Zamkatimu
Lerolino kuli mwambo kulankhula za ubwino wake wa thanzi, ponse paŵiri m’thupi ndi m’maganizo. Katswiri wofufuza za kugonana akufotokoza pamene kuseweretsa maliseche kungakhale koopsa komanso zoyenera kuchita.
Kuseweretsa maliseche: chizolowezi komanso chizolowezi
Kuseweretsa maliseche kungakhale njira yabwino yochepetsera kukangana kapena kuthana ndi njala yogonana popanda bwenzi. Kwa ambiri aife, ndi gawo lachilengedwe la moyo komanso kugonana kwabwino. Koma zimachitika kuti chilakolako chofuna kudzikhutiritsa chimadutsa malire a kulingalira.
Pazifukwa izi, "kugonana kotetezeka" kumatha kusokoneza bongo ndikukhala ndi zotsatira zowopsa komanso zowononga monga, mwachitsanzo, kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena kuledzera.
Kukonda kuseweretsa maliseche kuposa maubwenzi apamtima ndi okondedwa, timadzipeza tokha. Kuonjezera apo, nthawi zina timasiya kulamulira zofuna zathu m'malo opezeka anthu ambiri.
Kodi chizolowezi chimenechi chimachokera kuti?
Mwana akachitiridwa nkhanza kapena kuchitiridwa nkhanza, amasowa mpata wosonyeza kukwiya, kukhumudwa, kapena chisoni. Kuonjezera apo, pangakhale chiletso chapoyera kapena chosaneneka m’banja kuti adandaule ndi kufotokoza zokumana nazo zawo. Powopa mikangano yowonekera, mwanayo akhoza kuika zosowa za omwe amamuchitira nkhanza kapena achibale omwe sali bwino patsogolo pa zofuna zawo.
Malingaliro oyipa aubwanawa samachoka, koma amayambitsa kusapeza bwino kwamkati komwe kumayenera kuthetsedwa, ndipo popanda mwayi wopeza psychotherapist kapena kuthandizidwa ndi okondedwa, mwana amatha kukhala ndi chizolowezi chokonda kumwerekera.
Kuseweretsa maliseche ndi imodzi mwa njira zomwe zingapezeke kuti muchepetse kuvutika: kuti mukhazikike, mumangofunika thupi lanu. Tinganene kuti awa ndi “mankhwala” apadera amene ndalama sizingagule. Tsoka, kwa ambiri omwerekera ndi kugonana, kuseweretsa maliseche kumakhala "mlingo" wawo woyamba.
Nkhawa, mantha, nsanje ndi malingaliro ena oyambirira angayambitse nthawi yomweyo kufunikira kodzisangalatsa. Woledzera alibe nthawi yolumikizana pakati pa kupsinjika ndi kuyankha kwawo.
Zoyenera kuchita ngati kudziseweretsa maliseche kukukhala kofunika kwambiri?
Ndikulangizani poyamba kuti mudziwe njira zosiyanasiyana zodzitonthoza: kusinkhasinkha, kuyenda, kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi, kupuma, yoga. Izi zikuthandizani kuti moyo wanu wakugonana ukhale wabwinobwino.
Za wolemba: Alexandra Katehakis ndi wofufuza za kugonana, wotsogolera wa Healthy Sex Center ku Los Angeles, komanso wolemba Erotic Intelligence: Momwe Mungayambitsire Chikhumbo Champhamvu, Chathanzi ndi Kuthetsa Chizoloŵezi Chogonana.