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Malangizo 5 oti musiye kuwotcha
Kutopa kwambiri, kaya ndi akatswiri, makolo (kapena onse awiri), kumadetsa nkhawa anthu ambiri. M’dziko lolamulidwa ndi changu ndi ntchito, amayi ndiwo oyamba kukhudzidwa ndi choipa chosaoneka ndi chachinyengo chimenechi. Kuitanidwa kuti apambane m'ntchito zawo ndi moyo wawo waumwini, kukhala akazi angwiro ndi amayi achikondi, iwo akukumana ndi chitsenderezo chachikulu tsiku ndi tsiku. Malinga ndi kafukufuku wopangidwa ndi bungwe "", mu 2014, 63% ya amayi ogwira ntchito akuti "atopa". Anthu 79 pa 21 aliwonse akuti asiya kale kudzisamalira pafupipafupi chifukwa chosowa nthawi. Magazini yotchedwa Elle inati m’kufufuza kwakukulu kwa “Akazi M’Sosaite” kuti kugwirizanitsa moyo wantchito ndi waumwini kunali “vuto latsiku ndi tsiku koma lotheka” kwa mkazi mmodzi mwa aŵiri. Pofuna kupewa kutopa kwanthawi zonse komwe kwatiyandikira, Marlène Schiappa ndi Cédric Bruguière agwiritsa ntchito njira yatsopano kwa masiku XNUMX *. Pa nthawiyi, wolemba amatipatsa upangiri kuti tipezenso mphamvu zathu zonse.
1. Ndimayesa kutopa kwanga
Mukangodzifunsa funso (kodi ndatopa?), Muyenera kudandaula ndikuchita zonse zomwe mungathe kuti mubwererenso pamwamba. Kodi mumadziwa ? Gawo lomwe latsala pang'ono kupsa ndi kupsa. Panthawi imeneyi, mukupitiriza kudzitopetsa chifukwa mumamva ngati muli ndi mphamvu zambiri. Ndi kunyenga, kwenikweni, inu pang'onopang'ono kudya nokha. Kuti mupewe kutopa, zizindikiro zina ziyenera kukuchenjezani: Nthawi zonse mumakhala m'mphepete. Mukadzuka, mumamva kutopa kwambiri kuposa dzulo. Nthawi zambiri mumalephera kukumbukira pang'ono. Mumagona moipa. Muli ndi zilakolako kapena m'malo mwake mulibe chilakolako. Nthawi zambiri mumabwereza mobwerezabwereza: “Sindingathenso kupirira”, “Ndatopa”… Ngati mumadzizindikira nokha muzinthu zingapo izi, inde, ndi nthawi yoti muchitepo kanthu. Koma uthenga wabwino ndi wakuti, muli ndi makadi onse m’manja mwanu.
2. Ndimasiya kukhala wangwiro
Tikhoza kutopa chifukwa chakuti timagona pang’ono, kapena chifukwa chakuti talemedwa ndi ntchito. Koma on itha kukhalanso yolemetsa chifukwa tikufuna kukhala angwiro m'mbali zonse. “Sizimene timachita zimene zimatitopetsa, ndi mmene timachitira ndi mmene timazionera,” akutero Marlène Schiappa. Mwachidule, ndi inu amene mumadzitopetsa nokha kapena amene mumalola kuti mutope nokha. Pofuna kuti tituluke mumkhalidwe wotsikiraku, timayamba ndi kutsitsa miyezo yathu. Palibe chinthu chotopetsa kwambiri kuposa kuthamangitsa zolinga zomwe sizingatheke. Mwachitsanzo: kupita kumsonkhano wofunikira nthawi ya 16:30 pm ndikukhala ku creche nthawi ya 17:45 pm kukatenga mwana wanu, kutenga tsiku la RTT kupita kusukulu m'mawa ndikukonza phwando la tiyi ndi anzanu akusukulu. madzulo, onse akudziwa bwino lomwe kuti muyenera kuyang'ana maimelo anu tsiku lonse (chifukwa simudziwa zomwe zingachitike muofesi). Pantchito iliyonse, ndikofunikira kuyamba ndikuwunika momwe zinthu ziliri, komanso zida zomwe zilipo.
3. Ndimasiya kudziimba mlandu
Ukakhala amayi, umadziimba mlandu chifukwa cha inde kapena ayi. Mwapereka mlandu mochedwa. Mwaika mwana wanu wamkazi kusukulu ndi malungo. Ana anu akhala akudya pasitala madzulo awiri chifukwa munalibe nthawi yogula. Kulakwa ndi mbali yamdima ya iceberg ya umayi. Mwachiwonekere, zonse zikuyenda bwino: mumayendetsa banja lanu laling'ono ndi ntchito yanu ndi dzanja lamanja. Koma zoona zake n’zakuti nthawi zonse mumaona ngati simukuchita bwino, simungakwanitse ntchitoyo, ndipo kumverera kumeneku kukukudetsani nkhawa mwamakhalidwe komanso mwakuthupi. Kuti muthane bwino ndi mlandu waukuluwu, ntchito yeniyeni yowunikira ndiyofunikira. Cholinga? Lekani kukwezera nkhongono ndi kudzichitira chifundo.
4. Ndimagawa
Kuti mupeze ndalama m'nyumba, tsatirani lamulo la "CQFAR" (amene ali wolondola). “Njira imeneyi imachokera pa mfundo yakuti tilibe ufulu wodzudzula chinthu chimene sitinachite,” akufotokoza motero Marlène Schiappa. Chitsanzo: Amuna anu anaveka mwana wanuyo zovala zimene mumadana nazo. Anapatsa wamng'ono mphika pang'ono pamene furiji yanu ili ndi masamba atsopano omwe akungoyembekezera kuphikidwa ndi kusakaniza. Muzochitika izi za moyo watsiku ndi tsiku zomwe timazidziwa bwino kwambiri, kunyalanyaza zotsutsa kumapangitsa kuti tipewe mikangano yambiri yopanda ntchito. Kugaŵira ena ntchito mwachiwonekere kumagwiranso ntchito m’moyo waukatswiri. Koma chovuta ndikupeza anthu oyenera ndikudzimva kuti ndi wokonzeka kusiya.
5. Ndikuphunzira kunena AYI
Kuti tisakhumudwitse otizungulira, nthawi zambiri timakonda kuvomereza chilichonse. "Inde, ndingafikidwe kumapeto kwa sabata ino", "Inde, ndikhoza kukubwezerani ulaliki uwu usiku uno", "Inde, nditha kupita kukapeza Maxime mu judo. ” Kulephera kukana zomwe mukufuna kukupatsani kumakuikani m'malo osasangalatsa ndipo imathandizira kukutopetsani pang'ono kuposa momwe muliri kale. Komabe, muli ndi mphamvu yosintha zinthu. Mutha kukhazikitsa zotchinga ndikukhazikitsa malire anu. Kukana ntchito yatsopano sikungakupangitseni kukhala wosakhoza. Monga momwe kukana ulendo wa kusukulu sikungasinthe kukhala mayi wosayenerera. Kuti muone ngati mungakwanitse kukana, dzifunseni mafunso otsatirawa: “N’chifukwa chiyani ukuopa kukana? “” Ndani amene simungayerekeze kukana? “” Kodi munakonzapo zokana, kenako n’kunena kuti inde? “. "Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mudziwe zomwe zili pachiwopsezo pamene mukunena kuti 'inde' kapena 'ayi', akuumiriza Marlène Schiappa. Ndi pambuyo pokha pamene mungaphunzire kuyankha modekha motsutsa. Chinyengo: yambani pang'onopang'ono ndi mawu otseguka omwe samakutengerani nthawi yomweyo, monga "Ndiyenera kuyang'ana zomwe ndapanga" kapena "ndiziganizira".
* "Ndimasiya kudzitopetsa", ndi Marlène Schiappa ndi Cédric Bruguière, lofalitsidwa ndi Eyrolles