Nthawi zambiri timagwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "odzikonda" ndi tanthauzo loipa. Timauzidwa kuti “muiwale za ego yanu”, kutanthauza kuti tikuchita zolakwika. Kodi kudzikonda kumatanthauzanji ndipo n’koipa kwambiri?
Kodi tikuchita chiyani kwenikweni padziko lapansi pano? Timagwira ntchito tsiku lonse. Timagona usiku. Ambiri aife timachita ndandanda yofanana tsiku lililonse. Timakhala osasangalala. Tikufuna ndalama zambiri. Timalakalaka, timada nkhawa, timada ndipo takhumudwitsidwa.
Timasirira ena, koma sitikutsimikiza kuti izi ndi zokwanira kuti tisinthe tokha. Ndi iko komwe, tonsefe timafunafuna chikondi ndi chivomerezo cha ena, koma ambiri samachipeza chirichonse. Ndiye kodi poyambira ndi chiyani kwenikweni, magwero a ntchito zonsezi zimene tonse timazitcha moyo?
Mukaganizira mawu oti "ego", amatanthauza chiyani kwa inu? Ndili mwana komanso wachinyamata, nthawi zonse ndimamva mawu ngati "Iwalani za kudzikonda kwanu" kapena "Iye ndi wodzikonda." Awa anali mawu omwe ndimayembekezera kuti palibe amene anganene kwa ine kapena za ine.
Ndinayesera kupeza njira yomwe ingandithandize kukana kuti inenso nthawi ndi nthawi ndimangoganizira za malingaliro anga ndi zokhumba zanga, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo ndimamvabe komanso ndimachita zinthu molimba mtima. Kupatula apo, chinthu chokhacho chomwe ana ambiri amafuna ndikulowa bwino mu timu ndipo nthawi yomweyo osazindikirika. Osaima.
Nthawi zambiri sitikhala odzidalira mokwanira kuti tiyimire malingaliro athu. Mwanjira imeneyi timapeza njira yogwirizana ndi ena. Timapewa omwe ali osiyana, ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo timayesetsa kukhala omasuka, osasamala komanso osasonyeza zilakolako zathu poyera, chifukwa choopa kuonedwa ngati odzikonda.
Kunena zoona, mawu akuti "ego" amangotanthauza "ine" kapena "Ine" wa munthu aliyense wodziimira payekha.
Chofunika ndi zimene timadziwira tokha. Sitiyenera kudzizindikira tokha, komanso zochita ndi zochita zathu kwa ena. Popanda kuzindikira izi, sitingathe kupeza ndikuzindikira cholinga chathu chenicheni padziko lapansi.
Nthawi zonse timayesetsa "kuyenerera" kuti pambuyo pake tipitirizebe kuopa zilakolako zathu ndikuchita ndi kunena zomwe tikuyembekezera kwa ife. Timakhulupirira kuti ndife otetezeka.
Komabe, ndi zonsezi, sitingathe kulota, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti, pamapeto pake, sitingathe kukula, kukula ndi kuphunzira. Ngati simukudziwa bwino umunthu wanu, mudzapitirizabe kupyola moyo, mukukhulupirira kuti maganizo anu onse, zikhulupiriro, okondedwa anu, maubwenzi ndi abwenzi ndizosawerengeka ndipo zonse zomwe zimachitika nthawi zonse zimakhala zopanda mphamvu.
Mudzapitiriza kumva ngati moyo ndi tsiku limodzi lalikulu, lotopetsa kutsatira kuchokera m'mbuyomu. Kodi mungadziwe bwanji kuti zokhumba zanu ndi maloto anu zimatha kutheka pomwe mulibe chikhulupiriro mu mphamvu zanu komanso chikhumbo chofuna kuzikulitsa?
Munthu wamba amakhala ndi malingaliro pafupifupi 75 patsiku. Ambiri a iwo, komabe, samazindikiridwa, makamaka chifukwa chakuti sitiwalabadira. Timapitirizabe kusamvera umunthu wathu wamkati kapena, ngati mungatero, «ego» ndipo, motero, timatha kunyalanyaza zomwe malingaliro athu osadziwika ndi zilakolako zachinsinsi zimatiuza kuti tiyesetse.
Komabe, nthawi zonse timaona mmene tikumvera. Zili choncho chifukwa ganizo lililonse limatulutsa maganizo, omwe amakhudza mmene timamvera. Nthawi zambiri, tikakhala ndi malingaliro osangalatsa, timamva bwino - ndipo izi zimatithandiza kukhala osangalala.
Pamene maganizo oipa ali mkati, timakhala achisoni. Mikhalidwe yathu yoipa ndiyo imayambitsa maganizo athu oipa. Koma muli ndi mwayi! Mutha kuwongolera momwe mumamvera mukazindikira za "Ine", "ego" yanu, ndikuphunzira kuwongolera kapena kuwongolera malingaliro anu.
Anu «Ine» si zoipa kapena zolakwika. Ndi inu basi. Ndimunthu wanu wamkati yemwe ali pano kuti akuthandizeni kuyendetsa bwino cholinga chanu m'moyo. Komanso kukutsogolerani, kukuphunzitsani zisankho zabwino ndi zolakwika, ndikukuthandizani kuzindikira kuthekera kwanu kwakukulu.
Munthu aliyense ali ndi ufulu kulota, ndikulota zapadziko lonse lapansi, pafupifupi zosaneneka
Ndi "ego" yomwe ingakuthandizeni panjira yopita ku cholinga kuti musavutike ndi malingaliro anu oyipa. Nthawi ina mukadzakhumudwa, dzifunseni chifukwa chake. Yesetsani kutsata ganizo lililonse ndikupeza zifukwa zomwe limanyamula zinthu zoipa. Kuwonera nthawi zonse zomwe mukufuna m'moyo posachedwa kungakupangitseni kudzikhulupirira nokha ndikuti mutha kuzikwaniritsa.
Pewani ngozi. Lolani kuti mufune zambiri! Osamangotengera zolinga zazing'ono ndi maloto omwe mukuganiza kuti simungathe kuwakwaniritsa. Musaganize kuti moyo wanu uli ngati tsiku limodzi lobwerezabwereza. Anthu amabadwa ndi kufa. Anthu amabwera m'moyo wanu tsiku lina ndikukhala lotsatira.
Mwayi uli pamwamba pa mutu wanu. Chifukwa chake musachiike pansi kuti muwone kuti ngakhale maloto anu owopsa atha kukwaniritsidwa. Sitinabwere padziko lapansi kuti tichite zinthu zosakhutira kapena zokhumudwitsa. Tili pano kuti tipeze nzeru ndi chikondi, kuti tikule ndi kutetezana.
Kuzindikira wanu «Ine» mu cholinga chachikulu ichi kale theka la nkhondo.
Za wolemba: Nicola Mar ndi wolemba, wolemba mabulogu, komanso wolemba nkhani.