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Khalani bwino ndi kufuna kuchita bwino zinthu
Kodi zonse zomwe mumachita ziyenera kuchitidwa mwangwiro? Kodi mumakhala ndi zolinga zomwe nthawi zambiri zimakhala zazikulu, kapena zomwe simungathe kuzikwaniritsa? Mosakayikira mikhalidwe imeneyi imasonyeza mtima wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro. N’zotheka kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi ndi khalidwe limeneli. Kutengera monyanyira, komabe, kumatha kukhala kopanda thanzi ndikuvulaza kwambiri moyo wabwino komanso anthu omwe ali pafupi ndi anthu ena.
Frédéric Langlois, pulofesa wa Dipatimenti ya Psychology pa yunivesite ya Quebec ku Trois-Rivières (UQTR) akufotokoza kuti: “Zizindikirozi n’zosiyana kwambiri ndi munthu wina.
Makhalidwe amenewa amatha kuonekera m’mbali zosiyanasiyana, monga kuntchito, paubwenzi ndi anthu ena, ngakhalenso pa ntchito za tsiku ndi tsiku. "Perfectionism imakhala yopanda thanzi pamene munthu sangathe kusintha machitidwe omwe amadzipangira okha malinga ndi nthawi yake kapena magawo ena a moyo wake", akutero wofufuzayo.
Kufuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro kumakhala kosayenera1 :
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Kuchokera ku 2005 mpaka 2007, Frédéric Langlois ndi gulu lake adapereka mafunso kwa odwala omwe amapita ku chipatala cha nkhawa ndi matenda a maganizo. Malinga ndi zotsatira za kafukufuku wawo1, ophunzira omwe adawonetsa zizindikiro zopitirira malire anali pachiopsezo chachikulu chokhala ndi matenda a maganizo monga kuvutika maganizo, nkhawa yodziwika bwino kapena kukakamizidwa.
"Munthu wofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa chilichonse amamva kusakhutira kosatha komanso kupanikizika kosalekeza komwe amadziika yekha. Ngati kuwonjezerapo munthu uyu akuyenera kuthana ndi kupsinjika kwakukulu, zomwe zimatengera mphamvu zake zonse. Zimakhala pachiwopsezo kwambiri ndipo zotsatira zake zimatha kukhala zovulaza kwambiri, "akutsindika Frédéric Langlois.
Zothetsera?
Kodi munthu wofuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro angachoke bwanji m'gulu loipa la kuchita zinthu mwangwiro mopambanitsa? Zolinga zake zikakwera, m'pamenenso sizitheka kuzikwaniritsa. Mkhalidwewu umakhala wonyozeka kwambiri ndipo munthuyo amabwezera podzifunira zambiri. Koma n’zotheka kupezanso ulemu wanu.
Frédéric Langlois anati: “Cholinga chake n’chakuti tisinthe makhalidwe ang’onoang’ono nthawi imodzi. Nthawi zambiri anthu ofuna kuchita zinthu mosalakwitsa chilichonse amaiwala cholinga cha zimene akuchita. Lingaliro ndiloti musangalale ndi zomwe mumachita, kumasula malamulo anu kuti awapangitse kukhala owona ndikusiya kupambana. “
Koposa zonse, musazengereze kufunsa. Thandizo lamaganizo lingathandize kusintha maganizo ndi kukhazikitsa zolinga zomwe zingatheke.
Njira zokhala ndi moyo wabwinoko ndi kufuna kuchita zinthu mwangwiro1
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Emmanuelle Bergeron - PasseportSanté.net
Kusinthidwa: Ogasiti 2014
1. Kuchokera m'nyuzipepala Pa malingaliro anu, magazini ya yunivesite ya Quebec ku Trois-Rivières.