita ulendo, kuyenda m'chilengedwe, kapena kungochita chilichonse ”.

Kusalinganika kwachitika m'moyo wanu: zidzakhala choncho kwakanthawi. Inde, zidzatenga nthawi. Koma m’kupita kwa nthaŵi mudzapeza chiŵerengero chatsopano. Katswiri wazamisala Boris Cyrulnik amachitcha kulimba mtima: kuthekera uku kukhala ndi moyo, kukulitsa, kuthana ndi zoopsa zowopsa, zovuta. Kupirira ndiko, malinga ndi iye, "Kasupe wapamtima pamaso pa zovuta zakukhalapo".

Ndipo kwa Boris Cyrulnik, “Kulimba mtima sikumangokhalira kukaniza, kumaphunziranso kukhala ndi moyo”. Wodziwa bwino za zovuta za moyo, wafilosofi Emil Cioran anatsimikizira kuti“munthu sakhala wabwinobwino popanda chilango”. Kuwonongeka kulikonse, bala lililonse la moyo wathu, kumayambitsa kusintha kwa ife. Pomaliza, ovulazidwa m'moyo amakula, mwanjira yapamtima, “Nzeru yatsopano ya kukhalapo”.