Zamkatimu
Moni okondedwa owerenga! Pazifukwa zina, chikhalidwe chathu chimakonda kujambula kusungulumwa m'mawu olakwika. Anthu omwe ali opanda maubwenzi ndi ukwati amaonedwa kuti ndi osasangalala ndi ochepa.
Anthu ozungulira iwo amayesa mwamsanga kupeza okwatirana kuti "akhazikike" ndi "kupuma" - munthuyo adatha "kulumikiza" ndipo tsopano akukhala monga momwe amayembekezera.
Ngakhale zimachitika kuti m'malo mwake, amasilira, makamaka ndi omwe sangathe kulimbana ndi moyo watsiku ndi tsiku ndi maudindo ena a banja.
Choncho, lero tiona ubwino ndi kuipa kwa kusungulumwa. Pofuna kuti musaweruze zochitikazo kumbali imodzi, kukhulupirira kuti "udzu ndi wobiriwira kuseri kwa mpanda", koma kuyang'ana kwenikweni zomwe zingatheke ndi zolephera, popanda zongopeka ndi zongopeka.
ubwino
maholide
Mayendedwe a moyo wa munthu wamakono ndi wothamanga kwambiri moti nthawi zina sazindikira momwe masiku amadumphira. Zomwe, kwenikweni, zimapanga moyo uno. Ndipo mukatha kuyimitsa, pamakhala vuto latsopano - kulephera kupuma.
Chifukwa pali maudindo ena m'banja, mnzanuyo amafuna chisamaliro, ndipo ndi banal - samamvetsa momwe zimakhalira kufuna kudzipatula kwa nthawi yochepa. Izi zimasokoneza ndipo zimayambitsa maganizo osakhazikika kuti chikondi chadutsa, kuti chinachake chachitika ndipo ubale tsopano uli pachiwopsezo.
Koma ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mukhale ndi mphamvu, muchire, ganizirani zomwe nthawi zambiri mulibe nthawi yokwanira, komwe mukufuna kupitilira, ndikudzidziwa nokha.
Osati anthu aufulu ayenera kupanga, ndikupita, mwachitsanzo, kumapiri, kukapha nsomba. Ena, osazindikira kufunikira kwawo kukhala payekha, amatha kudwala, komanso, ndi matenda omwe amafunikira kupuma kwathunthu kapena kuthamangitsa ena.
Kudzikulitsa
Kuchuluka kwa nthawi yaulere kumakupatsani mwayi wochita nawo maphunziro anu. Mutha kuphunzira Chingerezi kapena Chijapani. Kapena khalani nawo pamaphunziro kuti muthane ndi zolephera zanu zilizonse.
Tiyeni tivomereze, kuzindikira mantha omwe nthawi zambiri «adachedwetsa» ndipo sanalole kupita patsogolo, kuti azindikire zolinga zawo. Kuphunzira zolankhula komanso, kwenikweni, kulankhula momasuka pagulu popanda kugwa mu mpira wosawoneka.
Ufulu ndi mwayi chabe wodzisamalira. Ndipo ngati pa nthawi ino ya moyo ikupezeka kwa inu, onetsetsani kuti mukuigwiritsa ntchito. Osachepera werengani mabuku kuti mudzitukule. Ndipotu kudziwa zinthu kumathandiza kuti moyo ukhale wabwino komanso wosangalala.
kukhazikitsa
Nthawi zambiri azimayi amawopa matendawa. Choncho, sikuti nthawi zonse amazindikira mfundo yakuti "anathawa" zochitika, mavuto a moyo ndi zinthu zina, kuvomereza kukwatira amene adayitana. Kuganiza kuti tsopano zonse ziyenda bwino ndipo chimwemwe chidzabwera.
Koma, monga mukumvetsetsa, kwenikweni zonyenga izi zimakhalabe zabodza. Koma eni ake panthawiyi ya banja akhoza kutaya mwayi wambiri. Mwachitsanzo, kukana kuchuluka kwa ntchito kuti muthe kupikisana nawo pabizinesi.
Chifukwa chake, ngati simunakumane ndi munthu yemwe mukufuna kuti agone, komanso kudzuka, zindikirani zokhumba zanu. Moyenera, ndithudi, pamene ukwati suli chopinga kukula kwa ntchito. Koma, mwatsoka, si onse amene ali ndi mwayi.
zokonda
Anthu ena ndi «olemetsedwa» m'moyo watsiku ndi tsiku, ntchito, kuti satha kugawa nthawi, chuma, ndipo nthawi zambiri ndalama zochitira zinthu zomwe zimabweretsa chisangalalo. Bajeti ya banja ikakonzedwa ndipo osaphatikizanso kuwononga ndalama pazokonda, ndiye chomwe chatsala ndikudikirira mpaka, pomaliza, kudzakhala kotheka kukwaniritsa maloto.
Mwachitsanzo, amuna amaonedwa kuti ndi osamalira banja, makamaka ngati mkazi ali patchuthi choyembekezera. M`pofunika kuonetsetsa tsogolo la mwanayo, si nthawi zonse ndalama pa kuphunzitsa yachting ndi zina zotero.
Kwa iwo amene angakwanitse kupeza ndalama zolipirira ndalama zilizonse, sikungakhale kwabwino kwenikweni kusiya okondedwa awo panthaŵi yoteroyo chifukwa cha zilakolako ndi zosangalatsa zoterozo. Anthu amene sali olemedwa ndi udindo wochitira ubwino wa banja amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo yopuma mwakufuna kwawo. Palibe zifukwa, palibe mlandu, etc.
kukhazikika kwamalingaliro
Ngati munthu asankha mwanzeru kukhala mbeta kwa nthawi inayake, amatha kuona zabwino zambiri m'derali. Chofunika kwambiri ndi mtendere wamumtima.
Othandizana nawo ndi osiyana ndipo zimachitika mosiyana ndi iwo. Winawake amafuna kulamulira, wina amapanga zonyoza chifukwa cha nsanje ndi ziyembekezo zopanda chilungamo. Kapena choyipa kwambiri, amagwiritsira ntchito chiwawa kwa wokondedwa, woledzera ndi mowa kapena mankhwala, njuga, ndi zina zotero.
Mavuto ndi mikangano, yomwe ili yosapeŵeka mu ubale uliwonse, imayambitsa maganizo osasangalatsa, nthawi zina amafuna kuyesayesa kwamphamvu ndi kuchuluka kwa zinthu.
Ndipo kuwonekera kwa zovuta zilizonse, zomwe sizingatheke kupirira, zimatha kuyambitsa kutopa komanso kukhumudwa. Izi zimawononga thanzi, kuyambitsa choyamba matenda aakulu m'thupi, komanso kusakhazikika maganizo.
kuipa
Zotsatira zoyipa zaumoyo
Ngati kusungulumwa kunakakamizika, ndiye kukhala moyo sikophweka mokwanira. Kusiyidwa yekha ndi mantha, zowawa, mkwiyo, mkwiyo ndi kukhumudwa, munthuyo adzayenera kuchita ntchito yochuluka pa iye yekha. Kuwona zokhumba zanu ndikupeza kukhutitsidwa ndi kukhazikitsidwa kwawo.
Kwenikweni, amayesa kulimbana ndi malingaliro ameneŵa mwa kumwa mowa ndi chikonga. Kuyesera kuthawa kwa iwo, osati kuzindikira.
Kuphatikiza apo, kulephera kugawana zakukhosi kwanu ndi munthu wina wapamtima kumayambitsanso kupsinjika kwamphamvu kwa thupi. Zomverera ndi mphamvu zomwe ziyenera kuyendayenda nthawi zonse kuti zitsimikizire ntchito yofunika ya machitidwe onse. Ndipo ngati simuwapatsa potulutsa, mphamvu izi zimawunjikana m'thupi. Kuwononga pang'onopang'ono, kupanga minofu clamps ndi zina zotero.
Kugonana kosakhazikika kumakhudzanso thanzi. Inde, ndipo kusintha mabwenzi, nthawi zina osadziwika bwino, ndi chiopsezo chotenga matenda opatsirana pogonana.
Kudziyang'anira pansi
Ngati ife kubwerera stereotypes anapanga anthu, ndiye kukhala ndi moyo mnzathu kumatanthauza kuchitika, anazindikira. Amene anapezeka wosungulumwa akuyang'ana zifukwa mwa iyemwini. Kudzidalira kwake kwatsika. Iye sanasankhidwe, amalephera kukumana ndi munthu wokondweretsa kuti amange maubwenzi apamtima, odalirika.
Pali malingaliro osayenera, osagwirizana. Amasanthula mikhalidwe yake, zochita zake ndi kuyang’ana amene ali ndi udindo wa zimene sizikumuyendera.
Ndipo kubwezeretsa kudzidalira - muyenera kuyesetsa kwambiri. Ndikhulupirireni, iyi si ntchito yophweka.
ufulu
Ngati munthu ali yekha kwa nthawi yayitali, amazolowera kuthana ndi zovuta ndi ntchito zosiyanasiyana. Amalinganiza moyo wake m’njira yomuyenerera, osasintha ku zokonda za ena.
Ndipo ingozolowerani ufuluwu. Ufulu wosamalira ndalama momwe mukufunira, tchuthi ndi Loweruka ndi Lamlungu, komanso thanzi lanu, pambuyo pake.
Ndipo pamene wokondedwa akuwonekera, zimakhala kuti wayiwala momwe angakhalire ndi munthu. Kudziyimira pawokha kumakhala kofunikira kwambiri kotero kuti chifukwa chake ndizotheka kupereka kufunikira kwa bata, kuthekera kogawana malingaliro, ndi zina zotero. Pokhapokha mkangano wamkati umadzipangitsanso kumva.
kutchinjiriza
Kukhala mumkhalidwe wa kusungulumwa kotheratu kumadzipatula kwa anthu ena. Ndiko kuti, munthuyo amachoka kwa ena, amakhala wodzipatula, kapena amakhala wotanganidwa kwambiri komanso wotanganidwa. Zomwe zimawopseza ngakhale omwe anali ndi chidwi poyamba.
Pang'onopang'ono, kunyozeka kungachitike, ndiko kuti, kutaya luso ndi chidziwitso chomwe anali nacho poyamba. Pachifukwa ichi, uku ndikutha kulankhulana, kuchita bwino pakati pa anthu, kumanga maubwenzi, kusonkhana kapena kukondana.
Monga mukumvetsetsa, sikutheka kukhala motere kwa nthawi yayitali, mofatsa, kusangalala tsiku lililonse. Chifukwa chake, mwatsoka, anthu ambiri omwe adadzipha ndi omwe adawona kuti sakufunika ndi aliyense, osamvetsetseka komanso osasangalatsa.
akamaliza
Pomaliza, ndikufuna kutsindika kuti kusungulumwa ndi mkhalidwe wanthawi yochepa. Pokhapokha ngati munthu wapita kosatha m’nkhalango yowirira kwambiri kuti akakhale yekha ndi chilengedwe. Kumene kuli kosatheka mwakuthupi kupeza osachepera wina wolowa nawo kapena bwenzi.
Koma ngati mwadzidzidzi munazindikira kuti muli ndi minuses zambiri kuchokera ku dziko lino, nthawi ya moyo, kuposa pluses. Ndikupangira kuti muwerenge nkhaniyi.
Dzisamalireni nokha ndikukhala osangalala!
Nkhaniyi inakonzedwa ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, Gestalt Therapist, Zhuravina Alina